What do you do when you feel like you are losing your best friend of 16 years. She is getting a divorce.?

Question

My best friend is in a divorce and has distanced herself from me. We used to be very close. She gave him 1 last chance and from what I hear he screwed it up. He wanted her to give up our friendship. She did not want to give up our friendship. But she is still very distant. We have always been there for each other. I do not know what is going on with her and I am trying to coup with that fact. I do not have my best friend to talk to help understand and my other friends do not really know her. I just wish I knew where we stand now and what will come of our friendship. I am between giving alot of space and calling and saying what's up? I am truly hurting inside and I want to say screw it all or crying. I hate drama and this is alot of drama. I love her dearly and we used to always talk and have a great time together. We both feel complete when we are together. We used to be able to confide in each other. She is pulling away and I feel I am losing my oldest and dearest friend. Hurting

Answer 1

Gently with out pushing let her know you are still around if she wants to talk. You could do this with a card or short message. That just says Thinking of you - I'm here if you want to talk. Then leave it up to her to reach out when she is ready.
Sometimes just knowing that there is someone that will listen, and not try to tell you what to do or to rush in like they think they can fix things is a great gift, even if she doesn't call right away you have given her the knowledge that it is a option, and that you are no comdeming her.
Love speaks best in quiet tones.

Answer 2

You have already come between her and her husband.Is everything about you?Do you love your friend enough to give her up?Maybe she can salvage her marriage if you give them some space.I think you should back off and let her contact you.2 is a pair, 3 is a crowd.

Answer 3

I'm betting she needs you now more than ever. Get over there with margarita's now!! Who else can she relate to like you? Nobody! Get over there and be a shoulder to cry on. Listen to her like only you can. She'll appreciate it!