Marriage & Divorce - 18 July 2007

she keeps calling me. She has already said that she wants out, moved out etc;. I accept it and told her that I agree and that we need to end it.Problem is, she just won't leave me alone.I think she is wanting me to close the door permantly on the relationship because she is too iffy or scared to. I think she is the one instigating it and can take the guilt along with all our stuff she has already hauled off. Does anyone agree with me on this?
She has been dragging me around for over 10 months now; seeing me and talking to me at her convenience. Will she ever just leave me alone?

2007-07-18 11:20:13 · 12 answers · asked by Keeper 4

My wife of 25 years cheated on me with a work mate, came clean, told me, said she was sorry, broke off with the other guy and will change jobs in two weeks time. I have decided to give her another chance but the problem is I have difficulties coping with is my head space. I am depressed, insecure, lost my drive my get up and do things drive. She blossemed under the spell of that affair, bought sexy undies, had a full shave and increased her sex drive many times over. All this was done for the other guy - not for me so now my EGO is suffering big time. I loved her so much before and she was so special to me. I tell her what my emotions are and her replies are that I have been on many overseas trips and surely I must have cheated on her too?? The truth is no not once! I'am not a hypocrite and yes there were times when I was attracted to some one else but it never happened! So whats the best way for me to get on with my life?

Please see my previous question for more details

2007-07-18 11:18:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have 2 children who are 3 and 1 yrs. old. I love them dearly and want to make the best of this bad situation. I know this is mostly my fault but part of it lies in our marriage going downhill for the last year or so. I guess I could have found other ways to work on things than doing this but that's water under the bridge now. To make matters more complex, I think I may love this new woman. I'm unsure only because I feel our relationship has been romantic and wonderful but it has been only for short durations (5-7 days at a time when I'm on business trips) so it's never standed the test of "everyday life". Plus I can't tell if I'm holding back my feelings for her because I feel so guilty and ashamed of what I've done. With all this said I feel there is no way out of telling my wife sooner or later so any advice on timing, delivery and anything else would be appreciated.

2007-07-18 11:16:02 · 37 answers · asked by tornwhat2do 1

wat r some good roleplaying ideas because my birthday is coming up and my wife as me wat do i want and i want a roleplay wat r some good ones thanks

2007-07-18 11:08:05 · 16 answers · asked by t(-_-)y 3

untill ten years ago i was very happy with friends round me i could trust that i had know for twenty years i then had a relationship at work and every body was supportive of this relationship but when this relationship ended ihad a nervous breckdown not because the relationship but because i got bullied out of my job and threated by one of his mates and iwalked out of my jobs to get away from this but my worked mates turned my own friends against me and they also started to bully me and then ihad to turn my back on them to get away from it since then i have had 2 jobs and bin married and divorced to aman who turn into a bullly but want i want ican.t seem to get back which is having people around me that i can trust and stay with me through thick and thin and will do nothing to hurt hurt me want can ido

2007-07-18 10:53:23 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

But she wants to have it with my best friend. He's cool with the idea. It would only be oral between the two of them. Is this weird? What should I do?

2007-07-18 10:42:59 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

sex yet for a another 4 weeks with all the heeling i have to do so i tryed to get my husband to just kiss me and hold me and he wont i dont know what is wrong with him i cant even get him to look at me it amkes me feel so bad that im starting to think he cheating on me. what should i do say somthing to him or just wait it out?

2007-07-18 10:29:50 · 25 answers · asked by michelle 2 2

I have a friend that is going through a nasty divorce. He kicked her and her 4 children out of the home. She had no choice but to move in with her sister and her husband. Now her brother-in-law 14 YEARS AGO had statutory rape charges against him. (He was 18 and a female friend told him that she was 18 too but she was only 15) He did his time and all the other required things. He has not been in trouble since then. Can her sister's soon to be ex husband use that against her in court to get custody of the children.

2007-07-18 10:27:20 · 8 answers · asked by penglish51877 2

I had an affair on my wife of 11 years because I have never loved her. I don't want to mess my child up and have been divorced for a little over a year. The person I had an affair with didn't work out and my ex-wife has consistently pursued me to get me back. My ex is a good mother and is a good woman, but I never had the same feelings I had for the other woman. My family and extended family has been torn to shreds over this and I am thinking about giving it another try to try and make things right. I feel so guilty about everything. Could this possibly work?

2007-07-18 10:25:56 · 22 answers · asked by Chad W 1

do you cook dinner every night?
does he expect dinner every single night

2007-07-18 10:19:45 · 19 answers · asked by auroa26 3

My best friend is in a divorce and has distanced herself from me. We used to be very close. She gave him 1 last chance and from what I hear he screwed it up. He wanted her to give up our friendship. She did not want to give up our friendship. But she is still very distant. We have always been there for each other. I do not know what is going on with her and I am trying to coup with that fact. I do not have my best friend to talk to help understand and my other friends do not really know her. I just wish I knew where we stand now and what will come of our friendship. I am between giving alot of space and calling and saying what's up? I am truly hurting inside and I want to say screw it all or crying. I hate drama and this is alot of drama. I love her dearly and we used to always talk and have a great time together. We both feel complete when we are together. We used to be able to confide in each other. She is pulling away and I feel I am losing my oldest and dearest friend. Hurting

2007-07-18 10:19:43 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, Well last night...Tha boy that i have liked for i don`t know about 4 months..Well he had a girlfriend.Last night he called me. I didn`t answer cause i thought he was going to be mean. He left a vm saying ''Hey this is Nick seen that you called so i just returned ur call'' Then i texted him saying. Why did you call meh n such. He said cus you called meh i`m like well you d0n`t care. Then he said right bye. Then i`m like if you didn`t care you wouldn`t have called meh. Then i kept making him Laugh don`t know how. Then i`m like how are u in your gf. He didn`t say nothing..So i just blew it off. Then i`m like well ima go. He is like no. I`m like why he said because i don`t want you too..Well then like 30 mintues later He said well i`m fixing to go to bed. I`m like ok then i said ''I love you'' he said ''I love you to baby'' I was so happy LOLZ! Do you think him in his girlfriend are broken up?! Becuz he didn`t act like this when they were together..

2007-07-18 10:13:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

she e-mailed you six months after the affair to see how you were.

She was totally hot and nice, no exchange of "I love you's" or feelings, you just got along great and were very compatible kissers.

Would you respond to her even if you felt bad about the whole thing and really loved your wife?

2007-07-18 09:53:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend has an child and is going through a divorce and her ex husband is crazy....into drugs ... forgery...the manipulative type. The child told the ex husband that I hit her even though I didn't and then the child changed her mind and said I didnt hit her. He said he wants to meet with me and the mom and child. He has filled her mind with lies with the one visitation day a week he does have. hes manipulating his own child to cause trouble. Everyone has restraining orders on this guy even his own family. Should I meet with him? My concerns are making it seem to the child as if they are choosing between us. She told her dad that she doesnt feel comfortable around me....even though she is 5 and runs to me everytime i'm around. Its obvious he is lying to her. What should i do?

2007-07-18 09:50:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-18 09:47:29 · 19 answers · asked by Morley 5

can she do that? we have had our problems but have made a fresh start and are really happy. when my boyf told the kids they were fine. but she has told them that im allowed nowhere near them. this is a bit hard as he usually has them over the weekend. every time we try talking to her she screams and shouts and insults both of us. can she stop the kids coming over?

2007-07-18 09:47:18 · 70 answers · asked by brit a 1

stay in a relationship u have been in for 6 years ..although there are huge problems..and one partner doesnt want to even talk or act like anything is wrong...but u know how to deal with it..even though u are unhappy..or try to develop a new relationship...or just try to be on your own for a awhile?

2007-07-18 09:45:04 · 13 answers · asked by Kimmie B 4

My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs,i am 38,he is 42 and we have a decent and satisfying sex life make love 2-3 times a week..Of course he has no problem talking about our sex life in fact in the last couple yrs he has open up more about it but a few times just to see what his reaction would be i mentioned masturbation and fantasies but he clams up and doesnt seem comfortable talking about these subjects..He has always seemed like a strait-laced guy like never watch porn,buy/look at dirty magazines..When we met he was 25,never had been in a serious relationship and was still a virgin cause he was waiting for the right 1 and didnt wanna have sex with just any girl...Like i said just in the last few yrs he has become more open in talking about our sex life plus we have been talking about buyin a porn movie since neither 1 of us has ever seen 1 and are curious to see what their like..So does he sound weird and is there any way to get him to open up more.

2007-07-18 09:42:55 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

I married my husband 6 months ago and I've gained fifty pounds. He says he doesn't care. Is he lying?

2007-07-18 09:42:09 · 35 answers · asked by Breckett 2

to have a serious commited relationship with a divorced woman? What if you family didn't want you to marry a divorced woman?

2007-07-18 09:38:24 · 5 answers · asked by Centered 4

Most guys when we hear about marriage is like calling the devil. Why is so normal for women to talk about it ? Can somebody just say something?!

2007-07-18 09:37:07 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think marriages would last longer....

2007-07-18 09:10:46 · 48 answers · asked by ScorpionOfLove 2

I've been in limbo for two months now stupidly waiting for a girl who will never be mine yet I still can't make sense of it. She wanted to go out with me yet decided after a few weeks to get back with her ex for "the sake of her kid." I knew the fact she had a kid would have made any relationship difficult and that she probably still loved her ex. However, I didn't find this out until about six weeks ago when I asked her what her intentions were. Despite the fact I feel like an idiot it hasn't helped with her telling friends that she knows she'd be happier with me. She's now getting married although she seems to change her mind every other day. Her parents don't even like their grandkid staying with the father when she's there because they are always arguing! They missed out on a house because he couldn't be bothered to fill in a form properly. He's a loser and has hit her in the past yet she's gone back for more. It's just so hard for me to understand her or why I'm still interested?

2007-07-18 09:07:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

can this actually happen after many years of marriage and kids?
I honestly think I may be beginning to hate him, I hate when it's time for him to come home.......
I can't stand to look at his face.......
I dread bedtime...........
I'm just so tired of his anger, his outbursts, his accusations and his complete control of my life etc........
How do I explain all this to the kids?

2007-07-18 09:00:16 · 38 answers · asked by Niki 2

There was a study i saw on yahoo the other day that says that men who let their wife take care of everything(making decisions concerning finances ect...) have a happier marriage and are less prone to arguing with each other.
Do you believe in that?.

2007-07-18 08:57:58 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married a little over 2.5 yrs and have had many problems.My husband wanted me to get pregnant almost instantly after we got married he even had a deadline for when he wanted kids.The constant pressure from him to get me pregnant made sex misreable for me especially because i could not seem to get pregnant.I was unaware of his expectations before we got married and also had no idea he expected me to be a house wife( like his mother).I felt like i was being forced fed all of this.This all caused a never ending cycle of fights and eventually my husband started having an affair with his secratary almost 1.5 into our marriage.I found out we seperated for 3 months during that time i started having a fling with an ex.bf (first bf) because i wanted someone to cling too.Half the time we used condoms the other half not.I ended it when my husband Called to say he wanted to work things out.I found out I was pregnant with my now 1 month old son and am now unsure of paternity?

2007-07-18 08:54:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

signed: Baby Suri

2007-07-18 08:52:48 · 9 answers · asked by Josh Fenix 1

Getting married soon and I'm curious what you've experienced that you didn't expect...

2007-07-18 08:49:55 · 27 answers · asked by Mrs.10/18/08 4

I seem to find faults and have doubts with most women, They are mean. some are selfish, to proud, etc,.
I know I am not perfect myself, but am willing to give my shirt off my back' to give and take women, Please dont say you have not met the right one, Iv been around the block?

2007-07-18 08:45:46 · 16 answers · asked by denis9705 5

2007-07-18 08:41:04 · 5 answers · asked by brwolfkk 1