if you see your husband...?

Question

if you see your husband in a picture with his coworkers, and this coworker who is a girl keeps on sitting beside your husband in all the pictures, will you think that this girl has "something" to your husband? and your husband doesn't really like having pictures and very anti-social, but he has to make public relations with his coworkers, because you need to have friends at work.

photos can really tell alot, but your husband tells you to just trust him and he doesn't care about these people. but the photos are really traumatic. i'm not used to this, that my husband has pictures with people i don't even know, especially when every picture is with this girl coworker beside him. its like this girl is up to something. please advice.

Answer 1

Are you in the work world? If you are, then you would realize not as many office romances take place as the movies and romance novels make it seem like they do.

If your husband has never given you any reason to not trust him, then try to relax. Sometimes us women are our own worse enemies. (not always but sometimes)
Ask yourself is this your self esteem problem, or is there some other problem taking place that is not being addressed?
Do you guys spend time with each other? Do you feel secure in your marriage? Are there other problems in the marriage?
Other than the girl sitting next to him all the time, is there something else bothering you that makes you feel like maybe he doesn't love you?
You yourself say it is with people you don't know. Is that the problem?
Do you not have trust in your husband? If not, why?

You need to figure out why you feel insecure. Is it you? Is it the relationship? The optimum attitude would to be to relax and leave it alone. You love your husband, trust that he loves you.
Even if this co-worker has a crush on him, if he loves you, nothing will happen.

If you harp on this and nothing is taking place, you will only make it worse.
But if you have reasons to not trust him, then do you really want to be in a relationship where there is no trust?
As long as your marriage is good, don't fret on this. If your marriage needs work, then concentrate on that and not this co-worker.

Answer 2

Has your husband ever given you reasons to feel like this?? Like has he cheated on you or anything like that? If your answer is no then sweetie calm down!! Got to trust him!! Look I have been in a relationship with my fiance for 7 yrs. I caught him in the bed naked with another female. So do I get concerned at times?? Yes but.... Do I trust him now?? I didn't in the beginning but I do now. People make mistakes all the time. It may seem alittle fishy to you that this same woman is in the pictures next to your husband and I can clearly see why. But if your husband has been faithful to you and you've never had trouble with him and other females before then I say DONT LET THE SMALL STUFF GET TO YOU. Be a confident woman and just relax!! You love him and he loves you! But never trust anyone with your husband no matter what. Don't check the female check ya man. Don't assume anything either! It makes things worse. All you have to do is ask questions. Believe me when you ask the right ones you get the answers. Good luck sweetie!!

Answer 3

I think that getting flipped over work photos is silly.
There could be a thousand reasons that particular girl is beside him in photos that have nothing to do with hanky panky. I tend to get along with some co workers better than others and a male that does not hit on me or say anything inappropriate may end up being someone I choose to talk with more than others.
What kind of person is your husband? Focus on that, not your imagination.

Answer 4

Honey, please calm down. If you are married to a decent man, why are you freaking out about a picture? There is nothing that she can do- even if she were head over heels in love with him- if he only has eyes for you- her infatuation wouldn't matter. If you trust him, and, it sounds like you don't have ANY reason not to, leave it be. He chose you. Trust that he will keep choosing you every day forever- until he shows you otherwise.

WHen you over-react it makes you look insecure and emotionally needy. I am sure it also makes him feel self-conscious about his behaviour at work, and, I think it is completely unmerited.

If you are totally freaked out, though. You might as well go and pick up your husband for lunch and meet her. Perhaps your anxieties will go away with that

Answer 5

Don't be paranoid. It's just a picture. You have to trust your husband. You know him better than anyone else. Does he come home to you every night or stay out late making excuses? Does he bring his paycheck home for the family or gamble it away or spend it on other women? You have no reason to worry until there is a reason to worry. Keep your husband and keep your marriage happy by telling your husband he's the best, love him and honor his word. Don't go looking for trouble where there is none.

Answer 6

I don't think anything is going on. When someone is doing something they know is wrong, they tend to be a little paranoid. If your husband was having an affair with her, he definately wouldn't want to be next to her in every picture, or in any way create the impression there was anything going on between them.

Sometimes when they do company photos, they tell you who will be in the picture, and where to sit, etc. He might not have chosen to be sitting by her.

Answer 7

Ask him straight up why she is always sitting next to him. Tell him that you are surprised about it, be non-confrontational, don't freak out and keep your voice low. If you guys have a good relationship and you can trust him, you should not have anything to worry about. There will always be these gals who want to flirt or get close to the married ones but you need to go with your gut feeling and know that what your husband tells you is the truth.

Answer 8

darlin... get over this. People spend more time at work than at home. They will make friends and you won't know them If you have such a lack of confidence in yourself and your marriage that's not good.
If he has not given you any reasons to doubt him why act this way. If you continue it... he will do something because you're expecting him to do something.
it's work. Be grateful he has co workers he wants to spend time with, Many people dare not that lucky. It makes for a healthier happier partner... believe me.
Now... learn how to trust. If you can't... find out from a counsellor what the real problem is for you because you have some underlying fears here. Work on them.

Answer 9

I would be suspicious too. Love STINKS!! and having low self esteem sucks even worse. I'm in a similar situation but its with myspace (go figure) even though they tell you nothing is going on its still hard unless you have proof!!! and the not knowing is what kills you inside and they don't seem to give a damn! There are givers and takers out there and it seems all the good people seem to get the sorry *** takers! I do hope nothing is going on but I cant say I would sweat it until you know for sure, but I would be doing some detective work! Good luck!!!

Answer 10

In the picture, does your husband look extra friendly? The girl may look to your husband as someone she can relate too, someone she can talk to of the opposite sex and is not looking for anything. If your husband has not given you reason to not trust him, calm down or you may push him to make you right.