she keeps calling me. She has already said that she wants out, moved out etc;. I accept it and told her that I agree and that we need to end it.Problem is, she just won't leave me alone.I think she is wanting me to close the door permantly on the relationship because she is too iffy or scared to. I think she is the one instigating it and can take the guilt along with all our stuff she has already hauled off. Does anyone agree with me on this?
She has been dragging me around for over 10 months now; seeing me and talking to me at her convenience. Will she ever just leave me alone?
2007-07-18 11:20:13 · 12 answers · asked by Keeper 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she likes talking to you when she wants to and doing what she wants, you need to not feel like you have to answer the phone or return the phone call.it is about control and if she thinks you are at her beck and call. she will continue to call or contact you!!
2007-07-18 11:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by c w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand! I am in the same situation! I have been separated for 1 1/2 years. Filed the papers 3 months ago and it still hasn't ended! It is like his voice is an addiction to me - a weird fix! I don't have to see him... only hear his voice. Maybe this is what is happening. I suggest we do this together... stop the nonsense! I really want to move on with my live, but I lack the guts to move on.. I feel like I have failed the other person... the only person I have ever said "I do" to. Tell her how you feel.... see how she reacts... if she acts like she cares.. then ask her..." why did you leave, etc." if she acts like she cares, yet don't want to do anymore than a whim phone call or stop by... tell her you deserve better and there are tons of women calling you, asking you out, and you have decided to find the women you have searched your entire life for... tell her you don't have time for immature crap and you want a real relationship. Then really move on. Stick to it and don't accept phone calls. Even if you have to pretend you are happy - DO IT!
2007-07-18 12:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by MurphysGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reading this, the only question i have is, Have you filed papers? I think she thinks you'll tell her to come back. You need to do it.. 10 months? someone needs to get off the schnid and do something... Will she ever leave you alone? yes if you file and tell her too... GOOD GOD!!!
2007-07-18 11:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to pop her in the pooper - that ought to chase her away for good !!!
Dude - just file the papers and get on with it. Sounds like both of you want out, but you are BOTH too scared to be the one who pulls the trigger.
Maybe you both "need" to have it be the other's fault.
Just file and get it over with.
2007-07-18 11:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by aa889d 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She won't stop until you put your foot down. If you know it's over then maybe you should express that to her. Let her know you would like to start dating and this relationship can't go on any longer.
2007-07-18 11:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem? been married for 10 months,and suddenly she a stalker...too aggressive,no trust..is she using you,or abusing you..It sound like two teenagers and immature debating on who right and and i'm wrong!!!
2007-07-18 12:12:46 · answer #6 · answered by atsinrocpalms 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but it doesn't sound like you really want it to end either. If you do, then be done. Don't accept her calls. If you feel guilty, then you really don't want to end it. I mean, she left. Unless you have kids, I don't see why you have to speak to her at all. (I'm not trying to be rude. Just sensing that you really aren't done at all.)
2007-07-18 11:29:26 · answer #7 · answered by Amy P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File papers, and have no further communication with her. Allow your lawyer to speak for you from here on out.
2007-07-18 11:26:35 · answer #8 · answered by Pedro the lawnboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just quit talking to her. Don't tell her anything at all, she eventually will get the hint and go away.
2007-07-18 12:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you stop answering the phone and the door.
2007-07-18 11:41:59 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋