Should you stay married if unhappy all the time?

Question

I hear people saying that you should stay married...work at it etc..which is good but what if a person is unhappy and it is not really a true ''marriage'' but a ''prison'' of sorts if you know what i mean..Isn't it better for the kids if you split even if it would hurt for a while..at least the kids won't have to see loveless parents and unhappy people as an example of marriage...what kind of marriage is that an example of?

Answer 1

too general, didn't state the reason you are unhappy. maybe can be fixed if you try

Answer 2

It's a tough situation. Children learn about relationships from their parents and if you are portraying a miserable and loveless marriage there's a chance that's what they will expect and think is normal later in life. If you feel you've really worked at it and given it all you can and it's never going to change then maybe you should get out...everyone deserves to be happy and maybe you can each find someone you love and you can give your kids positive relationship examples that way. Just make sure your kids know that just because you aren't in love with your spouse anymore you both definitely love them more than anything. Good luck!!

Answer 3

no if you have kids stay together! you can suck it up and work it out! It seems to me that you would have to be pretty selfish to divorce with kids. This is from a 15-year-old's point-of-view and I know from experience that you should stay together. Don't traumatize the child!!! Go to counseling. Do something, but you've brought this child into the world and now you take care of it and take responsibility don't divorce because you are unhappy. You are in charge of whether you are happy about life. Make yourself happy. Enjoy life. Love your kids. If you married him there is something about him you love. So keep that love and you children's love in mind before screwing the poor kid's life over.

Answer 4

Well if you have tried everything you could to make your marriage work and you are still unhappy then I would end the marriage. The kids will adjust fine. Yes it is very tough to end a relationship no matter what the circumstances are. Things would be better though.

Answer 5

If you haven't bothered to go to counseling and actually be a man and step up to the table and attempt to keep your word and your honor, then the message you give your kids is that your family isn't worth the bother.

It won't hurt your kids for a little while, it will hurt them until the day they die even if they are 90. Stop rationalizing and justifying your behavior.

Get some help to help you become the husband you promised to be. My guess is, that's what your wife is missing.

Answer 6

The kids would prefer to see 2 people put their children's' well being ahead of their own petty disagreements and happiness. Surely 2 adults can agree to be friendly and civil while they fulfill their responsibilities to the children created. Kids prefer not to be shuffled between homes and parents and prefer not to witness their mother and father dating other people.

Answer 7

If the problems can be worked out, then work them out. But if you have done everything you can to make things work and either the person is not doing their part or things just aren't working I would get out.

Answer 8

get divorce as quickly as you can.don't let this bum ruin the rest of your life.make sure you under the divorce settlement clearly

Answer 9

For richer, for poorer, for better, for worse, in sickness and in health, till death us do part..........

Answer 10

u dont have to.. your happiness are very important to u.. if u are not happy, then find someone'll makes u happy... your life is too short and you deserve to be happy...