My wife and I have been married for 3 years but yet we trust issues and no communication. She told me today on the phone she does not choose to make time for me. I love my wife as I should and I do not cheat on her. But it is getting to be to much should I leave before I do something stupid and compromise who I am? or just stay and try to work it out...
2007-07-18 11:47:50 · 22 answers · asked by robbytbrand 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you should always try to work at it by going to therapy. Divorce should not be the only option. You want to be able to say you tried to work at the problem. Otherwise you might have regrets later on. With that said you should find out if she wants to work on your marriage if she says she does not and she won't go to counseling then I think you have your answer. At that point you should move on before you make a mistake that compromise's who you are.
2007-07-18 11:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
WHAT do you say there is trust but NO communication???What kinda marriage is this...why would your wife choose NOT to make time for you... or she doesnt wanna talk to you ,period. It sounds too much as an OBLIGATION-issue to me,are you staying with her to do THE RIGHT THING?A GOOD working marriage is all about MUTUAL compromises so why do you feel its all coming from you.Maybe if you did something stupid like cheating she appreciates you a bit better and can feel sorry not being there for you.OR she just wants outa this bloody marriage herself but is a chicken to tell you...
2007-07-18 19:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by ajal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly to say she has all ready choosen her option and that is not working things out with you. You can try to sit her down and talk to her to find out what is really on her mind and why things are not going right anymore in your marriage. Once you have talked to her and tried to compromise then you will know by her actions and your heart and feelings will tell you what you really need to do at that point. Do not do anything stupid cause going to jail or hurting someone or whatever is not worth it at all. You can not make anyone love you or make time for you it is a two way street not a one way and if she is not willing then you will need to move on and find yourself. Live life to the fullest cause giving up your freedom for someone is not even worth it at all cause they will still be out doing what they want while you are behind bars doing time. You know what your heart tells you so go with it. She does not want you trust me there are plenty more women who would love to be with you and treat you like you suppose to be treated. P>S GIVE ME A CALL!!! SMILE!! JUST KIDDING!!! JUST WANTED TO MAKE YOU SMILE HOPE I DID!!!
2007-07-18 19:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you all cannot communicate after 3 years, then what will make the difference after 30 years?
I have done 22 years of struggle to communicate with no avail ending in divorce.
I am happier now.
No one to be ignored by!!!
My brother is in a marriage of 37 years of no communication, and his wife wants to spend NO time with him either...but for religious reasons he stays, or is too cheap to buy her out of their assets...that is possible--but he has learned to live in a loveless marriage--it is so sad, and breaks my heart for he is a wonderful fellow, faithful and true.
She makes my blood boil.
I would rather he compromise his retirement nest, and make himself available for a potential happiness, than to stay with this cold, heartless, selfish, woman.
I would wish the same for you, as I am sure you meant well
and hoped for better for yourself when you all got married.
Good Luck!
2007-07-18 19:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by susieque 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly U need to dig deep down and see if U want to be treated that way?! Ask her out right what is going on!! Hopefully she is honest with U and lets U know what might be going on....sounds like U are uneasy with the whole situation...U are both adults and make choices everyday...U will totally have to choose to stay or go! If it were me in that situation, I think I would stay and try everything I think might help, but in the end whether It worked out or not, it would be my choice to stay or go....
Good Luck!!
2007-07-18 19:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by SuasGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot just quit a marriage. You need to earn your way out of it. That means you must try everything possible to make it work. Then and only then can you leave without regret if there is no improvement in the relationship.
2007-07-18 18:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The marriage was over a long time ago all she is doing now
is poisoning you slowly with her indifference.Before the black widow strikes her finally blow,I will urge you to get your things out and move on.I realize that some are urging you to seek couseling.My dear sir,you are long past that stage.don't hang your hope on a mirage,it has only been 3 yrs you will not owe her much in a divorce,cut your loses
2007-07-18 19:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you might jeopordize who you are if you stay, then you should definitely leave. Staying together is a blessing, and marriage is some thing that needs work. Love is a key in a good marriage, but it is not everything.
2007-07-18 18:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by mahdiya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not go to counseling? You can figure out how to talk to each other. If she doesn't want to go, that should be a sign that she's not interested in working things out & you need to end your relationship. You should never compromise who you are, because it'll get easier to be a slime in the future.
2007-07-18 18:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think that u should stay and try to work things out....i mean i don't know what goes on in your life but thats your wife and ur her husband....obviously u guys got married for a reason right?....if u love her then try to stay and work it out. talk to her and ask her how she feels....but by all means if u aren't happy and can't work it out then it is better to get out while u can. but talk to her first and see if there is anything worth staying for. good luck!
2007-07-18 18:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋