My girlfriend has an child and is going through a divorce and her ex husband is crazy....into drugs ... forgery...the manipulative type. The child told the ex husband that I hit her even though I didn't and then the child changed her mind and said I didnt hit her. He said he wants to meet with me and the mom and child. He has filled her mind with lies with the one visitation day a week he does have. hes manipulating his own child to cause trouble. Everyone has restraining orders on this guy even his own family. Should I meet with him? My concerns are making it seem to the child as if they are choosing between us. She told her dad that she doesnt feel comfortable around me....even though she is 5 and runs to me everytime i'm around. Its obvious he is lying to her. What should i do?
2007-07-18 09:50:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told her she shouldnt meet with him either since she has a restraining order on him....what would you tell her?
2007-07-18 09:54:18 · update #1
Sounds like you're trying to be a "knight in shining armor" in a situation you really shouldn't be in in the first place.
It's time to pack your stuff and go. Leave the drama to the mama of the child.
There seems to be unfinished business with your "girlfriend" and her Ex .. let them sort it all out together.
It certainly isn't worth losing your life over.
2007-07-18 09:59:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if she has a restraining order on him then she cant meet with him because it is illegal. I think you should meet with him, but not alone. Somewhere open with many people around. Inside Mcdonalds or something. I know how step children are, I have two and the 6 year old daughter has gone home to her mom after spending a wonderful weekend where I took her and my daughter to Mcdonalds and the park, thought we had a great time, but she goes and tells her mom I had a man in the house and we went into the bedroom. She calls my husband and it was uncomfortable, even tho there was no man. I think the kids try to show their loyalty to whoever they are feeling for the most at the time, but dont think of what they are doing.
Hope it works out well for you.
2007-07-18 10:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the little one has learned well.
She's telling him that she's not comfortable around you?---You're hitting her?---She's manipulating YOU!!!
That child needs counseling---and needs to figure out the difference between honesty and lieing, right and wrong....
As for meeting with the guy---are you nuts? You don't go meet someone that has a past history like that alone-even if it is with your woman.
2007-07-18 09:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two should not meet with him and she should have his rights taken away since he is on drugs. If she does give him visitation rights it should be supervised visitation. The little girl does not need that and she is only 5 so don't take what she said to heart she doesn't know any better and is confused.
2007-07-18 10:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT meet with him. The daughter is only 5, and in a very difficult spot.
If you love this woman and see a future with her, then stay. If she is not someone you have a long term vision with, get out now... and quickly!
2007-07-18 13:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by candy'sroom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
George,
go far away and find you a chick that doesnt have all that drama.
your looking to get sandwiched by six different people.
If you find one single chick your only up against one family.
Get out and get freed. Dude theres too many chicks out there that would love to have you.
Go.
2007-07-18 09:58:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her goodbye. Do you really need this kind of drama?
2007-07-18 09:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋