Marriage & Divorce - 24 August 2007

Met my ex 15 years ago when she was married to first husband (8 months when divorced to hook up with me-she made the first move). Was 35 she 24. We married moving back and forth from Indiana to Florida several times. Me IN she FL. I should have realized she growing up with mother 4 times divorced would be screwed up. I'm not without blame. On the ouside she apperared so normal. Along the way substance abuse and backruptcy came along. I'm back in Indiana trying to regain what ever I lost. she was dating online weeks into our seperation. Know has custaty of our 3 children 13,11 and 3. Se asked me to leave, I went back to Indiana to save myself to get better to be there for my children. I pray my kids will survive this mess.

2007-08-24 13:35:13 · 7 answers · asked by Steven K 2

I can't pay for all 3 of them...and frankly, am mad that he did this. Should I still pay for him? I hope he does not expect me to pay for all of them.

2007-08-24 13:20:14 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

She gave me a "What's up with that" look afterwards but also a smile. Was that a GO signal or was it nothing? I am confused.

2007-08-24 13:18:32 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a question, and I want to see what Ideas people have! My ex-husband/father of my sons just bought a house 2 miles from me and my husband. We have joint physical/legal custody of our sons.

He just bought this house, and the house is great; it's a big 2 family, very pretty inside, nice garden. But the neighborhood is truly frightening. I drove by to check it out last night! There is literally a gang in the street right out front. Cars going by with that booming sounds! I think I even saw a drug deal happening while I drove by! Ug!

He's a good father, my kids love him! He loves them, and really values his time with them. He's pleasant and helpful to me and respectful to my husband. In short; he's the perfect ex-husband. There's no way, I would not want them to see him!

But the idea of my children spending time in this neighborhood just fills me with anxiety! I made him promise they would never get on the school bus there!

I dont know what to do.. Help!

2007-08-24 13:17:59 · 6 answers · asked by Mildly Me 3

I did it, I packed my crap and moved in with some frineds. For details on that, go to my past questions in my profile about my wife drinking in bars with other guys. She did text me that night from the bar and said she would be home at 1130. She didn't invite me and didn't call. When I called her and told her come home she said no. When i told her I am you husband and dont like you drinking in bars with other guys she said she wasn't doing anything. So I said I am going to leave you. With that, I hung up the phone and packed my crap and left. I didn't hear from her til the next day and she was begging me to come TALK about it. We have been talking about it 2 months and nothing has changed. I ignored all atemps to talk to her. She showed up at my work crying and telling me lets work it out she don't want to loose me. I told her if she wants me back she is NEVER to go out drinking in bars with guys I dont know again. If she didn't aggree to my terms, I want a DIVORCE!
What u think

2007-08-24 12:55:28 · 28 answers · asked by funkyballs 1

2007-08-24 12:53:07 · 9 answers · asked by 15 2

My friend is married. She thinks her husband had an inappropriate relationship with another woman. She feels fairly certain that he will deny it if she asks him directly. So should she contact the woman and ask her?

2007-08-24 12:47:07 · 16 answers · asked by PAK 2

2007-08-24 12:29:41 · 20 answers · asked by lonelygirl 1

My sister is dating this one guy. I have met him and I can't explain it, but there's something about him that makes me not want to trust him. How do I tell her I don't feel safe with her dating him? In the past, I have generally made a rule that she is forbidden from dating people I don't like, but she might not see my reasoning here.

I'm 27 and she's 24, by the way.

2007-08-24 12:10:46 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

in a good stable marriage, relationship there is what i call this great innocense of trusting in your partner and no worries about cheating or anything. but after you have experienced it, how do you get that feeling where everything is good and you have that special bond back? and does it come fully back?

2007-08-24 12:06:32 · 19 answers · asked by not this way 5

I'm 33,she's 20.We got married last year after having an affair.We were having a very happy & simple married life before she got this Aircrew job.I helped her a lot in getting this job.6 months ago she went to middle-east for training.After going there she's changed completely.She calls me rarely and now want to leave me by showing lame excuses one after another.Its been 3 months since we talked.

2007-08-24 11:58:49 · 28 answers · asked by betrayed2007 1

15 to 30 years of age older than themselves?

And did the marriage last?

2007-08-24 11:57:41 · 11 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5

My son's always lived w/me in Ont, Canada. I want to deny any access until he proves to me that he can be a good influence & good father. He's never worked longer than a few months. For years I supported him & my son. He stays with friends, pays nothing back, eats their food, smokes their cigs, etc & uses drugs. He's abused me emotionally/verbally but never my son. He's never tried to see/speak to his son, I always pushed for it..maybe 5 times in my son's life he's asked to see him, then made last-minute excuses & cancelled. My son & I have been living with my parents in a loving & stable home for a long time now, & for 2 years I have been doing f/t schooling, I'm a year from graduating college. He seems to think this is war but I'm doing this for my son's benefit, & would gladly grant access once he can quit drugs & make something of himself. I know I'll have no prob getting sole custody, but will I have to give access? Preferably asking someone with knowledge of family law.Thank you!

2007-08-24 11:55:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've had terrible depression since I was a kid. I did have a lousy life at home and now that i'm married with a child it's gotten worse thoughout the years. The thing is that my married life is really good but for some reason I feel like I don't deserve this and I want to leave my marriage. It's crazy but it's to the point where I feel suicidal. I know people will say I should appreciate what I have and now think crazy thoughts but my self esteem is so bad that I feel I should leave my marriage so my husband can be happy with someone else. Honestly I don't know what I want anymore. I feel so unmotivated, so low. I used to have all these plans but now I simply don't care about my life or what happens. I don't want my daughter seeing me like this. I'm just so lost.

2007-08-24 11:54:37 · 21 answers · asked by Gina77 1

I was having a discussion with a friend and the question came up whether David and Solomon, who had many wives, were committing adultery by being in multiple marriages. The bible tells us that David was a man after God’s own heart – so that tells me that God was pleased with him. I know man’s law about multiple marriages have changed, but what does God feel about this?

If God was specific in commanding man not to commit adultery, why then would he not give the similar guidelines regarding marriages – do not have more than one spouse.

2007-08-24 11:40:15 · 15 answers · asked by Cutie-Pie-GG 2

he told me he lost his wedding ring. but his best friend told me he powned it. how can i make him pay for selling it.

2007-08-24 11:36:48 · 17 answers · asked by lisaanndubay 4

Here is how it is stated in the agreement:

In Consideratation of the Wife's intrest in the maritial home the husband shall pay 70,000 by bank check together w/ simple intrest at the rate of 5% ($9.59 per diem) payable apon the first to occour of the following:

A: The Husband's remarige
B. The sale of the premisis
C. The Husband no longer residing on the premisis
D. January 16, 2017
E. The Husbands Death
F.At husbands decritiation
This was made 6/28/06

Bankers are telling me that i have to pay him 9,59 per day startin 6/28/06 and my friends are saying that none of this has occoured yet so no intrest is needed. Who is right?
If I did have to pay intrest to him who much would it be?
Is there any free layer advice lines that I can call?

Please any help that you could give would be greatly appreatited.

Thank you,

Shawn C.
MA

2007-08-24 11:19:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

They say Spanish are hot short-tempered but what if it is too much.

2007-08-24 11:19:26 · 38 answers · asked by Shanaya 2

i wrote about this the other day but i just need to let some more steam out i guess i will recap quickly in detail for you. I am 28 with 2 kids, married 6 years. I was laid off my job 5-6 months ago. I finally found one i start in 2 weeks. My husband has been paying rent, utility's ect since i have no income. He is highly upset by having to do this and says i owe him big time and i have to pay $ him back when i get my paychecks. He is making me learn my lesson he says by not putting enough food in the fridge for me to suffer and realize what having been laid off has done to me. My son couldent go to school today because his shoes are t small and he wont buy any new ones he says its not his problem. all are utility bills are now past due he says hes decided not to pay them he says since i don't have any income then why should he care. tomorrow the cable, internet, and phone will be disconnected. My cell was cut off last week already. I think i am gonna save when i start working to leave

2007-08-24 11:13:04 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

In other words help I still need some answers!!!!!! It is not just lust, you know thw feelings that you get when you are in love? well thats what I have! I do not know what to think, like I said I love my old man we have been together for 20yrs, he has quit drinking for me but still a little controlling. not like he used to be it used to be bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Feelings for another!!!!!!!!!!

2007-08-24 10:58:06 · 15 answers · asked by tabbycat3840 1

2007-08-24 10:37:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-24 10:35:30 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-08-24 09:52:56 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I read an article on Yahoo that said some people cheat because they feel they don't deserve the gift, some people feel unloved and can't confront why. I don't cheat, but I did confront my feelings of being unloved by my husband. He works too much, and I feel like he loves work more than me. How can I change this feeling?

2007-08-24 09:42:13 · 30 answers · asked by free speech 2

I would like to know how fathers who claim to love their children can just walk away? I don't want to hear excusses on them not getting along with the mothers. I want honest answers. I just can't understand it, from a mothers point of view. I just would like to see what the real reasons are. Please be honest and don't answer if your just going to blame the kids mom, cuz we have all heard that one.

2007-08-24 09:39:45 · 27 answers · asked by lingling 2

My ex husband has a new gf who likes to call and talk with our children. She and I have gotten acquainted, and now she wants to talk regularly to me. My ex was abusive to me, but mostly to my children. Living with him was like prison. I told her this and even though she has young children, she wishes to continue the relationship. She has even admitted to noticing warning signs of abuse with him.She thinks she can 'handle him' better than I did because I am more quiet than she, and that he will never be abusive with them.
My problem is that, she is very nice, but often times shares things about their sex life or compares us in alot of areas...I dont want to think about him at all and esp. dont want to know about their sex life. Everyday she calls more and more, what should I do?

2007-08-24 09:36:23 · 10 answers · asked by A G 2

ok this is going 2 be longwinded i'm sorry. My husband is depressed at the moment and we have had a few problems but one thing that's come out is that the last 3 years he's been telling me he's quit smoking but he's been smokin @ wrk and i've been askin but he kept lyin n we both quit because i was pregnant. He's now smoking all the time and i hate it i h8 the way he smells his breath is rank although he doesn't come near me or the kids 4 half an hour after he still smells and i can't stand his fingers near me 'cos they smell 2 and i can't help but think of them as dirty. He did want to leave and i didn't want him 2 but we decided to try again but i'm finding it increasingly difficult to deal with i'm sorry if i offend any smokers or come across as horrible but this is a big thing for me i love him n i don't want to lose him but on the other hand we have no sex life no money cos we already used up every penny of our money and i'm allways lukin after the kids on my own wot shud i do?

2007-08-24 09:27:46 · 19 answers · asked by loo 2

I am currently in the process of filing for divorce. My husband tried the first time and was missing some paperwork. I spoke to a lawyer and was told that the papers have to be filed in the county where the defendent lives. Does this make sense? Anyone else heard this? I'd really like some help understanding why this is...it is hard enough already...WITHOUT being so confused and having to do it multiple times!

2007-08-24 09:27:35 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok say the children were babies when their parents got divorced so they have allways known "2 homes". Plus both parents play a active/loving role rasing the kids and both parents get along with each other.Do the kids still wish thier parents were together?As they get older do they get jealous of thier freinds whos parents are married?

2007-08-24 09:24:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

you go away w/him? It's been almost 4 months.... He asked me to go to Aruba... I do trust him. what do you think?

2007-08-24 09:21:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous