she e-mailed you six months after the affair to see how you were.
She was totally hot and nice, no exchange of "I love you's" or feelings, you just got along great and were very compatible kissers.
Would you respond to her even if you felt bad about the whole thing and really loved your wife?
2007-07-18 09:53:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop getting involved with married men.
2007-07-18 09:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by Courtney 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hard to answer this one because I'm not the type of person who would ever commit infidelity, but I'll use my imagination...
I would respond once, probably with a telephone call, and tell her that she is a very nice and attractive person but that I was married and that I could never betray my wife ever again. For that reason I would ask her please not to contact me again because I've already demonstrated weakness in this area and I love my wife more than anyone else on earth. I would wish her luck and that would be it.
If she continued to call or email I would ignore or if it turned into harassment I'd do everything I could to block her.
I would never tell my wife unless she already knew about the affair (some people will disagree but I'm of the school of thought that says you don't put your b.s. on people you love, hurting them). If she already knew, had forgiven my transgression, and we had repaired our marriage then I would completely involve her in this communication so that she knew 1) I had been contacted and 2) what my response was. I would give my wife veto power over anything I might say in response, and might even have my wife on the phone with me when I responded.
Hmm, that's my conjecture anyway.
2007-07-18 10:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jon S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have some concerns or you would not be asking the question. Since nature automatically instills in the male the desire to have several mates, it is only natural to have those feelings. Since we live in a society that is judgemental on the multi mate situation, I would suggest that you stick with one woman or suffer the consequences.
2007-07-18 10:16:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahm, are you trying to work things out with your wife? then why would you put your relationship with her in jeopardy? and the whole "compatible kissers" nonsense is just that-nonsense... if you truly loved your wife you'd put all that energy and effort into relationship with her instead of this skank with whom "you got along oh so great" if you haven't figured it out yet, my answer is NO, don't email her, block her from your email... she is on an ego trip, and you're too easy of a ride....no punt intended...
2007-07-18 10:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by This is what I think 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I really loved my wife, I wouldn't have cheated in the first place. If I was remorseful it happened in the first place and it was over, then I wouldn't do anything to rekindle it again, so no I wouldn't respond.
2007-07-18 10:10:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the woman should not have tried to contact him even if only to ask how he was. it may seem innocent to her and maybe to the husband but what about the wife? would she feel it was innocent or would she feel threatened and rehurt by the re-entrance of this woman? i would feel upset if i were the wife. i would hope that if my husband and i were in this situation that he would politely tell her to please do not contact him again, it is an intrusion into our marriage. that would be the only acceptable response.
2007-07-18 10:05:15 · answer #6 · answered by adelaide 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would, Cuz us men (some not all, I being one of them) could see her just for the S E X and move on, if that was what she was calling about. on the other hand if it was a fatal attraction thing...I'd be scared !
2007-07-18 10:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by greysonata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, men who "really love" their wives don't CHEAT on them.
They hang in there so they don't lose half of everything in a divorce, nothing more.
If you are talking about yourself, stop messing with married men--someone WILL get hurt...maybe a LOT of someones!
2007-07-18 10:07:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Over is over. Tell her to leave you alone it was a mistake.You love your wife and made a bad decision
2007-07-18 09:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by "RED_FISH" 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once cheat always cheat you are bad so bad no love his wife make that you always think about your self only it`s clear you want us to tell you hey go it`s OK to fell good just to relieve your self no
2007-07-18 10:12:58 · answer #10 · answered by ***** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋