Marriage & Divorce - 18 July 2007

I am torn between getting a divorce or taking my husband back. No, he didn't cheat on me, or anything like that, but he is a control freak. We have been married for almost 8 years and I have been so miserable! These last 7 weeks we have been apart have been so peaceful for me and the kids. The problem is money. If I go through with this divorce I will most likely lose my home and have to start over in an apartment. Is this fair to the kids? They say that they don't want him to come back, but I can't see losing our home. What should I do?

2007-07-18 20:02:27 · 13 answers · asked by emschick722 1

I am not 100% sure of this, but the other day I was going through the web sites he had been on (don't ask why) one of the site was "lonelywives.com". I open the web site to find that he had made a search on women of his age group near his work place. SHOULD I TELL MY MOTHER ?

2007-07-18 19:40:51 · 23 answers · asked by Spindle 1

2007-07-18 19:24:12 · 18 answers · asked by a published author 2

My gilrfriend was married to my husband's best friend and they recently got a divorce in March. My hubby's bestfriend is still in love with my girlfriend but she wants nothing to do with him. she recently came over and told me she is 2 months pregnant by her old boyfriend. She doesn't want me to tell my hubby because he will tell his best friend who is her ex-hubby. part of me wants to tell my hubby and his best friend because I don't want my hubby's best friend to be in shock or devastated by stumbling onto her pregnancy yet I want to honor my gilrfriend by not telling her secret. i love them both. Moreover, if my hubby finds out that I knew, he will be upset and say that I lied to him because i withheld this information from him.

2007-07-18 18:15:49 · 20 answers · asked by cha-cha 1

I hope so! OK, long story short I have a "steady" girlfriend. We have our ups and downs and don't have a lot of common interest. I know I need to figure this out but anyway...

I'm into dancing and I met this girl (again) that I've known for almost a year anyway. She has a big interest in dancing and has been getting better so I guess we naturally started hanging out a lot more together. Of course, I wasn't sure exactly how she felt, but I know we've been calling each other, going out dancing, and generally having a good time. No serious dating, etc.

So, tonight this dimwit woman I used to hang around with tells this girl about my girlfriend. Now she seems pretty hacked off and I feel like sh*t. What can I do about this? She's one of the only women left to dance with in this city! Plus, I kinda like her and it seems like we WERE getting along great. I'm trying to figure out how best to explain my action or in-actions as it were. TIA for any help!

2007-07-18 17:47:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 4 months into a separation. My soon to be ex wife told me today that she doesn't want to talk about compromise regarding custody or finances, that she'd rather leave it up to the lawyers...I make a very meager salary, while she has the financial backing of her wealthy parents...She sent me an incredibly aggressive separation agreement which basically takes half of my net income in child support and I feel like she's out to punish me because I called her bluff after 10 years of being threatened with divorce and told her that I was going to follow through with it because I was tired of the threats. In the meantime this is all making me physically sick...anxiety, insomnia, etc...I'm a complete wreck ...how do people deal with this kind of stress and keep things in perspective?

2007-07-18 17:41:26 · 9 answers · asked by Clog 2

if you had to choose between an increase in salary by well over 300% or staying married, which would you chose?

2007-07-18 17:31:15 · 18 answers · asked by noname 1

My husband and I have been together for 4 years. We just got married on MAy 26, 2007. However, It feels like all we do is ***** ***** *****. Were happy together for a few hours sometimes a few days. But then its right down the drain over something so freekin stupid. Then were back to bitchiing at eachother again. Its just freekin crazy. We should still be in the "Newly Wed stage" But yeah right!!!!! We maybe have sex what once or twice a MONTH. Come on now. And we just got back home from our Honeymoon yesterday. Well on our honeymoon we got into it b/c he wouldn't let me go for a walk down a strange street alone. Well back up a bit i walked out b/c I was trying to get sexual with him and i felt he wanted nothign to do with it or me. So i said I am horney i am goign for a walk. Meanning to clear my head and just relaxe. But nope he had to chase me down. and you know what the next thing was. a screamming match on comming home to get a devorice.

2007-07-18 17:14:51 · 15 answers · asked by knj_7142003 1

i turn 46 next year and i will have 20 years where i work, and i can retire with a good pension that is protected and my twins finish high school next year!

it will cost me about 500,000 to send them threw 4 years of college, i have about 600,000 that i have invested over the years that i have penciled in so i can live the easy life once i retire. my house is paid cars are paid for and i have no debt.

so the q's should i pay for there school or retire and live the good life for the last 25 30 years of my life?

2007-07-18 17:11:35 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife, who I have been in love with, been through hell with, and who is bipolar schitzophrenic. Has now decided that I cannot meet her needs as a Super caretaker. Now what I mean is that I am very sympathetic to her needs and her capabilities and would not hold her back from any pursuit that her heart desires. I supported almost every decision that we made. Now she is very distant and has once again for the 4th time left me. I can no longer understand why I have to be the one who is left behind to suffer the consequences while she is just content to have left me there. All the while making bad decisions along the way just to have another reason to try and involve me somehow. I love my wife, but all of this is making me very transparent as to who I am and what I was trying to accomplish in my life. I am not a selfish person, but it really seems that lately that I have worn myself thin on the concept of what it takes to be with this woman. Am I just being foolish to continue? y is this

2007-07-18 17:11:34 · 13 answers · asked by G Money 1

My ex-girlfriend and I dated for almost two years then she found out she was pregnant with twins. Before they were born she's had some problems. They were born and not long after she started abusing prescription medicine again. As a result, I left and took the babies with me since she wasn't in a good way to take care of them and she already had a child from a previous marriage. Her mom helps take care of the other child and my parents help me with the twins. It's been two months since she's seen them (her choice, not mine) and I think I may finally have to take this to court. I'm terrified that the judge will just automatically side with the twins mom and they'll go back to her. I really love them and want to keep them safe. The mom says she's going through rehab now. Is there a precedent that dad's will get equal say now or are we just expected to lay down and give in, pay child support, and hope to see them every weekend or can I hope to keep custody of my children?

2007-07-18 17:02:48 · 7 answers · asked by tnstdel 1

2007-07-18 17:02:19 · 38 answers · asked by SANAT 5

The two siblings - eight-year-old Ajay and four-year-old Vishal - have been implicated under several sections of the IPC on charges of dowry harassment and cruelty against their sister-in-law and have been issued non-bailable warrants by the district court. Under Section 156 (3) of the CrPC, the district court had asked the police to register a case and arrest Ramesh Kuriel, a resident of Darshadev village in Kanpur dehat district, his wife Shanti and their sons, Abhinay (24), Ajay (8) and Vishal (4). The court issued the directive on a complaint filed by Abhinay's wife Deepa, who had alleged that her in-laws, husband and the two minor brothers-in-law tried to set her ablaze on December 2, 2006, because her family refused to pay a dowry of Rs 50,000 besides a bike. The children have been accused of helping the family in pouring kerosene on Deepa. While police cite compliance of court order and continue raiding possible hideouts in search of the children. Please comment on this news.

2007-07-18 16:47:34 · 18 answers · asked by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7

cuz it is a digestive bitter. i tried it on my live in partner last night. lets just say she called in sick today at work cuz she cant walk. she has symptoms similar to ricket. anyway so how are all the women in the house doing tonight ?

2007-07-18 16:45:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

They were together for 5 years and rented for 4 she decided to buy a condo because the rent went up and it would cost the same each month. She used her $$ and credit and she is solely on the deed. He asked why in the beginning and she told him that since they are not married and it was her $ it is hers and he is to pay her rent....the mortgage was less than their apartment rent BTW saving him money. Now he is claiming they had an oral agreement even tho she made it clear in the beginning that he owns it with her even tho he gave her no $ to buy it, just rent money every month. He also helped her paint and stuff. The condo has actually depreciated with the soft real estate market and is worth less than when she bought it. She is afraid ...does he have any right to it?

2007-07-18 16:37:57 · 7 answers · asked by me 1

This was done without the consent of the father who is paying child support. The child was 13 years old at the time

2007-07-18 16:36:54 · 25 answers · asked by ms chip dog 2

OK so me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 yrs and have 2 kids, and one on the way, and me and his mother dont get along.She is coming into town for his birthday to go out to dinner and idk what else, but here are some of the reasons we dont get along

1.my friend overheard her telling someone at the store that i runined his lfe and she dont know why he is with me

2.she bought a gift cerfticate for her other sons gf and not me when we had our party together

3.back when our relationship had just started he cheated on me and she took him and his other gf out to eat while knowing i was at home

There is more but I dont feel like getting into it,and he is mad that i wont go with them to dinner i want to stay at home is this wrong of me ????How do i explain why I won't go?

2007-07-18 16:33:21 · 7 answers · asked by mrsking022 2

Before we got married I knew that my husband had a previous relationship and from that relationship he had a son. Although, this child has no contact with my husband I can't help but to feel upset by the idea that my husband has a son out there and he has to become a part of our family now (it was just confirmed that my husband IS the father of this child). I don't know how to accept the idea that this child is part of our family and that my husband has to give him love and financial support. Please advise.

2007-07-18 16:29:28 · 17 answers · asked by Bunny 1

I just realized my hubbie is vomitously ugly...i think i've been under a love potion that just wore off, it's that bad. i can't stand the thought that as soon as he gets home from work i am going to have to go in the same bed with him...if i tell him it will hurt his feelings but if i don't i'll throw up and die. i still like his personality like as a friend but i really love this guy at my church he's in college and 17 years younger than me, but he's waved at me and i look young for my age. help!!!

2007-07-18 16:26:32 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-18 16:12:39 · 11 answers · asked by ms chip dog 2

I have just felt very upset with my husband the past few days. We have been arguing a lot, and we can't seem to agree on anything. I don't know what is going on? We have been married for 2 and a half years and have a 22 month old son. We have had some financial issues in the past, and money is another sore subject between us.

He has been asking me what is wrong, but I am not sure myself. What should I do?

2007-07-18 16:04:28 · 28 answers · asked by Ki 2

if you see your husband in a picture with his coworkers, and this coworker who is a girl keeps on sitting beside your husband in all the pictures, will you think that this girl has "something" to your husband? and your husband doesn't really like having pictures and very anti-social, but he has to make public relations with his coworkers, because you need to have friends at work.

photos can really tell alot, but your husband tells you to just trust him and he doesn't care about these people. but the photos are really traumatic. i'm not used to this, that my husband has pictures with people i don't even know, especially when every picture is with this girl coworker beside him. its like this girl is up to something. please advice.

2007-07-18 16:03:44 · 28 answers · asked by genericmamaw 2

Usually my husband picks on me all the tiem by tickling me or just aggravating the hell out of me...he says it is his way of flirting...but then there are times when he doesn't really talk to me that much and he isnt really affectionate when I ask him stuff he is like very irritated..but anyways then the other night when I was sleeping he came in and put his arms around me and held my hand it woke me up but he didnt knwo it did and then he whispered in my ear I love you and it was so sweet but anyways I am just wondering because I mena why liek during the day does he act like non affectionate and then when I am sleeping tell me he loves me? I mean don tget me wrong he isnt liek an *** hole during the day but he is very shy with is emotions. sorry for the question being so long :)

2007-07-18 16:02:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-18 15:59:26 · 19 answers · asked by sakal c 1

2007-07-18 15:53:03 · 8 answers · asked by Larry 4

My wife and I have been married for 3 years. We have one child and one on the way. I feel that everything I do I am walking on eggshell so she does not get mad. I understand the hormones are raging right now, we work opposite shifts and see each other for 20 minutes in the morning and that is about it. On weekends it seems like 90% of the time we are bickerign back and forth instead of enjoying each others company?? Any suggestions??

2007-07-18 15:52:17 · 11 answers · asked by lucky301010 1

I fell in love with this girl when we joined school at the age of 3 (Hard to believe?)I married her in 1976 and lost her in 2007 recently. The love never diminished a bit during all these years. All these years I never left her for a moment. She would always be with me or I would always be with her. Never left her alone. The trauma is simply unbearable. I do yoga, meditation,play music, go walking and do my regular office work plus cooking (never did before she left). Spending time alone at home in her absence without her beside me is unbearable. Her thoughts are there with me all throughout the day. Feel heavy in the heart all throughout. Can anyone suggest how to cope with this unsurmountable pain and lonliness?

2007-07-18 15:41:37 · 28 answers · asked by Simbah 1

Currently my husband and I are separated, not living together still married. We have agreed to move back in when he can afford to get us an apartment. Right now I live with my dad. My husband will hand me $20 when I need something, but that is only when I need it. I asked him if he would give me $200 per month for both our son and me or I would file for child support. He got mad and told me if I filed he would kidnap our son. I don't know what to do, is there anyone that can give me some advice? should i just file for divorce and take my son or try to work on this? He and I had a long talk about that and he doesnt think its right that he should be supporting me. At the same time he doesnt want to sign divorce papers. Im a college student and dont work right now. any suggestions?

2007-07-18 15:34:13 · 15 answers · asked by h2gj87 4

I am always reading questions on here from men who have problems with their wife's weight..They sound very shallow to me and must think their perfect..My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs and i am full-figured and weigh about 270 but hubby met me this way,married me this way and it has never bothered him 1 bit cause he loves me more then anything...When we met i was over 200 and thru the yrs i have lost and gained and trying to lose again but for me NOT him..He is still very attracted to me and we have a decent satisfying sex life...Why cant these men just love their wives unconditionally?

2007-07-18 15:30:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for 1. We want to see a counselor just to always keep us right. But they are so expensive. We would like to do this at home together and are looking for a good workbook to use. Any ideas? Thanks!

2007-07-18 15:27:39 · 11 answers · asked by Happy Girl 3