my husband is in the military and stationed in nc we had planned on going to la during thanksgiving to visit family but he is starting college next month and will only have 5 days total to take the trip and it's an 15hr drive. my question is how do i break this to my mil she blames me for everything and always tells me how sorry we'll be since we don't visit enough in her eyes now my parents have less then 5yrs to live and they understand and even come visit us but his parents never do they say they don't have money then go on a cruise is there anyway to break it to her even if my husband does to let her know that this was not my planning but a change we hadn't planned for we plan on going for as long as possible but i don't want her guilt and blaming any ideas.
2007-07-18 13:16:48 · 8 answers · asked by ASHLEIGH P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Make your husband tell her and tell him not to leave out any important details.
Sometimes with MIL's you just need to grow a thick skin and not care what they think. If they want to talk bad about you then they will and there's really nothing that can be done about it if you have that type of MIL.
2007-07-18 13:22:48 · answer #1 · answered by **Llola** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could tell MIL how you are looking forward to the originally planned schedule as much as possible and let husband drop the bomb. When he does play it off like you had no idea that it would be cumt short. If she tries to make you feel guilty give her a taste of her own medicine and tell her you wanted to see her so bad but why not have her drive up where you live so you can see her. Emphasize how badly you want her to visit but also how she won't go up to see you and "you had a wonderful dinner planned and all" Guilt her worse and make it obvious that YOU were the one that was wanted her to visit YOU. Switch it on her. Good Luck.
2007-07-20 03:31:26 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband and you have to plan and live your life together as you see fit. The two of you are now your primary family and neither one of your parents should get in the way of that. Let your husband deal with his mother but stand firm that you haven't enough time to make the trip and ask when they could visit your home. Why would you drive anyway? Southwest has really cheap flights out of Raleigh to LA if that would be a solution to your problem.
2007-07-18 20:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is the kind of person who will not understand no matter what you say, just have to ignore her.
2007-07-18 22:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mother, let him deal with her.
(mil = mother in law)
2007-07-18 20:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by msims52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DON'T break it to her...>HE DOES. And he explains to her that it's because of HIS choices that you can't go....
2007-07-18 20:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats a "mil" ?
2007-07-18 20:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you really mean milf?
2007-07-18 21:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋