Here's the deal: my wife and I have sex drives that are polar opposite to one another - I'm wanting it all the time and she's never the mood or has some kind of excuse for not wanting to do it. I'm starting to get a little desperate, but want to stay true to our marriage and my vows.
So, would it be right of me to possibly use some roofies or chloroform or something similar, since this is nearing the point of being an emergency? Help!!!
2007-10-02 09:19:46 · 24 answers · asked by Brandon's been a dirty Hore 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, leave the drugs out of it and start talking to her about it. I have to tell you though, when a guy nags about sex, it's a HUGE turn off. How is your approach? Do you whine all the time how she doesn't put out? Do you all have kids and is she doing all the work with the kids and the house? If so, that's a huge turn off (seriously a guy who can cook and scrub a toilet is hot). Have you asked her why she's not into it? Have you recently gained 100 lbs in the abdomen? I guess what I'm saying is you have to be more specific in how you and she have handled things before I can give you a better answer.
2007-10-02 09:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by CC 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her honestly and tell her what is going on. The thing is that you want a lot of sex, she wants barely no sex, and a relationship should be about compromising. Find a middle. Maybe not as often as you would like but she should agree to find time and desire for at least once a week or so. Thus, neither of you will get what you want but neither of you will be treated unfairly. Tell her that a marriage is about compromising and finding that middle. If she still doesn't listen to you, tell her that this is breaking your marriage and you both need to see a marriage counselor. Maybe she will believe a counselor, if he/she tells her what important place love life takes in each relationship. She is naive to believe otherwise.
It's funny how many women complain about men ended up cheating. Did they ever think that there was something wrong in their relationship at first place? There are guys out there who would cheat anywhere and anytime, and there are guys out there who go after other women because of constant rejection that they receive from their wives. And who is there to blame?
2007-10-02 16:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by terliuke 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave the drugs out of the equation. She will be VERY furious with you if you do that and it could cause more problems in your marriage then the lack of sex is.
I respect the fact that you are wanting to stay true to your vows but druging your wife is NOT the way to go about it. Try talking to her first, hell if she drinks fix her a few drinks to get her to loosen up a little.
2007-10-02 16:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by *~*love always*~* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you seriously considering drugging your wife for sex? Its never that serious man... really.
Women do this all the time, sometimes in spite, sometimes its hormonal. You need to talk to her and explain how you feel. Just becareful of the language you use, if you say to her, "I wanna stay true to our marriage and my vows" she will think you're threatening to cheat if she doesnt give it up. See whats bugging her? It might be that she doesnt enjoy what you're doing, so dreads sex. If you try to talk to her, to see if its you, or work, or stress, or anything then you can figure this all out. Women sometimes withdraw when something is missing, or not right, or when hurt, or confused... not all but some. Its difficult, but worth it because you love her, to figure this out.
2007-10-02 16:35:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you because I feel your pain! My husband is a bump on a log when it comes to our sex life... I get so sexually frustrated I have to cry! I love him so much and would never cheat but just last night I was thinking about having sex with someone who WANTED to have sex with me! I think alot of it is hormones... see if she would be willing to talk to her doctor about her sex drive, if she isn't interested then I would surprise her by doing all the house work/laundry/find a baby sitter/have a nice meal prepared on the table with some nice music and offer to give her a full body massage and just make sure to kiss her in all the right spots and you should for sure get it at LEAST that night! :) Or maybe not... I've given up on trying to get some lol!!!
2007-10-02 17:15:12 · answer #5 · answered by i gET bORED eNTATAIN mEH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about REALLY talking with her about what might be the problem? Seriously! Has it always been this way? if not, what changed?
There are other ways to develop intimacy without sex and maybe start there...
Go the drug route and you may end up getting more sex than you want... and not from your wife but from the other inmates!
2007-10-02 16:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look, regardless of what anyone in this world thinks, its just simple logic that part of a healthy marriage is having, at least, a "decent" sex life. You need to talk to her, and let her know about your situation and how you feel about it. She needs to fulfill your needs, Split ways with you or let you find it else where if she isnt providing it enough for you.
2007-10-02 16:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Roho390 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slipping your wife drugs is not the answer and it could be considered rape.
Talk with her about how it is making you feel.. make her dinner or do something special to her to show her that you still care. women need to know that they are loved and not wanted only for sex.
2007-10-02 16:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously Brandon (and you know I'm never serious) it might be her birth control (if she takes any). I had the same problem with my husband, but the minute I changed what I was taking, my drive was back in spades. Hormones can do that to a woman. Either that, or a red cape with leather speedos and a helmet will do the trick.
2007-10-02 16:27:29 · answer #9 · answered by Starjumper the R&S Cow 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Usually you can just get her drunk, then have your way with her. If you can slip her some of these other things without her noticing, great. Chloroform is a bit drastic as it will take a short while for it to take effect and she may experience a drowning sensation before she conks out. This is all fine, but she may be pissed when she wakes up.
2007-10-02 16:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋