Should she ask the 'possible' mistress?

Question

My friend is married. She thinks her husband had an inappropriate relationship with another woman. She feels fairly certain that he will deny it if she asks him directly. So should she contact the woman and ask her?

Answer 1

Why start trouble with just assumed information. Never approach the other woman..she doesn't live in your house. If you want to confront the situation..confront the one in your bed.

Answer 2

I have learned my lesson and if your friend feels that her husband has an inappropriate relationship with another female, she should confront him about it and tell him how she feels. If he says it's nothing then it may very well be but she needs to realize that it may be something. Is she a coworker? Do they hang out a lot - lunches, dinner, etc? Do they call each other a lot or does he go to another room to talk to her? Those are all tell tale signs that he spends way to much time and attention on her instead of his own wife. If she feels that she doesn't receive that much attention then she needs to tell him how she feels and that he should stop his relationship with this woman. It's not healthy for their relationship whether he's cheating or not (and spending that much time with someone - namely of the opposite sex (unless they're gay) - other than your significant other is called emotional cheating).

Answer 3

Of course her husband will deny it.
Of course the mistress will deny it.
By confronting the mistress she will be letting them know that she knows what went on and it will not be tolerated again. If the mistress tells the husband, then she can tell him the same thing. But I would be pretty sure of her suspicions because it will cause a flair up...which if she's right, then who cares?! She has a right to express her opinion if her husband was messing with another woman.

Answer 4

No she shouldn't contact the woman. She should ask her husband. She will simply have to decide whether she believes him if he denies it or not. She CHOSE to marry him, he is the one she needs to confront.

Answer 5

she can ask. i say ask. if you don't, it will always sit at the back of your head anyway. i asked some whore the same thing. she has yet to answer my question. i asked her via internet. i know she read it. and i know at some point she will tell my husband. keep in mind she used to always say hi to me and even had the audacity to try and come say hi when i came to visit my husband at his job. one of the managers who had a clue what this girl was about, immediately jumped in front of her and blocked me from jumping the girl. all she had to do was say one word to me and i would have gotten all Jerry Springer on her.
Have some sort of proof before you say anything to anyone. Ask the husband first. Ask him to explain a certain piece of evidence. most likely he will get defensive and question you why are you going through his stuff. dont ever answer that question. YOU don't have to explain yourself. Then without any warning, immediately question the "other" woman. don't let anytime pass for any phone calls. if their stories don't exactly match, file for divorce.
the woman i referred to has yet to answer my question. she also knows i know about her intentions and her throwing herself at my husband. my husband even told her i know. and she still has the audacity to call my husband. even though my husband has since moved to another location and has no business with her.

Answer 6

No. All the woman would do is deny it anyway. If it happened, it will eventually come out at some point. Why worry about something that 'might have' happened.

Answer 7

No that would not be the best idea. What would be a good idea is if you suggest to your friend that she sit down and speak to her husband and bring up any evidence that she may have. If he deny's it then she might want to go to therapy.

Answer 8

You want to choose a very feminine name. Something that screams "SISSY GIRL" when you hear it. I like: Amanda, Buffy, Mary, Sally, Susie, etc. Tasks may be learning to sew, polishing your Mistresses shoes, dressing and shelving dolls, giving your Mistress a pedicure, organizing your Mistresses closet/make up case/kitchen etc., and menial house chores.

Answer 9

She can do wahtever she wants. but the whore is likely to deny it to. Just speaking from experience. Those two (hubby and the whore) had synchronized their answers to exatly match for when I asked them. She wont tell, UNLESS maybe one of two things happen: 1. you befriend her, make it sound like you are on her side, or 2. you harass her enough to make her crazy. I had to do both and she finally cracked and told me eveyrhting.

Answer 10

You could go two ways with this one. You could ask her to see what she says, she'll say "no" because she doesn't want to cause trouble and be found out. Or you could still ask and believe what she says. If you did, it would of course get back to your husband and he'd tell you that he knows. Men are hard to read I think with something like that because they don't want to get caught. So, it's really up to you how you want to proceed with that. Good luck!