I have read a lot of sayings. people said it is better if yer hubby loves u more. but it doesnt mean i have to marry someone whom i have no feeling with right? someone also said it is best to choose someone financially stable. well yes, that sounds right.
so how do u made the decision? i believe, in a woman's life, she will meet countless man. and i think those who is suitable to be her hubby are absolutely more than 3 people. For me, I want to get the best that I can get. is it wrong to think like that? if not, how to choose the best (that i can get and is suitable)?
2007-07-18 12:58:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Drink so much that all you can think about the day after your marriage is your hangover.
2007-07-18 13:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by Craig 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't about who loves who more. It's about finding out through dating who has the same life goals as you, do they want children and how many, are your career goals and financial attitudes the same, does a religious base matter and are you on the same page with it. This just isn't about love, it's about an entire life together. Being in love is how you may start but that won't insure a good choice if these other things haven't been discussed and agreed on. Marriage requires open communication, honesty and respect. Without that, there is no marriage. So while you are dating and thinking you are in love, make sure you find out all these key factors before making a decision. Your chances of making the right decision will be so much higher. You sound very young and without much experience. Give yourself some time to grow up before trying to decide what a good husband will be for you.
2007-07-18 20:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do your best to choose someone with the same priorities as you with whom you can easily laugh and have fun. But don't expect that you will always be happy, people change, there are fights and stressful times, and inevitably there will be days on which you will think marrying someone else would have been better. The important thing is that you are reasonably happy with the guy, not that he is the "best" possible one for you.
2007-07-18 22:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...MARRY WITH CONFIDENCE...or don't marry at all...
2nd of all..remind yourself that it isn't JUST you that dreamed of getting married..men do as well we're just more discreet about it..
you should have been reading self help books about marriage and studied who you are as a person...because if you do not have your own level of confidence ..it doesn't matter how good of a person your husband may be...you are NOT up to date with who you are..and if you don't love yourself..how will he?
get books that will help you understand men better...here is a cliff note into most men..
feed us...and love us..the rest will take care of itself..
2007-07-18 20:30:04 · answer #4 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he easy to talk to? Does he make you laugh? Is he there for you during the hard times? Do you get butterflies every time you see him at the end of the day? Does he make you weak in the knees with just a touch?
If you answered yes to all of these, he is The One. If you answered no to ANY of them, he is not it.
2007-07-18 20:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by msims52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have second thoughts about marrying the guy, don't marry him.
You'll be divorced in days.
Don't waste each others' time and money. Find someone to love, whom you feel connected to, then marry him.
2007-07-18 20:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ones perfect, either u have money but might not be happy if your happy you might not have money, its better to choose someone that you know you can make a life with.
2007-07-18 20:04:10 · answer #7 · answered by califababy25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
such decisions should be matters of the heart....it should be all about love and not material things.
2007-07-18 20:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋