I am torn between getting a divorce or taking my husband back. No, he didn't cheat on me, or anything like that, but he is a control freak. We have been married for almost 8 years and I have been so miserable! These last 7 weeks we have been apart have been so peaceful for me and the kids. The problem is money. If I go through with this divorce I will most likely lose my home and have to start over in an apartment. Is this fair to the kids? They say that they don't want him to come back, but I can't see losing our home. What should I do?
2007-07-18 20:02:27 · 13 answers · asked by emschick722 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YOU need to make up your mind what you want. HE is not going to change.
2007-07-18 20:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other (and you're the only ones who know the answer to that), you should get a little marriage and family counseling to work things out. There are reasons why he's a control freak, and if he's willing to get to the bottom of those issues, he can change, but only if he wants to and realizes it's a problem.
Don't stay with him simply because of a house. A house is just a house. A happy family is what makes a house a HOME. Do what is best for you and your family as a whole. Best of luck to you!
2007-07-18 20:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you first try to work it out with your husband. Maybe try marriage counceling. What are the real problems in the marriage. Try not to make quick decisions without first talking with a third party specialist. Plus, your husband has a right to see the kids.
Ask yourself this question: Do you see yourself divorced, living in an aparment, dating strangers, kids back and forth, money issues, credit issues and all the other things that come into play from a divorce?
Try working it out. Try to address his issues and find out why he is the way he is. Maybe if he gets help, things will be better. Don't make quick decisions overnight.
2007-07-18 21:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce. Your kids don't want him to come back and you've been miserable for eight years. Money can be made easily but family comes first. You have to think about whats best for you and the children. Make the right decision. Follow your heart.
2007-07-18 20:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women always lose in a divorce..Especially financially. But, if you and your kids are happier without him, you could possibly keep the home with dad paying child support and in some states, alimony. You have to make the final decision here, but staying together for monetary gain, usually doesn't work in the long run.. Speak to an attorney..Good Luck
2007-07-18 21:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by Thunderrolls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me facing the opp...
problem is always on $$$ no matter what is in your mind.
think along the line, with what had happened before the seperate, IS IT FAIR TO THE KIDS too?
IF the kids are still young (below 10yrs or so), never mind their opinions.
You are the mother, you can think better, not the kids!
Pain is unaviodable in order to have a newbornfresh start.
Take a step back and think, what do you want for the rest of your life? and what do you want for your kids?
Is holding on to what you have today makes sense for what you want for tomoorow?
You know the answer!
Be strong! Just face it and make it happen.
2007-07-18 20:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by lost man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE GOING TO HAVE TO FIGURE OUT ON YOUR OWN. I WENT THRU THE SAME THING WITH MINE. AND IT WAS 7 MONTHS THAT WE WERE APART. I DID DECIDE TO TAKE MINE BACK. I UNDERSTAND WHERE U ARE COMING FROM, FROM THE FINANCIAL SIDE OF IT. IF THE TWO OF YOU CAN WORK THINGS OUT, THEN I WOULD SAY GO FOR IT. BUT IF NOT THEN YOU KNOW THE REST..... THE MAIN FOCUS RIGHT NOW IS LIKE YOU SAID, THE KIDS... AND THEIR HAPPINESS. YOU JUST CANT PUT A PRICE ON HAVING A PIECE OF MIND, WHETHER YOU ARE IN A HOUSE OR AN APARTMENT... GOOD LUCK.
BOUNCIN OUT~*
2007-07-18 20:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by beckybounce226 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to sound rude bt get a job. because the kids see something you don't and you don't want to be sorry later leave him alone get a job start a life .its hard at first but it works i know i'm doing it now and remember every time one door closes another one opens.
2007-07-18 20:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Willie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
continue with ur divorce plans. can u stand living with a control freak, everyday of every week for the rest of ur life???
2007-07-18 20:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to your heart and kids. you know the answer. money can always be made but love and kids come first. divorce him and move on. good luck
2007-07-18 20:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue for you and the kids to go on being miserable and unhappy until you die*... Or do the opposite and be happy and not miserable by leaving*.... YOUR CHOICE*....
2007-07-19 04:08:40 · answer #11 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋