Do you tell each other you love each other every day? Do you kiss goodbye everyday? I hate hearing from people since my fiance and I are a newly engaged couple, when someone over hears us say "pumpkin" or "hunny" they are like "oh wait ten years and see if it's still like that!" My response back is "I hope so!" Please give me faith and tell me that there are married couples out there that still love each other madly?!?!?!
2007-07-18 12:52:55 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, there ARE married couples out there that still love each other madly. Most have LOTS of problems, but work through them together and treat each other with love and respect.
There are good times and bad times. After 10 years (or 10 weeks) there will be times that 'jerk' will come to mind instead of 'hunny'. If you give in and say it, expect to think it more often and hear it back more often, too. When you are a family, you are both likely to treat each other as you treat the families you are part of now. How do you treat your parents and siblings? How does your spouse treat their parents and siblings? That is the best crystal ball you are likely to see.
If you want to be one of those "married couples out there that still love each other madly", you will BOTH have to work at it all of the time, but it is worth it. There are a few things that might make it easier:
If your fiance treats you, family or others, disrespectfully or dishonestly or with no patience, do not think they will change for the better when they marry... THEY WON'T. Pull the plug immediately and start looking again.
Look for someone with a similar cultural, ethnic, and religious background. Wider differences in these areas can add greater stress to an already stressful undertaking.
Look for someone with SOME similar interests. Common ground is important. However, some differences allow you to complement each other and add variety to life.
Remember how you feel NOW. Write it down! Make sure you will be able to remember it clearly later. There will be times when that may be the only thing that gets you over rough spots.
Marriage is and should be a commitment. Make the commitment to yourself, before the marriage: that you will stick together, even through the roughest times; that you will give 100% even when you feel like your spouse is giving 1%; that you will build your spouse up (especially in front of others), even when you feel like you are being pulled down. Remember that at these times your spouse may feel that the roles are reversed. Maintain respect, decency, honesty, patience, hope, and love.
Finally, and possibly most importantly: make God part of your marriage. In a world of greys, God provides a rock of absolute which can strengthen the foundation of a marriage. Make it a three way partnership. Pray together and let your faith help you find solutions to the problems which always arise.
Hope this helps.
2007-07-18 13:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by oldguy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Madly, maybe not. My late DH and I kissed goodbye or hello everyday for 13 years. We called each other "Precious" from LOTR and a play we saw a few months after we married.
Romance burns down over the years, but that's because romance feeds on uncertainty. If you're sure of his love and yours, the feeling is different, but just as fine. Some people add a lack of recognition to certainty, so they quit the cute names and kisses, but they're foolish. No couple divorcing ever says, "We kissed every day for 10 years and then it was over."
2007-07-18 13:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I have been married 30 years and we say I love you everyday. In fact everything about our marriage is better now than it ever was. We talk more than in the beginning. The sex is wonderful and he still makes me weak in the knees! We actually LIKE each other. Don't get me wrong it has been work at times but I can safely say that we didn't give up and got through the tough times. Neither one of us strayed or lost hope. So take heart and always say I love you. Good Luck
2007-07-18 13:18:04 · answer #3 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I (second marriages) have been together for 16 years and married for 13. We kiss goodbye everyday, and when he comes home. We call each other babycakes...cakes for short. We call each other throughout the day to just say hi. He calls me to let me know he's on his way home from work. And with every kiss or call, we always say I love you. Yes, it can be done but it takes communication, honesty and respect. If you lose any one of those things, the rest will go with it.
2007-07-18 13:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married couple still love each other after years of marriage, it is just not as "pumpkiny" all the time.
The expression of the honeymoon being over is the truth.
With that said, it is not bad. In fact my wife and I love each other dearly. We say "I love you" more than once a day. While there are not always kiss goodbye...kids sometimes prevent this as they tend to run out the door and all over, there is always a good bye, dirve carefully, etc.
Good luck with your marriage.
2007-07-18 12:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then keep the faith. It is possible. It is work, you both have to remember to do it everyday. That is probably why those people don't do it everyday anymore. They allowed other things to get in the way of the most important parts of their day and now their marriages are not going so well. Their own fault!
2007-07-18 12:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by msims52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my wife and I have been married for just under 3 years but we still have pet names for each other. We also kiss every time we see each other after we have been apart. Don't get me wrong we have our issues but I feel it is very important to show our love to each other regardless of what is happening.
2007-07-18 13:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there are.
I have been married for 12 years. Every day we tell each other "i love you". Everyday we kiss goodbye.
We still call each other pet names.
Pay no attention to those ignorant people and keep on loving each other. Those people are just jealous of what you have.
2007-07-18 13:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband have been together for 8 years and married for only one. We don't tell each other we love each other everyday we just show it. Your marriage is going to be what you make of it. All I can say is don't let other people dictate the outcome.Good Luck!
2007-07-18 12:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by badkia78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've been married 12 years and still say I love you every day. We still use pet names and kiss all the time. So, keep the faith.
2007-07-18 14:57:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋