Marriage & Divorce - 18 July 2007

my husband seems to be keeping to himself lately. when i want to talk about everyday things like bills and kids he shrugs me off, and has a very short fuse. i'm frustrated with the fact that he dosent seem to care about anything right now.

2007-07-18 15:22:12 · 12 answers · asked by amersunshine 2

2007-07-18 15:12:25 · 24 answers · asked by Page 4

3 years today. I wrote my husband a very sweet card last night and put it by his ring and watch so he would get it on his way out to work....tonight we had planned for dinner and shopping for our gifts together. So far I have no card, no flowers sent to me at work, and I don't think he has any surprise planned for later....don't ask me how I can tell - I just can.

Should I stop expecting too much? I wanted some romance. Our previous anniversary I made all the plans. The first one he was very romantic. What gives???

2007-07-18 15:04:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I got into a fight today about her allowance. I have been giving her $20 dollars per week as allowance but she seems to think thats too little! You know women these days, they want everything. They need expensive starbucks lattes, fancy clothes, big gas guzzling SUVs so they can feel safe, etc. We've come to the conclusion that $20 isn't enough and we need to increase it.

So what do you guys think? I'll tell you what i think. I think she should get $40 per week. I think thats a reasonable number given my salary of 75k/year. We need to save all we can for a house, retirement, and college costs for the kids we'll be having.

2007-07-18 14:49:54 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous

So if a wife is planning on leaving her husband for reasons justifiable and is ready to move on completely, finds out she is pregnant, is it a horrible thing to decide not to bring a child into the world that will automatically be part of a broken home? Also, the husband already has 2 children from previous relationship that he can't raise or live with, why add one more? What is the general consensus on this? The mother/wife does not love the husband and is ready completely to be alone with her own son from previous marriage. Is abortion wrong in this case?

2007-07-18 14:44:00 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-18 14:41:17 · 13 answers · asked by Schmuck 1

2007-07-18 14:30:03 · 8 answers · asked by natiki lou 1

What age did you get married? Do you regret it or no? Why?

2007-07-18 13:56:53 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous

Say you really like this guy, he likes you but you don't know if he is the 'one'. He needs a green card-marriage is the way..would you marry him to help him out?

2007-07-18 13:28:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I tend to be so emotional and tend to focus only on how I feel. Any ideas on how to change my behavior or how not to take things so personal?

2007-07-18 13:22:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband is in the military and stationed in nc we had planned on going to la during thanksgiving to visit family but he is starting college next month and will only have 5 days total to take the trip and it's an 15hr drive. my question is how do i break this to my mil she blames me for everything and always tells me how sorry we'll be since we don't visit enough in her eyes now my parents have less then 5yrs to live and they understand and even come visit us but his parents never do they say they don't have money then go on a cruise is there anyway to break it to her even if my husband does to let her know that this was not my planning but a change we hadn't planned for we plan on going for as long as possible but i don't want her guilt and blaming any ideas.

2007-07-18 13:16:48 · 8 answers · asked by ASHLEIGH P 3

My gf is very attractive, religious, intelligent, etc. My issue is that she is rather inconsiderate at times. I open the car door for her, she just get's in and sits there, not opening the door for me.

Forgot my b day and apologized next day, stating she would make it up to me. I had to tell her to buy me a gift and she did, spending more money than I thought she would.

Once in the six months we've been dating, was she 40+ minutes late. I had to call her to find out what was up. Her bird crapped on her stuff and she was embarrased to tell me that's why she was going to be late. She agreed to call next time, but was late again a week later, but she called. Then again a week later only she was 20 minutes late, but no phone call.

There are a lot of little things like this, some worse than what I have mentioned. She is a good girl, no xzex before marraige, etc. but even though I talked to her about this stuff recently, even though she tries to correct it, it's always something.

2007-07-18 13:02:52 · 16 answers · asked by jason j 1

I have read a lot of sayings. people said it is better if yer hubby loves u more. but it doesnt mean i have to marry someone whom i have no feeling with right? someone also said it is best to choose someone financially stable. well yes, that sounds right.
so how do u made the decision? i believe, in a woman's life, she will meet countless man. and i think those who is suitable to be her hubby are absolutely more than 3 people. For me, I want to get the best that I can get. is it wrong to think like that? if not, how to choose the best (that i can get and is suitable)?

2007-07-18 12:58:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is ill. I have been asked more than once by different nurses why I married him. I find that rude and don't know how to handle it nor what to make of it. We have been together for 13 years, and were married two years ago.

2007-07-18 12:57:01 · 8 answers · asked by goodness 3

I have a lot of dating experience and have read more than a few books on dating and the psychology of male and female courting. Having experienced it first hand I know for a fact that falling in love, or out of love for that matter are not logical, conscious choices. There are external things that we see, hear, feel and smell that trigger attraction in us. You can fall in love, get married and 1,2 or 50 years later fall out of love, or worse yet, fall in love with someone else that is more physically attractive, funnier, has more money, than your current spouse and since we are emotional creatures we tend to stray. I would like to think my hot yet uber religious gf who wants to wait until married is above this but I am worried that since she has had sex with one man already, shortly after she was date raped by another, that even she may give in to temptation. Only thing that comforts me is knowing that she abstained several years before and several years after/since then.

2007-07-18 12:54:08 · 17 answers · asked by jason j 1

2007-07-18 12:53:30 · 3 answers · asked by music4life 1

Do you tell each other you love each other every day? Do you kiss goodbye everyday? I hate hearing from people since my fiance and I are a newly engaged couple, when someone over hears us say "pumpkin" or "hunny" they are like "oh wait ten years and see if it's still like that!" My response back is "I hope so!" Please give me faith and tell me that there are married couples out there that still love each other madly?!?!?!

2007-07-18 12:52:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I hear people saying that you should stay married...work at it etc..which is good but what if a person is unhappy and it is not really a true ''marriage'' but a ''prison'' of sorts if you know what i mean..Isn't it better for the kids if you split even if it would hurt for a while..at least the kids won't have to see loveless parents and unhappy people as an example of marriage...what kind of marriage is that an example of?

2007-07-18 12:48:41 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm engaged and have been having alot of issues with my fiance. perhaps i'm just hormonal, but i'm beginning to feel like i'd just rather be by myself. Everyone says we should get married because we're having a child--is this really how it is supposed to be?

2007-07-18 12:47:14 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-18 12:44:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

well since my dad is going to leave me the youngest son his house what should i do w/ my 19 yr old sister should i kick her out should i let her stay w/ my own rules. my sisters is one of those party crazy girls im in the progress of becoming a police officer i dont want her coming home waking up my wife and kids help!

2007-07-18 12:43:09 · 9 answers · asked by Chito T 2

Hi,
I got married in India and its been registered in India. I got divorce in USA, after 8 months of marriage. I was the petitioner and judgment was default, as he did not respond to any of my petions/summons. I have all the documents and proof of service to my summons/petitions. I have had served all the required documents and filed them all at local court. Now I got the default divorce judgment. The reason for divorce in petition was incredible differences, but the reason was that he was a abuser, he abused me physically and mentally for all over the period of 8 months during the marriage. I do have the copy of police record where he accepted his fault. Now is this divorce legal in India? Do I need to any thing more? Please advice. Thanks.

2007-07-18 12:37:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Consulted with divorce attorney today. She is the lawyer that my sister used and also a coworker used her.

Lawyer says that MI law prohibits a person from purchasing a gun if they have a restraining order (personal protection order) against someone.

After hearing my story, she thinks it'll be wise for me to buy a gun BEFORE filing for divorce. This way, if he goes psycho on me, I'll be able to protect myself. My husband already has a CCW license and carries a gun everywhere with him.

I'm suddenly really afraid. Reality is setting in and I'm realizing that this could be a life or death situation. It's been many years, but he has gone psycho on me before.

I've always been afraid of guns and never want to be near them. Guns and high emotions just don't mix.

I have a teenager and a toddler in my home.

Would you get a gun and file for divorce? Or chicken out and continue to live unhappily?

Please don't suggest counseling, it takes two to make it work.

2007-07-18 12:25:44 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-18 12:19:33 · 30 answers · asked by Billie 5

I met a beautiful young lady, a dream come true, however after a few months of dating and falling in love with her I found out she had extra baggage. She is married and never got a divorce. I was almost living with her. One day we received a call from the hospital saying that her long lost husband was ill and needed help. Being the person that she is she consented to take care of him and I went back to my own apartment. We however still date. She says she cannot divorce him in his time of extreme need. I just don't know what to do, I love her so much! She loves me also. What are we going to do? She even considered getting a divorce and marrying me however she feels that if she did this at this time her children and family would hate her for divorcing him now that he is seriously ill. I don't think anyone would mind considering all the things he took her and his family through! Such as abuse physical, mental, sexual, emotional and etc.

2007-07-18 12:10:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Long-term married couples, what's your recipe for success?

2007-07-18 11:58:49 · 19 answers · asked by John Doe 1st 4

My wife and I have been married for 3 years but yet we trust issues and no communication. She told me today on the phone she does not choose to make time for me. I love my wife as I should and I do not cheat on her. But it is getting to be to much should I leave before I do something stupid and compromise who I am? or just stay and try to work it out...

2007-07-18 11:47:50 · 22 answers · asked by robbytbrand 1

For some reason i do not tell my wife everything. Due to I want to avoid confrontation with her, but she finds out anyway and she gets hurt because i did'nt tell her. Why can't I share everything. Is their something wrong with me?

2007-07-18 11:41:53 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I bought my ex a birthday gift in Feb and she broke up with me in Mar. Her birthday is this weekend. I know that she is involved with someone else. I suspect (strongly, with evidence) that she broke up with me to be with him. I know I am still not over her. I am thinking about sending this gift to her.
Advice...

2007-07-18 11:41:47 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend is away on the weekdays because of work and he comes home on the weekends......well My mother finally decided that my son, Isaiah can spend the night....so this will be a long time need day off from parenthood. we are young (20) so I want to do something exciting something that will make the night fun for both of us.....especially him!! I dont know if we'll have money or not because I'm not sure when he gets paid so any and all suggestions will help..

Thank You Thank You!!! :)

2007-07-18 11:32:54 · 8 answers · asked by U1S2K3O4 2