We've been separated now for more than 8 months and I can't get her out of my mind. I really want to move on, date someone, do different things but I just can't let her go...
I just can't make up my mind and understand that she has changed so much, is that normal?
2007-09-30 07:05:35 · 10 answers · asked by ruebezahl2001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is perfectly understandable to have a tough time moving on especially if you have been with this person for a long time and they had become a part of your daily routine. It may be hard to remember what you ever did with yourself before she came along. Try to remember what those things were and pick them up again, or try doing something completely different and out of the ordinary. Also consider that maybe you are still in love with the IDEA of her, instead of actually being in love with her. Remember that you are your own person as opposed to being part of a unit. This might make you feel whole again.
2007-09-30 07:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by misspoo4 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are completely normal. For some people it takes 8 days, for some it takes 8 years to move on. Eventually, you will be ready for the next step, and the next relationship in your life. The pain is a normal part of the letting go process.
2007-09-30 07:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you try and date, the next person is only going to be a rebound. Take the time to work on yourself. Try new hobbies, reconnect with old friends, take a road trip some where, get out there and discover things you think you might enjoy. A relationship is the last thing you should seek right now because you won't be able to show the next person the full you! You're still carrying baggage and open wounds. Let them heal first.
2007-09-30 07:21:16 · answer #3 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's normal when you are in love.. However at the same time.. It is something that has to be done. you MUST MOVE ON and carry on with your life.
Don't miss out on your rainbows and sunshine, Time heals all wounds and although you may love her forever.. In time it won't hurt so much. Good Luck
2007-09-30 07:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by NikkiNTexas 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is very normal. You didn't mention who's decision it was to seperate?
Good thoughts to you.
Remember that you seperated for a reason and that usually the best thing to do is move on, find things to do to occupy your mind...
2007-09-30 07:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you think the world of her that's why you can't move on and i suspect she has damaged your self esteem. it's normal and hopefully it will go away. don't fall for ppl who will say they move on instantly because only in sex based relationships that you think the other person is an idiot you can instantly move on. it's hard and whoever has fallen in love knows that.
2007-09-30 07:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by sarah kay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. Without knowing the circumstance I firmly believe forgiveness heals. Whether it be forgiving someone else or yourself.
2007-09-30 07:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
people change and so does there life, you would either have to change to match there life or move on to someone else. it going to suck and be hard but thats life
2007-09-30 07:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by Nessaja 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to move on.. because it hurts you to know that she is moving on.. but my advice to you is , don't date anyone till you are ready, cuz you wouldn't want anyone else to get hurt in the process.. best of luck..
2007-09-30 07:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by wenwen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is normal...feel the same way ...so i cant help much
2007-09-30 07:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by nasreen 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋