Marriage & Divorce - 30 September 2007

We frequently enjoy their company for 3 hours at dinner (their home, ours or at a restaurant.) We think that "familiarity breeds contempt." and that after too much togetherness we'd get fed up with eachother. We want to keep their friendship so we don't want to accept their invitation.

How do we refuse without offending them?

Should we tell them the truth about our too much togetherness philosophy, or make up an excuse?

If you answer "excuse," What kind of excuse would be good?

2007-09-30 08:18:28 · 21 answers · asked by greenwillowtrie 3

to make my X come and get his kids for HIS weekend? He hasn't seen them since early July...lately I have been working 2 jobs, scouts, school and everything else I would like to have a weekend for myself but he refuses to come see them. He lives 4 hours away so its not likely I can just take them over there and leave them on his doorstep.

Any suggestions?

2007-09-30 08:15:56 · 5 answers · asked by ♥STREAKER♥©℗† 7

I've been married now for 2 years. Fot the past year things have really gone down hill in a hurry. It all started when my wife got a total hysterectomy, she hasn't been the same since. Yes she takes replacement hormones but nothing seems too help her moodiness and insensetiveness. Its like she doesn't give a dam about me or anything else. and too be honest I'm sick and tired of it. if u know what i mean! Things that get on my nerves range fron not bathing too leaving things lying around on the floor for weeks. yes we have talked about all this many times! i dont even think she loves me anymore as I have too pull those words out of her. Please ladies give me some advise!! thanks

2007-09-30 08:14:37 · 18 answers · asked by country boy 1

2007-09-30 08:07:48 · 25 answers · asked by misty p 1

2007-09-30 08:07:18 · 7 answers · asked by nasreen 1

If somebody steals or attempts to steal your spouse or close one away from you, what should you do if this spouse or gf will not listen to you after fighting for her, and goes with the other person who is trying to steal her away from you? Should you seek revenge, or just let go and let karma do it's job?

2007-09-30 08:06:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

A friend of mine came to stay with me the other day because she ended her relationship with her live in bf after she found a girl's phone number in his wallet. when she asked him about it, he denied it and when she laid down the proof, he got mad at her for snooping and she decided to leave him because of his lying. he keeps calling her and coming by my home trying to win her back. its my understanding that he hasnt done anything with that girl, and my friend believs him as well but the lying is what is ticking her off. anyways, my other lady friend (seeing how he begged and apologized) told her to give this man another chance, but to just watch out for herself by starting to do the same thing as he was doing (going out with other men and stuff). i say that is trouble waiting to happen, and i suggested that she either take him back and let him prove his loyality to her, or just end it if she cant seem to trust him any longer. what would you do, and would be ur suggestion to her?

2007-09-30 07:57:54 · 18 answers · asked by mama2be 3

I was watching this couple on TV who have been married for 25 years - they were dating for 4 years before they were married. They were giving a younger couple advice about it and some of things they said touched me:

- the husband said in order to love someone, you have to love yourself and you have to LOVE and accept the partner's "negative/weak" qualities FIRST before loving the "positive/strengths" so then you will love the person more. He said girls will be moody sometimes and he learned to love and accept it and vice versa

- Always stay positive, never give up on yourself and on your partner - DON'T LISTEN TO WHAT OTHERS HAVE TO SAY ABOUT YOU TWO "who cares?" - even when there are problems, (financially, situational, etc...) always stay strong and say, "it's okay, everything's going to be okay.."
- THINGS change, PEOPLE change but when the two of you can grow as individuals (do your own thing) but still be there for each other, it's a good thing (CAN SOMEONE ADD ON MORE TO THIS, I'd love to learn more)

WHAT DO YOU THINK? TRUE? CAN YOU GUYS ADD MORE? I APPRECIATE ALL THE WISDOM :)

2007-09-30 07:48:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My bf and I had been together for 11 years and were engaged.... We broke up a few weeks ago.... We were having a lot of problems.... He was the one that wanted the break-up more so than me.... I have done a lot of thinking and don't want to lose him.... I want to be w/ him for thr rest of my life.... I feel our problems/issues can be worked through and we could really be happy again.... When we first broke up he was really leaning toward making things work and getting back together.... We spoke today and he really feels like it is over now.... He wants his freedom and has been going out and having fun.... I have been doing the same but I believe will wear off quickly and the love we have is so real.... BTW I am 26 and he's 28.... So it's natural to feel that way as we're young.... Will he get bored when the excitement of partying wears off and come back.... ? He says he feels like a caged bird who needs to fly..... Please help guide me.... I want him back so badly.... !

2007-09-30 07:48:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My man left at 8pm last night to "go for a drink" but he'd be "right back". It is now 1:45pm the next day here and he comes waltzing in with the nerve to ask me for money so he could go out to watch football. He said I can't take away his time and his football. Seems to me being out from 8pm last night and all night and now this afternoon is enough time away when you have a family with kids!? I told him no money and then he was like screw you and walked out again. What is going on?

2007-09-30 07:47:29 · 13 answers · asked by Samantha 3

My husband and I have 2 or 3 days off a month 2gether. I just really want to spend time with him.On Friday, we did a couple of things and he gave me my birthday gift. He got me an expensive purse. It was nice but I prefer 2 pay our bills before spending like that. I have told him that the best part of his gifts are the cards,as I can read what he is unable to say.Saturday was my actual birthday and I had to work. His job asked him to come in for a bit and he agreed.He said he would be back by 12. I told him I was looking forward 2 spending at least 30 min 2gether on my birthday.He didn't come home until I had left for work.He then went to his buddy's house and played video games for 9 hrs. He text me 1 time to say sorry for going in to work.This really hurt me.He was 2 busy playing games to go get a card.He said I was an ungrateful B*****. He mentioned burning my purse and a divorce.He always threatens that when he's mad. I feel like I am not a priority. His stuff added 2 my bad day

2007-09-30 07:42:56 · 15 answers · asked by Lily 2

My hubby is constantly 5-6 days a week going out after work for hours and hours. This Friday night he was out until 3:00AM then went out last night and never came home yet. I am still waiting for him! The best part he took my car and I am stuck at home because he has the only keys to his car also! He is not interested in sex anymore. He never eats at home anymore. I make meals and wait and wait and they just get thrown out. We have a young child who I take care of all the time. I am lonely and tired of things. He is almost 40 years old and acting like a college kid! All of the guys he hangs with are divorced or single..what does that say too? Do all men do this?

2007-09-30 07:40:03 · 26 answers · asked by Samantha 3

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2007-09-30 07:39:42 · 13 answers · asked by ÌÆÍò´º 1

I don't like my husband looking at internet porn on his own. Please bear with me. I am not a prude, in fact far from it. We are swingers and enjoy doing this occasionally with other couples or single males or females. We belong to a swingers site (with members photos)and I have no objection to him looking at this site when he's alone. We also have a good and frequent sex life when we are alone. We are both 50 by the way. My previous husband was totally wrapped up in porn and I think this is where my dislike/phobia/fear or whatever it is lies, but I can't get over it. I can't dismiss it. I have offered to look at it with him but so far he has not taken me up on it. We had a big upset earlier in the year and he promised he would not do it again. I fear he is as often when I have been out for a long while the history on pc is deleted, and its not at any other time. If he IS looking at it again, then I feel so defeated because he is lying and deceiving me. What would you do if you were me?

2007-09-30 07:36:23 · 8 answers · asked by Caroline 5

Ok I am 22 yo female, Me and my wife got married Aug 1st of this year.... She know's alot about my past, I was raped by my cousin, it started at a really young age.. She knows this. But there are somethings that I am not telling her about it. And I feel like I need too.... Should I? I do love her, and I want too be able too open up too her all the way!!!! Yes I know being raped is not my fault, but it makes me feel so bad everytime I try to talk about it.... I am just worried that she is going to feel diff towards me after I tell her everything!!!!!! HELP PLZ!!!!!!

2007-09-30 07:30:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and myself our both widowers, we just got married and now we are having a hard time getting along. He never says no to his kids and they disrespect him all the time, when I get tired of it I let him know and he then gets very mad at me and says very mean things to me and tells me it is no big deal about the way they talk to him, and that he trust them and it is okay for them to run around all night (15yrs old) and hang out with anyone anytime they want. If I keep my mouth shut and stay to myself then the only unhappy person is me. But sometimes I have to say wait a minute this is not right and all hell breaks loose. I have not spoken to my husband in three days, he does not seem to want to fix the problem or go to counseling. I put everything into this marriage to make it work, he thinks everything is fine and I need to keep it to myself

2007-09-30 07:29:36 · 11 answers · asked by catrat 1

I dated this guy for three years, he's married. He's only been married three years. I got a divorce over him because he said he would do the same thing. Obviously he has not. We broke up on Friday and now he has a myspace account stating he is single. He's already looking for some one new. I should I tell his wife? I really would love to make him hurt like he hurt me. I also want a classy style revenge, if there is that type of thing!!!

2007-09-30 07:26:24 · 35 answers · asked by Nadie0822 2

My husband of 7 years is no longer the same affectionate love magnet that he was when we were dating. I have tried role play, pornos, spontaneism! I am still very interested in my husband and I tell and show him that a lot. I have discussed it several times that I am in need, and that I am yearning for his affection and would enjoy having a more active sex life. He has recently told me that he was not motivated however, he love me so he is trying. He also stated that I need him for everything and sometimes he thinks I put too many eggs in one basket and feels I should socialize and talk with another confidante. My husband to me is a hypocrite because he says he wants to work on it and is not a quiter and that I am the quiter and that our relationship is not just about sex! He also stated he enjoys sex, "Oh I love sex he says"! So then why aren't we having it more often. Why most I force sex upon him which sometimes works out and sometimes he doesn't last for more than 10 minutes!

2007-09-30 07:22:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was talking to a lady the other day, and we were talking about marriage (not me and her, but just in general).
She said; "if you want to know how good a wife is, look at her husband, if he is happy and smiling then you know she is a good wife." She said it also works both ways.
The guy who she is married to seems extremly happy all the time and says she is fantastic in all aspects of their relationship.
What do you think?

2007-09-30 07:19:33 · 21 answers · asked by ? 5

have you ever threatened to hit or kick a guy in the balls? what exactly did you say to him? what did you end up doing to him?

2007-09-30 07:11:15 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've been separated now for more than 8 months and I can't get her out of my mind. I really want to move on, date someone, do different things but I just can't let her go...
I just can't make up my mind and understand that she has changed so much, is that normal?

2007-09-30 07:05:35 · 10 answers · asked by ruebezahl2001 3

After 10 years of marriage and I can really really trust my wife I will tell her. Ladies would you be mad? I dont want to be in the poor house if things dont work out.

2007-09-30 06:57:05 · 23 answers · asked by bigpumpdaddy 4

My husband's mom decided she will pay for life insurance for my husband and I to help out my husbands brother, starting to sell life insurance. The problem is when it came out to filling out all the paper work my husband put his brother down as the person to receive the money, I came in second? His answer to why he did that he said "I know my brother will take care of you" I ofcourse got mad because I can take care of myself, I will be the one making arrangements for his funeral and all if something where to happen(knock on wood it doesnt happen).
I will be the one stuck with all the bills, and how about if the brother doesnt care. He is a low life now what makes my husband think he will take care of me? When I talk to him he says no, im leaving it that way, theres nothing to talk about.

2007-09-30 06:49:32 · 11 answers · asked by tinkerbell 1

im feeling that my marrage is at an all time low. my wife of 18 years has slept in the spare room, we went on holiday to a 4star hotel we had sex twice in 14 nights, every morning i made the point that i had an erection. she did`nt seem interested. we have been home for 6 weeks and no matter what i say or do is confrontatational. is it time to call it a day

2007-09-30 06:44:46 · 21 answers · asked by Dave P 3

If there a girl of 17, and a man of 45, can they wait a year and
marry when she is 18?

2007-09-30 06:17:39 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-30 06:15:10 · 13 answers · asked by goodness 3

Does anyone think this type of treatment could cause psychological damage to the woman involved? What would cause a man to not want to have sex with his wife? I was in my thirties then. I was still young and pretty.

2007-09-30 05:44:27 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 41 divorced ......single for the last 3 years so I'm ready to get back into a serious relationship. I was wondering how does one handle dating in the 40+ adult world. Are we suppose to hold sex at our age? is there such a thing as giving it out too fast? What do men in their 40's expect when dating?

2007-09-30 05:34:09 · 24 answers · asked by Jane Marple 7

I have recently separated from my husband and thought we were agreed but since he found out I have been seeing someone else he has taken away all of my freedom by not looking after his son any more. All I can do is work because I have a child minder. I have no family either so there is nobody to give me a break. Am I being selfish to want to go out or even just have some time to myself????

2007-09-30 05:33:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

leave me, I'd like to know whether the ladies don't care the size or..?

2007-09-30 05:23:51 · 28 answers · asked by King_Sexy 1