Marriage & Divorce - 18 July 2007

My wife died over three years ago and for the first two years I just focused on my two young sons. After being in the real world of dating again, and having some crazy nights out(if you know what I mean...lol) I've seemed to notice that "most" and I say again "most" divorced women seem a bit jaded when it comes to men. I hear the statement "you are to good to be true" and all men are dogs routine alot. Look, I know it hurts for a while when things don't work, and the anger can linger. But for the most part do you women really think that all men are the same. I was happy when I married and was till the day I lost her. Death changed me, I want to live everyday with a smile and romance and passion. Negativity is like a cancer...it spreads. My question>> Do you feel that divorce really affects women to a point of sceptisism above reality? And even romance and honesty will never shake their fears away? Just a thought.

2007-07-18 06:30:47 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've just filed for divorce on my husband of 10 years. We have no assets together (thank god) and I will have Full Custody of our 2 kids because he is unable and unwilling to support himself financially (long story short he got into a car accident (he wasn't seriously hurt but claims it's worse that it is), never went to therapy and he developed Arthritis in his back because of it. Anywho, our only disagreement is changing my last name back to my maiden name. I want to leave my married name as my last name because of the pain to have to go through and change my last name on all documents. It's a pain in the butt to do. He's asking me to change it saying I don't deserve to have his last name (trust me he's a moron anyway). Should I fight him on it or just say the hell with it and change my last name back? I've thought about him giving up his rights to the kids because he can't even pay child support and he'll be ordered to do so.

2007-07-18 06:25:18 · 44 answers · asked by ? 4

is 6.25 inches long.. I absolutely LOVE IT!!..

he's a bigger man.. who is trying to lose weight. and I have heard that for ever 30 pounds a guy loses.. that is one inch he will gain in length.. what if I dont like it when its longer?.. It sometimes hurts NOW..

is that true though.. does a man gain 1 inch for ever 30 pounds he loses?

2007-07-18 06:16:25 · 18 answers · asked by pleasure_maker 1

My sister has a timeshare at a resort near where we live. She came down for a week and invited me and my husband to meet them there. We were going to go out for dinner or do something that evening. When we got there, we talked a little and she wanted to go in the hot tub before we went out. To make a long story short...She wanted us to go in to, but we weren't prepaired with bathing suits, so we passed, but she went in nude in front of us. I never expected her to do that. She really wanted us to go in nude too. This is my sister, I couldn't believe it. What would you have done? No she NEVER did anything like this before.

2007-07-18 06:07:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-18 06:06:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 1/2 years. This last year has been especially difficult. I was going to break up with him, but now I am pregnant. Mostly, our problems revolve around his religion. I have been very clear with him that I will never convert. Yet he imagines that "someday" I will magically decide to wear a hijab (headscarf). The irony in all of this is that the day after I conceived, we had a very serious conversation about how we were going to raise kids together with this huge difference between us. Another sticking point b/w us is the fact that although he was separated from his wife for 1 1/2 years before we met, he's still married. She lives far away. There is no contact, nothing b/w them. Obviously he's not that strict of a muslim, but all of his friends are. That's the part I can't stand anymore. I have nothing in common w/any of them and just not happy in this life. Should I disappear, never let him know @ his kid? I am 6 wks along. Abortion, is a "no".

2007-07-18 06:02:26 · 15 answers · asked by jujoobeez 1

My husband misses his native country and suddenly says he wants to go back there to live, but then said he didn't mean it. He just wants to go visit. He misses his country and feels down sometimes. How can I do to help him? What should he do?

2007-07-18 06:00:11 · 8 answers · asked by daisy 1

is it true aids started from a monkey in israel?

2007-07-18 05:55:01 · 29 answers · asked by Beep Beep!! 1

Lately instead of I it's we, instead of me it's us, I barely have a thought that doesn't have something to do with my fiance. This is so strange to me, I have never been this type of person- so " in love" with someone other than myself. Is this normal for brides to be? And will this go away? ( I don't think I want it to)

Thanks in advance!

2007-07-18 05:48:46 · 5 answers · asked by Still*Perfect 4

2007-07-18 05:25:04 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband for nine years (5 of this married to him). He turned round and told me a month ago that the feelings he felt werent strong enough to sustain a marriage, we have a three year old son. I am absolutely devastated, he is my soulmate, I am totally in love with him and can't stop crying. I just feel empty and very very lonely, nobody wants a divorcee with a child do they? The thought of starting again is horrible, I miss him terribly he was so affectionate and always there for me nomatter what? Doe anyone else feel the same, or going through the same predicament?

2007-07-18 05:19:08 · 37 answers · asked by medra 1

I have been w/ my husband for 7 years, married for 4. I am very much in love with him and care deeply about him. We have had many issues in our relationship - but nothing that we supposedly could not work through. Over the years I had come to blame myself for many of the issues that we had - because I know that I have many issues - and had not really analyzed things to the point where I attempted to figure out what he was doing to damage the relationship - because it does take 2. I have been going to therapy for several months and have asked him to come but he says "no" - he has gotten worse now and I am starting to believe he is bipolar because of how he acts and talks - and it wouldn't be a surprise because people in his immediate family have been diagnosed w/ this as well and are on medication and in therapy. I feel so helpless - thinking about asking his family to help me talk to him...any advice?

2007-07-18 05:12:43 · 12 answers · asked by Kimbermai 3

Im 7months pregnant, & Me And my Husband were together 4yrs before we decided to get married, we have now been married 2months and everything is horrible. He lives with his parents and I live with my father, & just one day he stoped coming to stay with me for 2weeks! Come to find out he was with someone else, nothing sexual but he did like her and they were hanging out everyday! :( We have been having problems with being happy really the last yr & now things are worse. He wont take me anywhere to hang with him and his friends, I cant call or txt message him without getting grief, I cant come over here without almost begging, Hes not as Affectionate with me at all anymore, Our sex life is horrible..Im just so unhappy right now with things but, I Love him with all my heart & know there is still enough there to make us happy together he just wont try and help himself find it. Were both trying to make things right but, its just so hard & its hard to forget abot her! Any Suggestions?

2007-07-18 05:02:44 · 17 answers · asked by birdluver24 1

when i was pregnant and very young iasked someone who was black and married to a white man if they were excited to see what their kds would look like. She got mad. But i was asking honstley b/c my hubby and i were from different races too and we were excited too.LOL

2007-07-18 04:54:40 · 15 answers · asked by girl 3

Many people see love as the primary reason to marry, but in the US the divorce rate is obscence. I am beginning to think that there must a more solid basis for marriage. If you marry a who person that you like a lot, share similar dreams, trust and are basically compatible, will love just occur naturally?

2007-07-18 04:53:36 · 11 answers · asked by 101 2

I have a problem with my husband, and I'm not sure if it's a real problem or just something in my head. I have been married for almost ten years, have two daughters. I may not be gorgeous, but I think I am attractive. I'm 32 years old but most people say I look younger. Size six, sometimes four, red, medium length hair, fair skin. I am not a health freak but I take care of myself as much as I can. My husband often calls me "HOT" and says I'm sexy - that is not a problem but he never, EVER says I'm beautiful. Not even pretty. I feel like a piece of meat, not a wife. Do you guys think this is a sign something else is wrong or can you give me the male point of view on this? Am I just over-sensitive? THANKS.

2007-07-18 04:52:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

My livin in boyfriend of 8 1/2 years fell out of love with me and found another girl whom he started talking to a month a go or so. I found out he slept with her and so now we are broken up and I am moving out back to my hometown. How can he just move on in a blink of an eye. He says he will always carry me in him and cares for me but he's all into her these days. I am moving 6 hrs away in 2 weeks and I don't plan on talking or seeing him anymore- Does he feel any pain? Will he even miss me? Or is this girl going to fill his void?

2007-07-18 04:49:01 · 21 answers · asked by ? 2

All we do is argue, we argue over everything and honestly i'm fed up with it. He's nice to me when he wants something and that's it. I just don't know what to do anymore, it's really frustrating. He leaves every night to go hang out with his friends while i stay home with our 14 month old son as i do 24/7. I don't get to go hang out with my friends or even go to the store by myself. Any ideas??

2007-07-18 04:41:44 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-18 04:37:04 · 27 answers · asked by Nay Nay 1

...would you get an instantaeous divorce? Or, would you figure, maybe I am partly at fault? Or, figure, I cannot support myself and the children even with support, it would kill my parents, I can't take the humiliation, etc?

2007-07-18 04:36:10 · 30 answers · asked by danashelchan 5

just need a good laugh.

2007-07-18 04:31:14 · 8 answers · asked by girl 3

I have thought my spouse has been a little sneaky for a while. This morning I went through his cell phone and checked his sent text messages. I found one from an old ex-girlfriend that he recently found again on Facebook. I confronted him. He feels violated because I went through his cell. I feel violated because he is having secret communication with this woman. I also might add he has flat out told me he wasn't even talking to her on facebook anymore.

We are both wrong...but who is more wrong in your opinion.

Please...helpful answers. I just don't need a BS today! :)

Thank you.

2007-07-18 04:27:53 · 26 answers · asked by ~Brenda~ 4

i already know the girl, where she lives...a friend he told stuff too and who dropped him off over the girl already told me everything..the girl works for his company and they have had sex in the office...yet he still lies and got her lying to....i gonna to catch them then but until then its hard being nice...

2007-07-18 04:21:58 · 21 answers · asked by Jacqueline 1

I am a father of two, well to do professionally and financially. Recently i learned that my wife has a very intimate relationship with my cousin. I checked her phone records without her knowledge to confirm, and it is true. my cousin visits my house when i am away. what should i do?

2007-07-18 04:19:46 · 20 answers · asked by skandel9 1

2007-07-18 04:18:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

For my husband... Would you rather have a romantic picnic on the beach with food I made (I can cook!) or a hotel room with an in-room jacuzzi at the oceanfront and dinner in a restaurant?

2007-07-18 04:13:45 · 22 answers · asked by wondering 3

I am in my 20s and am a virgin by choice, which has got me thinking on this issue. Many people have stressed sexual compatibility as a reason to have pre-marital sex. However, in other questions, people say that being with a great lover isn't important because all of this can be learned. Therefore, my question is is pre-marital sex important? Don't tell me, I know what the Bible says, but what I need to know is truth (which if the Bible is true should jive with it anyway). What have you found in your experiences? If you have someone that you love and that is open to learning and truly loves and cares about you, is sexual compatibility important or can you rest assured that that person will learn and will become the perfect lover for you?

So, if you are looking for someone for the next 50+ years, is it important to have pre-marital sex to see if you are sexually compatible, or will someone who truly cares about you and is willing to grow become sexually compatible with you?

2007-07-18 04:13:40 · 14 answers · asked by irish68178 2

property and he made me sign three gift deeds of a portion of my property and built unofficial shops and leased out and ran away with the money and my children.He tried to sell the property with moneylenders whom he borrowed without my knowledge but came to know of it and put injuction and after months ,have got the injuction in my favour.I got court order for child custody too.My son is just 5 years old.He has been poisoned to call me aunty and is being emotionally abused.He is made to get scared of me and tortured being alone at home for 5 hours.I tried bringing him with plice...but to no avail.That's the courts in India.I dont want to add up to my child's burdens and have am concentrating on other affairs.He has gone for a appeal in the high court. So almost all my days in running to court to get my child back and to get rid of the person who lived with me ...who cheated me, who abused me, who physically abused me.I hope in India law is firm and thhey do justice to broken hearted w

2007-07-18 04:11:57 · 5 answers · asked by Jessy 2

I am terribly in love with a married man, I am not a bad girl, I don't want to be juged, he does not even live in my country, it's just a question of feelings !
Ther's no way fot the future between us, if he devorce he lose his kids, I don't want him that ! but we still say to each other that we are in love !
is there anyone in my situation, and how did you get your self out of these troubles
Thanks

2007-07-18 04:11:12 · 36 answers · asked by Just me 1

What 10 things women want in the man they want to marry....

2007-07-18 04:10:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous