I think my Father is having an affair with a woman what should I tell my Mother ?

Question

I am not 100% sure of this, but the other day I was going through the web sites he had been on (don't ask why) one of the site was "lonelywives.com". I open the web site to find that he had made a search on women of his age group near his work place. SHOULD I TELL MY MOTHER ?

Answer 1

There are about 4 different ways to look at it.

1. If it is out in the open, something like that ends. Sometimes.

2. You can tell your mother.

3. You can tell your dad that you told your mother. They will then have to work it out.

4. You can say nothing and carry a burden around that should not be your burden to carry. You need to set your mind free, but it has to be you that has to handle it.

Maybe it's not the advice you want to hear but it's better that you decide what to do with the information.

I wish you the best.

As a mother, I have to say that I would want to know.

Be careful.

Answer 2

NO!! Not yet anyways. Just because he went to the site and searched doesn't mean that he actually made contact with someone. Telling your mother without being 100% positive might just worry her for nothing. But I'm not saying that you should just completely forget about it, you should keep your eyes open for more solid evidence. Maybe you can look for reciepts in his car, or just call him randomly if he has a cell phone and listen to the background noise. If he is thinking about cheating, maybe you can remind him of what a good thing he has at home by setting up a date for you parents, or giving your mom a make-over. I know it might sound lame, but it doesn't hurt to try. Good Luck

Answer 3

NO! Don't jump to conclusions or assume you know he's doing something wrong. You don't know why he did that search until you talk to him. Maybe he was checking on something for a friend or just curious to see if some woman he knows had a profile on that site. Talk to your dad about it and see what he says. If he was doing anything out of line, your mentioning this will undoubtedly make him think about what he's doing and the effect it could have on his family. Don't create unnecessary problems where problems don't exist.

Answer 4

No. Stay out of it - especially since you aren't 100% sure. Nothing good will come of it. Making a search for something and having an actual affair can be MILES apart.

Answer 5

Yes, let her know. It will devastate her but she deserves to know what is happening. It's obvious you love her, and how hard for you to stand by and watch her be treated this way. Your father has some serious issues, maybe going through some kind of mid-life crisis, maybe dealing with an addiction to sexual fantasies.Both you and your Mom deserve better behavior from this man.

Answer 6

VERY IMPORTANT!!!

do NOT tell your mom ANYTHING

first of all, there's nothing to tell. he searched. maybe he was looking for someone for a friend to date or something. you don't know why he was on that site. and it's not like you caught him literally with his pants down. don't make a mountain out of a mole hill.

secondly, if he really is cheating or going to cheat, chances are your mom already knows anyway. she's an adult. i'm sure she's not stupid. she will work it out however she feels is best.

Answer 7

make sure first of all ,you have 100% PROVE this kinda-lonely wives-com-THING isnt taken out of context,maybe he wants to hook up one of his colleguas or have your mum join in,haha.Seriously if he is trying to find himself a fling DONT you think anybodyelse BESIDES a lonely desperate housewife will do BETTER.He will probably look for lovelywomen looking for older guys-com and ofcourse hide it away for you and your mother...so investigate some more ok and then let your mum sit behind the computer too

Answer 8

If your sure abt this! Ask ur slf do u want one r bth of them to blame u 4 the fall out. If he`s that careless now obviously he want`s to tell her he just cannot bring himslf to do it. So y not make u the scapegoat. Instead of telling her y not ask him abt what u found.

i`m out Passion

Answer 9

No, you don't want to instigate a fight between them. You can always go online yourself and let her find what he's been looking at--accidentally leave the computer on when you go to the bathroom and you know she'll walk by the computer.

Answer 10

Show your mother what you found, she than beleve you and she can keep eye on that sight. Not fair if your father doing this behind your mother back cheating..How do you filled about this,if you up set than go to your mother talk it out.