I have been having this strange feeling that something is up with my husband. He has been very grouchy lately. The weird thing is that for some reason, he keeps wanting me to go eat lunch with him, constantly calls me from work, and has been coming home early. I know this is strange, but I am taking it as a guilt trip that he is doing something behind my back. He is totally contradicting himself right now. He wants me there but is always moody. Is this a telltale sign of a cheater? He also has not given in to any sex the last wek or so. He claims he is tired from working out in the sun all day. Before I know it, he is snoring and I get no sex from him but yet he wants to fall asleep hugging me. What gives??
2007-07-18 01:16:35 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The worst that makes me feel this way is that he thinks Im totally nuts for thinking this! He says hes tired of me always accusing him and that he has enough problems, he dont have time for cheating. Im just totally confused!!
2007-07-18 01:32:08 · update #1
Whoa, there.....First off, I am obviously a guy but your question interested me.
You might be making a mountain out of a molehill. I have a very simple suggestion for you to try.
He is tired when he gets home, but is obviously missing sex. Here......give him MORNING sex! Send him to work with a smile on his face! Or, give him NOONER sex! Why do you think he wants to have lunch with you?
PLUS.....yeah, you go work outside on construction all day or something and see how you feel when you get home. I've done it.....and you can't believe how whipped tired you would be. You'd be grumpy and ready to snore, too. Wake your man up 20 minutes early with some mind blowing sex tomorrow morning and see if things don't change in a hurry.
By the time he gets home, he's done. Sista.....at least give my suggestion a try! I'm a morning sex kind of guy myself! I need it at 6:00 AM, but at 6:00 PM I'm too grouchy and tired!
2007-07-18 01:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Just because he's acting weird doesn't mean that he's cheating. There are a lot of other things that could cause this, something at work, a problem he's trying to work out, etc. My ex husband cheated on me, and now every time my present husband does anything out of the ordinary, I wonder if he's cheating. Once you've been cheated on it's hard to trust. Don't make a problem where there isn't one just because he's moody. Give him the benefit of the doubt right now, but keep your eyes open. If he's really cheating, you'll know it in your heart.
2007-07-18 01:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lily,
If your gut is telling you something is wrong, then something is wrong. I don't know if he is cheating, but don't ignore your instincts. If you normally have sex more than once a week and he is acting guilty, those are signs. You need to think about when he has time for an extramarital tryst. You say he is coming home early? Does he ever stay out late? Take trips without you? Add logic and reasoning to your instinct and you will likely figure it all out, cheating or not. Good luck.
2007-07-18 01:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more to me like he is needing comfort. Perhaps he thinks you have been cheating.Try to do all the little loving things you did when you first got together. If he is tired from working in the sun all day suggest a shower together when he first gets home then make your advances-if he turns you down-tell him it bothers you that he doesn't want to have sex with you anymore and ask if you did something wrong. Don't accuse him of anything though
2007-07-18 01:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by suan b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not sometimes guys need their gals to be there to vent too about things.
It sounds to me like he feels like he is in a "rut" or feels like life has run him down a little and is turning to you for support.
Shake his world up a bit with a romantic weekend away at a Bed n Breakfast or go see a show in town - get him away from work, home, family, bills, tv and just be with him and tell him you want to just have a weekend with the 2 of you.
Maybe once he's out of his regular bubble he'll relax and really tell you whats bothering him.
2007-07-18 07:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The last part of it is tell tale for men.....going to sleep without even bugging you for sex?
But yes, if you notice a change in his patterns, especially about his work patterns, then he may be cheating, but I'm not a PI yet....I just have the camera.
My ex went to work at an insurance company and left me for a secretary working there. She made all sorts of threats to me over the phone, even when I was working, like he was telling "her" that I was just a girlfriend or something.....lol
Anyways, yes, look for those pattern changes in him and the sex part what you described would concern me, if I were you.....
I'm sorry, but unless other investigation proves otherwise, he is just acting really, really, really weird, and with not sex drive for you.....Hmmmmmm........???????
2007-07-18 01:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in relationships become unfaithfull for a number of reasons... 1.They Do not know how to communicate correctly their needs and wants.... so instead of telling their partner they want more sex,or more attention or whatever it may be they just go find a guy or girl who will give them their need or want. 2.They Get too comfortable with each other and get bored...Men and women both want that exciting feeling when they first met but after a few years partners in the relationship start getting too comfortable they gain some weight,they start to live in sweat pants instead of the tight jeans they used to wear in the begining,they dont fix their hair or put on makeup,the men just pee or take a crap infront of their wives,they both dont take the time to go out on dates,the sex narrows down to maybe once or twice a week when before you were doing it atleast 2 times a day and so on. I dont understand why people cheat whats so hard about telling your partner I need more attention or I want to have more sex you need to get your partner interested aswell as they need to keep you interested aswell dont let yourself go make yourself better keep yourself healthy and take time to help your relationship.
2016-05-21 16:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by bernadine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound like the typical behaviour of a cheating spouse. He sounds like a suspicious spouse, could he suspect that you have been unfaithful? Please dont misunderstand I am not saying you have done anything wrong but maybe he thinks that you have. Other than that something is bothering him and he doesnt know how to tell you or doesnt want to worry you. Give him time and he will tell you what is going on. Hope that helps
2007-07-18 01:32:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was cheated on and after he did he was always super attentive to me and nice to me. He would go see
2007-07-18 01:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin,
I worshiped my husbands every move for 23 years. I to began having some odd feelings and he began acting like your husband also. I busted him and forgave him. I knew in my heart he never could do that to me again because he seen what his cheating did to me. Well low and behold 5yrs later he got caught again and I kicked him out and filed for the divorce. He did the same things your husband is doing. And even if he were doing something different............when you have a gut feeling..........THERE IS A REASON it is called women's intuition. Stick with it darlin
2007-07-18 01:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by jungljn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋