my husband seems to be keeping to himself lately. when i want to talk about everyday things like bills and kids he shrugs me off, and has a very short fuse. i'm frustrated with the fact that he dosent seem to care about anything right now.
2007-07-18 15:22:12 · 12 answers · asked by amersunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your instincts are probably right. sounds like an affair happening or brewing
2007-07-18 15:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by henna 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
I'm guessing he is working through some kind of problem (maybe something at work etc). Guys often don't like to discuss their problems with the wife (they see it as a sign of weakness/dependency). They usually like to keep to themselves and work it out on their own. So try not to keep following him all over the house asking if there is anything wrong! Hopefully, he will be over it soon.
A couple of the women thought he might be having an affair; I honestly don't think this is the case here; when a guy starts cheating he will try to continue to act the same as before, because he doesn't want the wife to get suspicious! If he was suddenly "working late" frequently, that might be a sign of cheating.
2007-07-18 15:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Flying Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to everyone, they will say he's cheating and put different thoughts in your head that may not be true. Maybe he is just having a tough time at work or something simple like that and when he gets home he just wants some down time. Just wrap your arms around him and give him time to settle in before you start talking about more stressful things like bills. Ask him how his day went and take it from there. He will open up when he is ready..... Just be really nice to him and support what ever it is he might be going through!
Good answer freakboy!
2007-07-18 15:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck, you know him, not us. But, it's possible that you just have lousy timing. Are you laying problems on the guy the moment he gets home from work? Or, just when his favorite TV show is starting? Could he predict from experience exactly what you going to "talk" about? I know that guys hate getting brand new problems the instant they get home. Try waiting half an hour before starting down the list of bills, chores, and kid problems. He cares. He's just tired of discussing the same things that he has no solutions for again and again and again. It's either tune it out- or leave. So, he tunes out.
2007-07-18 15:38:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Could be his work . Maybe he's under alot of stress at his job. Try asking him. And sometimes even though you dont' notice it maybe your always sound like your complaining about when will the bills be payed or the kids complaint and maybe he's getting tired of just the negative things.
Only you know best.
Good luck
2007-07-18 15:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of making wild guesses, I think you need to ask your husband what is bothering him. Ask him if you can help him in anyway. Tell him that you care and will help him if he needs it. Maybe he is too pre-occupied to tell you now, just let him tell you later when he is himself again.
2007-07-18 15:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by happy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try giving him a back massage or foot massage when he comes home and maybe it will help relieve some of his stress and maybe he will be more willing to open up to you...it sounds like he is frustrasted or stressed out maybe he has a lot on his mind relaxing him maybe will help...if it doesn't maybe there is a deeper problem here and maybe you should seek out counseling
2007-07-18 15:30:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
something is on his mind. when men solve problems they tend to retreat into themselves until a solution is found. the best way to approach him is to ask him what is on his mind. comment that you noticed that he seems withdrawn and you would like to help and support him anyway you can.
2007-07-18 15:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is stressed too, ask him if there is anything you can do to make him feel better, ask him what's going on. you need to sure him you care about him before you expect him to care about you. good luck.
2007-07-18 15:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by Discovery 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His having financial problems that he doesn't know how to discuss with you. Or is having problems at work that he doesn't want to discuss.
Or maybe health issues he doesn't know how to discuss with you.
Try to talk to him
2007-07-18 15:27:15 · answer #10 · answered by none 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's suddenly taking better care of himself, wearing more cologne etc.... it might be an affair.
But he may just be worried. I get quiet when I'm worried.
2007-07-18 15:29:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋