Abortion is bad, isn't it?

Question

So if a wife is planning on leaving her husband for reasons justifiable and is ready to move on completely, finds out she is pregnant, is it a horrible thing to decide not to bring a child into the world that will automatically be part of a broken home? Also, the husband already has 2 children from previous relationship that he can't raise or live with, why add one more? What is the general consensus on this? The mother/wife does not love the husband and is ready completely to be alone with her own son from previous marriage. Is abortion wrong in this case?

To all of my wise and oh-so sharp answerers: First off, I should make things clearer--I take care of my ****, so adoption is not an option. This is not an issue of whether or not I can care for a baby, I DO NOT WANT TO BE PREGNANT AT ALL. I was pregant last year and had a miscarriage. My now husband was begging me then to get an abortion and I didn't want to because I loved him and was against it. But now, the tables have turned. And for all you Bible people, I happen to study the Bible as well, and you can take it how you want to. There's a verse that states (paraphrased) "when god breathed the first breath of life into Adam" Which many take to mean that one does not live or have a soul until they have breathed the first breath of life. I'm not ignorant,. unaware or misinformed. However I am selfish and do not want to be atatched to someone forever b/c he hid my birth control pills (yes, I know about birth control) and is sabotaging my life so he can keep me forever.

And furthermore, those of you who think abortion is Ok in the case of rape, that's bullshit. It's not the baby's fault that the mom was raped....think of it like that??? Don't be so righteous. No one knows what they would do until they are actually in the situation. So wait until you have someone manipulating your emotions and eating away at your soul, and when you finally have the gaul to get out, you find out he managed to get you pregnant anyway. Just consider that everything happens for a reason, including abortions.

Answer 1

I would hate for this child to be raised by you if you couldn't get along with it father and you never wanted the child, but as a pro lifer i say give it up for adoption there are so many people who would love to have this baby, i hope you make a good decision for your "PERSON " in you.

Answer 2

Depending on the circumstances, abortion isn't always bad. In your situation it is tough. You could have the baby for yourself and still be rid of the father and live very happily but if you really don't want to raise a child in a broken home if you know you're going to be unhappy and miserable then you know you have an option to keep yourself and that child from having to go through that kind of life. Also, depending on how far along you are, for instance, if you are less than a month pregnant the baby inside of you, is not yet a baby. It is a tiny pen drop of a seed. If it is still in that stage of growth, it does not have any organs, it does not have a pulse, nor does it have a heart, or brain. It cannot feel. It is still considered an "IT" because it has not grown the organs to determine whether it is a boy or a girl.
If you decide to have an abortion you need to remember that you are doing this for yourself. You are not doing this for anyone else and it does not matter what anyone else thinks. In fact, you never have to tell anyone and no one will ever know.
I will be honest, you have one of the hardest decisions to make and you may very well regret it, but it is your decision.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I believe in pro choice so if you think that's the best thing to do and you can live with the decision then you got to do what you got to do. Remember there are way more women who believe in abortion but choose to keep it to themselves only until it counts.We won that right to have an abortion a very long time ago so you need no ones approval. It's your body and no one else's specially the pro life people so don't Listen to anything they say. Watch how many of them give me a thumbs down. I'm speaking from experience I had an abortion and it was the best thing i could have done. Right after having it i cried but within an hour i was fine and don't think about it at all,I had it done 24 years ago and it still doesn't bother me even when questions about it come up.

Answer 4

The problem with abortion is not the issue of responsibility. The problem is that there is a baby involved. Perhaps it isn't best to bring a child into the world at this point, but the baby is already their. Your child is leaving and breathing and the question is not wether or not to bring it to existence, but wether or not to kill him or her.

I understand you are going through a difficult time, but killing your child won't make it any easier on you. Not only will you be dealing with the greife of a divorce and tough time for your born children, but you will also remember this time as the aniversery of your murdering of a child.

Please don't kill your baby.

Answer 5

This pretty much happen to my cousin, her husband had told her he was leaving her and didn't want anything too do with her or there son. She also has a daughter from a previous marriage. She found out she was pregnant after he had move out. She thought about having an abortion, but she kept it. And now 6 years later she tells me she glad she did. She happy with her 3 kids, and even tho 2 of then don't have a father their family is happy not broken. So it's hard to say, I think an abortion is an e-z why out but it's all up to her.

Answer 6

Abortion is definitely wrong; I equate it to murder. This is not the fault of the child; he or she doesn't deserve to be killed. God put the baby there for a reason. I'm not saying that it's going to be easy having another child in a broken home but it won't be that bad for the child if he or she never knew a home with both parents to begin with. Personally, I think that's far more preferable to tearing a child out of a stable home.

"For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." Psalm 139: 13-16

That's to show you that all of that nonsense about it not being a real, living person until a certain month is garbage. God has a special plan for your child; you don't have the right to take that away from your baby.

Answer 7

abortion is not a good thing. It is a hard thing to do for a woman. Emotionally it is really draining. In this case though, it may be the only solution.

However, that child may be something special, in years to come. It is really hard to answer this question. Search your soul, pray to whomever you normally pray to. Ask your girlfriends, and also more importantly your mom, or grandma if you can.

I had a gf before and I got her pregnant twice and she had abortions , two times. It really wrecked her, destroyed our relationship, and made me sad for many years. I still regret this. Wondering what my children would be doing right now, what they would look like. Even if I did not end up with her, I would still have some beautiful kids to love and spend my time with.

Answer 8

YES! YES! YES!
I read this on here once before, so glad I kept it!

Mommy,
I am only eight centimeters long, but I have all my organs. I love the sound of your voice. Every time I hear it I wave my arms and legs. The sound of your heart beat is my favorite lullaby.
Month 2
Mommy today I learned how to suck my thumb, if you could see me you could definately tell I am a baby. I'm not big enough to survive outside my home though. It is so nice and warm in here.
Month 3
You know what mommy? I'm a boy! I hope that makes you happy. I always want you to be happy. I don't like it when you cry. You sound so sad. It makes me sad too and I cry with you even though you can't hear me.
Month 4
Mommy my hair is starting to grow. It is very soft and fine, but I will have a lot of it. I spend a lot of time exercising. I can turn my head and curl my fingers and toes, and stretch my arms and legs. I am becoming quite good at it too.
Month 5
You went to the doctor today. Mommy, he lied to you. He said that I'm not a baby. I am a baby mommy, your baby. I think and feel. Mommy what's abortion?
Month 6
I can hear that doctor again. I don't like him. He seems cold and heartless. Something is intruding my home. They called it a needle. Mommy, what is it? It burns! Please make him stop! I can't get away from it! Mommy! HELP me!
Month 7
Mommy I am okay. I am in Jesus' arms. He is holding me. He told me about abortion. Why didn't you want me mommy?

Every abortion is just.....
One more heart that was stopped
Two more eyes that will never see
Two more hands that will never touch
Two more legs that will never run
One more mouth that will never speak

Answer 9

You are in a very difficult situation . For many when faced with such a situation, have to make a conclusion when life begins. The choices become more clear once you make this analysis You must decide this very very hard choice for yourself. No one lives your life but you.
Anything listed here as far as Abortion is one persons belief. You have the right to decide this. Take the time listen to no one but yourself.

Answer 10

Don’t try to justify this by saying things like: “is it a horrible thing to decide not to bring a child into the world that will automatically be part of a broken home” because that seems to imply that you have the baby’s best interest at heart. You don’t. You have your own best interest at heart.

Have the child and put it up for adoption. There are many childless couples in this country that would love to adopt this child.

Answer 11

you sound as if you don't want the baby, it would be really WRONG to bring an unwanted child into the world. Abortion is a decision you make and honestly its between you and God-you will get flamed for asking this question and I'm sorry but again its a choice you make and only you live with the consequences if you abort and EVERYONE lives with the choice(you, husband, child, family) if you have the child-