Marriage & Divorce - 18 July 2007

Hello everyone, My husband and I have been trying desperately to have a baby for about 3 years now. He's a doctor so we've waited until he finished his residency/things settled down a little before starting a family.

Little did we know, I just can't seem to carry past 10 weeks. There have been 4 miscarriages, and we recently tried In Vitro...however, the 3 rounds we tried never took.

My husbands dream, besides being a doctor, is to be a father, and it has taken a toll on him, myself and our marriage.

Now, my sister is pregnant. I'm so happy for her, but her and her husband just got married and already they're expecting. It is hard for my husband and I to be around them, is that normal?

Since my husband is a doctor, he knows all of our options very well, and we have just about tried everything. I have suggested a surrogate but he said he wants me and only me to carry our baby.

Now he is just sad consistanly. I want to help him, he said he is just about done trying...

2007-07-18 02:02:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's easy to say that you divorced because your spouse had an affair or got addicted to something. It seems at least like nearly everyone points to the spouse as the reason for a marriage's failure. But my question is, what could you or should you have done differently in order not to have been in a marriage that ended in divorce? If your ex was adulterous, abusive, or addicted, what signs might you have noticed or paid attention to before marriage, signs that tell you your judgment of character was off? If the divorce was for some other reason, what was your role? What part of the divorce do you consider to be your responsibility? In other words, for what are you to blame for your marriage ending? Finally, if you accept no part of the blame, why not?

2007-07-18 01:49:26 · 22 answers · asked by Happy-2 5

I have been having this strange feeling that something is up with my husband. He has been very grouchy lately. The weird thing is that for some reason, he keeps wanting me to go eat lunch with him, constantly calls me from work, and has been coming home early. I know this is strange, but I am taking it as a guilt trip that he is doing something behind my back. He is totally contradicting himself right now. He wants me there but is always moody. Is this a telltale sign of a cheater? He also has not given in to any sex the last wek or so. He claims he is tired from working out in the sun all day. Before I know it, he is snoring and I get no sex from him but yet he wants to fall asleep hugging me. What gives??

2007-07-18 01:16:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous