Met my ex 15 years ago when she was married to first husband (8 months when divorced to hook up with me-she made the first move). Was 35 she 24. We married moving back and forth from Indiana to Florida several times. Me IN she FL. I should have realized she growing up with mother 4 times divorced would be screwed up. I'm not without blame. On the ouside she apperared so normal. Along the way substance abuse and backruptcy came along. I'm back in Indiana trying to regain what ever I lost. she was dating online weeks into our seperation. Know has custaty of our 3 children 13,11 and 3. Se asked me to leave, I went back to Indiana to save myself to get better to be there for my children. I pray my kids will survive this mess.
2007-08-24 13:35:13 · 7 answers · asked by Steven K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Substance abuse and bankruptcy? All your wifes doing? If that is the case, then why has she got custody. If you are worried about how your kids are going to turn out then why not apply to get custody of your children yourself. If she is screwed up and irresponsible and is using drugs, then she should not have custody of the children. The courts are only interested in where the kids will be better off.....there are lots of fathers these days who have custody of their children. The courts have finally realised that sometimes it is not in the children's best interests to be with their mother.
2007-08-24 13:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you made the best decision, I grown to learn that my past relationships I don't regret although they seemed bad and I don't know why I thought i was in love or what made me fall in love with them in the first place, but now I look back at the lessions Ive learned and I forgive but not forget and now Im a much stronger woman and when my current Husband came along I reconized he was everything I wanted in a man and realized got had me go through those storms with those dummies to prepare me for this relationship that I was meant for and it wasnt me who was screwed it was them cause they are still saying they are sorry and wishing they could have me back but the best thing I had was sense enough to say enough is enough and get up and leave there sorry asses
2007-08-24 13:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Steve. Stop blaming her already. Accept the fact that your problems are of your own making, then you can start to solve them.
Now go to an AA or Al-anon meeting, which ever is appropriate, get a sponsor, and work the steps.
2007-08-24 13:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hit your knees and talk to God. You can pour your heart out to Him and He always listens. That is the only way I've ever made it through the tough times in my life. I'm very sorry you are going through this. I will pray for you too.
2007-08-25 00:28:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your kids will do just fine as long as you remain in their lives. Step up and be a good dad! You can't help what their mother is, but you can be the best dad ever!!
2007-08-24 13:38:47 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remain a part of their lives and be a good role model for them; they will survive fine. How about you, though. How are you doing?
2007-08-24 13:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't leave your children. They need you. Get a divorce and move on, but don't leave them. They are not to blame. Please keep in contact with them and NEVER put them in the middle.
2007-08-24 13:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋