What has surprised you most about married life?

Question

Getting married soon and I'm curious what you've experienced that you didn't expect...

Answer 1

It's THE hardest thing you'll ever have done in your ENTIRE life by an ENORMOUS margin! THE hardest thing is always having to "put water in your wine", always having to talk things out, never letting fights fester - that kind of sappy give & take, apologizing, making amends, all that crap. Sadly, it's necessary.

Listen to me: do me and your future husband a favor. You're gonna think I'm out of line here, and I very well might be and I apologize (I'm good at that by now). But if you're the type of girl to wear high heels and thongs and have your hair and nails done and wear $exy underthings and what not? DON'T STOP JUST BECAUSE YOU'RE MARRIED! My biggest disappointment is that all that fun stuff went into a box in the attic after our honeymoon and never came out again. Friends of mine had told me that it was going to be like this and I didn't believe them. What a sucker I've been. If you're hot and working him with your hotness, DON'T STOP BECAUSE YOU'RE MARRIED! It's the highway to disillusionment about marriage.

Mankind thanks you.

Answer 2

When my husband and I got married we knew each other pretty well, so the thing that surprised me most was actually external to our marriage.
After the wedding our friends, (my husbands friends, my friends and our mutual friends) suddenly stopped inviting us out to all those weekend parties, movies, clubs etc. We eloped so I know this wasn't a result of being a Bridezilla ; ) !
It was strange though, my husband and I lived together for several years before getting married, and we were never the kind of couple that needed to spend every waking minute together, so we had pretty active social lives, both together and separately.
After the wedding though, my friends felt weird about just inviting me out without my husband ( and his felt the same way) and our mutual single friends suddenly felt like third wheels.
It was probably due to the fact that we were the first of our group to get married - but who knows.
Good Luck with your wedding!

Answer 3

That after the 1st 6 months - 1 year of being married, he did less and less for me around the house. I now have to do all of the household duties including mowing the yard and taking out the trash. We've each been faithful to each other and still have an ok life behind closed doors, but sometime I just feel like smacking him upside the head. So do yourself and your new wife a favor and do those little things (without being asked) around the house for her every once in a while...dishes, taking out trash, etc...etc. To me, I'd much rather have my husband do little things like that for me than get flowers (he doesn't do that either though). Good luck!

Answer 4

I like reading all the light hearted, even humorous answers to your question. However mine comes from a little bit more of a serious note. I've not been married long at all, but what has hit me upside the head like a ton of bricks is that even though he has repeatedly promised his undying and committed love to me, and I truly feel he'll never leave me, I don't just get his love because I'm entitled to it. I have to be a good wife! Doh! Ok I'm adding a little humor here, but seriously, I somehow lost sight of what *I* was supposed to be to him, and focused on what I wanted from him instead. First mistake, and really, I'm glad I'm learning it this early on. I know I married a good man, but he's human too. If I am the best wife I can possibly be to him, he will be good to me, but I'm not just entitled to it because he said "I do."

Answer 5

How quickly time passes. We still can't believe we've been together as long as we have been. We've been together almost 20 years and married nearly 16. It just doesn't seem like that much time has passed! We still feel like we did when we first met. I'm surprised that we still find many things to talk about and still get excited when we can spend time alone together. He still totally does it for me, in all ways! :)

Answer 6

My laundry load increased by a factor of 10. I didn't realize how big men's shoes really were - until they were all over the house. My grocery bill tripled. There suddenly was beer in my refrigerator - there suddenly was FOOD in my refrigerator. It took every clean towel in the linen closet to dry him off after a shower - and they all ended up on the floor. My stuff kept migrating to the top shelf where I couldn't reach it.

Answer 7

No, on the grounds that starts an entire new tale line of Sami, Lucas, EJ and the infant which would be EJ's. So it will be a Brady having a DeMira infant and Sami and Lucas' combat to hold directly to that infant. OOOOO i won't be able to attend! Atleast that's what i think of is going to take place.

Answer 8

You learn to get through your ups and downs together through thick and thin, how to compromise, and work together. How you can love this person with your whole heart just to have them tick you off so quickly and within 5 minutes make you love them like crazy again. The most amazing thing is finding out how soft hearted and tender your guy really is...especially when they see their first child born.

Answer 9

The amount of sex goes straight to hell, and if you go "down" on him now please keep doing it after you get married, or it will seem like all forms of sex were ways of getting him to get married and being used as a tool. Otherwise I lived with my wife for a year before we got married and nothing changed.

Answer 10

My husband discovered all kinds of "free time" he didn't have before, because now he didn't have to "date" me,
he figured his evenings were his! Also, I moved into his house after the wedding, and he had some trouble adjusting
to me messing with his stuff. So did his mom! We have
3 kids now, and he has figured it out. LOL!