he is too old for me ?

Question

my bf is 47 and i am 31, do you think he is too old for me ?
and also i want to have kids and he wants no more. what do you think ? i love him.

Answer 1

I don't think your age difference is a big deal but the kid issue is something else. Don't bring a child into this world knowing that he is not wanted. Even if he is wanted by you. It's not fair to the child and this will not keep him around. You should find a man who has the same wishes and dreams as you. You have no future with this man.

Answer 2

First of all your "TOO old" to be talking about a boyfriend! I know alot of kids post these kinds of questions but you are way toooo old to be asking such a question. Your grammar sucks too so try maybe focusing on getting better with it. As for the kids well, your 31 not 21 if you want kids keep in mind that your at the age where Down syndrome will start to be an issue.

Answer 3

He's not too old for you, except he doesn't want kids. If you force the issue, it's unfair to him. He's 47. What's he going to do with a 10 year old when he's 57? Heck what if you don;t have kids for 3 years? He's 60 with a 10-year-old? What kin of sense does that make. Either go without kids and stay with him or leave him to find womeone who wants kids. Don;t stay with him and then turn up pregnant. He may learn to love the kids, but it's unfair for you to take that gamble.

Answer 4

Thats tough. My mother married my step father when he was 24. She was 35 with 2 kids. It wasnt a major problem until recently. My mother is at the age of looking to retire (55) in a few years and ready to settle down. My sister and I are grown and have own own lives. My step father is now 44 and wants children. He is also very involved in his career and doesnt have a lot of time to spend with my mother. Both, of these things are causing issues in their relationship. The age situation isnt a big deal when youre both on the same page, but its when things begin to change when its becomes trouble.

Answer 5

At his age, I don't blame him for not wanting any kids. By the time the kid is in college, he'll be ready for retirement. He is at a point where he is thinking about things other than kids.

If this is a major stumbling point for your relationship, then there is a good possibility that he may just be too old for you.

Answer 6

love him as a friend and move on
when you are 47 he will be 63
you might love him but i don't think he is the one for you certainly not to give you kids you deserve a family and your not to old to have one
as much as it may hurt leave him and move on

Answer 7

He is not too old for you, but the kids thing is a deal breaker. Don't pass on having kids, even if you have to choose someone else.

Answer 8

First of all, age is just a number. I've met some very mature 20 yo's and some very immature 40's, so that doesnt matter. What matters is you want kids and he doesnt. that will cause MAJOR problems.

Answer 9

when you get past a certain age it really doesnt matter between th edifference and you guys really arent that far apart. but about the kids sitiuation i think that if you wnt kids and hes not willing to negotiat not even adoption then if you are love it shldnt matter but if not l;ook for someone who has the same interests as you

Answer 10

if he doesn't want to have kids, and you do, well there's a big problem there. Whether you know the reason to why or why not he doesn't want to have kids, it probably won't change the reason why you want to have children. That is a big decision to make that could affect your relationship for better or worse.