In other words help I still need some answers!!!!!! It is not just lust, you know thw feelings that you get when you are in love? well thats what I have! I do not know what to think, like I said I love my old man we have been together for 20yrs, he has quit drinking for me but still a little controlling. not like he used to be it used to be bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Feelings for another!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-24 10:58:06 · 15 answers · asked by tabbycat3840 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Basically your asking if is ok to try and pursue a married man because you're not happy in your relationship and might have feelings for the married man and because his wife isn't the jealous type and TRUSTS HIM somehow that makes it ok for you to put the moves on him. Nope I don't think however you try to rationalize it makes it right to break up another marriage, especially if you are married.
2007-08-24 11:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by smf_hi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is wrong and I would walk away before everybody gets hurt. You are not happy with your husband possibly about past issues and him somewhat controlling! If your husband has given up drinking I hope he did this for himself ........because if not and you pursue this man and he finds out it might cause him to pick up the bottle again? I would go talk with a counselor to sort out my feelings and I would work very hard on getting closer and more romantic with my husband. You lost alot of attention you should have been getting from him for many years and both of you need to rediscover one another. Sometimes when a drinker sobbers up we don't know if we even know him straight? Give yourself some time to find out where the marriage still stands before you fall. If you find out that you would rather be free to pursue another relationship become single first and find yourself before.... getting involved with another man and make sure he is single and open for a real relationship.You have had enough stress over the years and you don't need the added stress of getting involved in an affair. Take care and the best of luck to you.
2007-08-24 11:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my answers are kinda biblical so forgive me in advance- Sin begins with a thought...a thought we entertain..we dwell on..and then we act on. If you are married (I dont know if old man means husband) then you owe it to your husband to honor him and not entertain these thoughts. Love is what keeps you faithful to a man who has changed his life for you...lust is a feeling that pulls you away from that man. The bible says to FLEE temptation. That means not buying another man lunch and even further, cutting off the communication with this person which is what opened the door to this sin. It started off as a harmless 'conversation' and now its growing into a problem. Again, this is based on biblical stuff and vows of marriage. If you are not married and living in what the bible terms as "sin" then THIS sin...of cheating is the natural fruit of an already sinful situation. I encourage you to seek God for His Direction and Will...when you feel love for Him first...its easier to tell when satan is trying to 'court' your emotions.
Blessings~
2007-08-24 11:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
extremely? you're extremely asking in case you need to fulfill a 50 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous guy who's married and his spouse says that is o.k. along with her to take you out?! no longer basically that, he calls you "flower" and "honey"?! i think of you recognize you recognize the respond already... that is a no. you shouldn't have faith this guy on the grounds which you met him over the internet... he's greater suitable than two times your age... he's married (wager he has young infants!)... and he calls you puppy names... i do no longer know approximately you, yet that kinda jewelry PEDOPHILE in my ears! i think of your too naive, which isn't undesirable, yet you may prefer to be greater attentive to your very own gut and emotions. if your worried, possibilities are high your suggestions is telling you that to fulfill him does no longer be a clever theory. next time you v-chat him, ask him in case you may meet his spouse genuine there and then. If he does not act bizarre or make up excuses as to why she would be able to't come or if he does not look uncomfortable with you chatting along with her then consistent with risk he's a sturdy guy. yet oftentimes, you reside far flung from those human beings.
2016-10-16 21:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to buy him lunch and his wife doesn't mind, then buy him lunch. You can even buy me lunch if you have a lot of money.
I am sensing, however, that you want to see where this all leads whch is why you are buying him lunch - to see if he will make a move or not.
Hey, the guy is married, leave him alone. Why screw up another's person relationship because you have issues?
If you want to have a fling, find a single or divorced guy, not cause a divorce.
2007-08-24 11:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by Nice 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are fantisizing that this new man is Mr. Wonderful.
You should not be having lunch with him unless his wife is there also cause you don't want to appear slutty.
You need to fix your marriage. Doesn't sound like your hubby is bad at all, especially not compared to you.
2007-08-24 11:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on, restart the relationship you have with your old man and get over the new one, whatever you have to do to "stay away" even if it means moving jobs/homes etc.
Be nice to his wife-How would you feel?
2007-08-24 11:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Kari S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't mess with another womans hubby! Do you know what crimes of passion are? Now if you try and initiate something with him, his wife found out, flips out, and slices the side of your face, dont come back on Yahoo answers asking if anybody knows a good plastic surgeon in your area!
2007-08-24 12:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by mrsclh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the other guy--you will hurt EVERYONE if you pursue your feelings.
They aren't REAL---you are just captivated by someone new.
If you really love, YOUR man, put thoughts of the other one right out of your head....and concentrate on your current relationship.
2007-08-24 11:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him. Find your own man. Grow up. Act like a woman. Your "feelings" don't matter. He is married. You are married.
The End
2007-08-24 11:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋