Does my husband sound weird?

Question

My husband and i have been happily married 16 yrs,i am 38,he is 42 and we have a decent and satisfying sex life make love 2-3 times a week..Of course he has no problem talking about our sex life in fact in the last couple yrs he has open up more about it but a few times just to see what his reaction would be i mentioned masturbation and fantasies but he clams up and doesnt seem comfortable talking about these subjects..He has always seemed like a strait-laced guy like never watch porn,buy/look at dirty magazines..When we met he was 25,never had been in a serious relationship and was still a virgin cause he was waiting for the right 1 and didnt wanna have sex with just any girl...Like i said just in the last few yrs he has become more open in talking about our sex life plus we have been talking about buyin a porn movie since neither 1 of us has ever seen 1 and are curious to see what their like..So does he sound weird and is there any way to get him to open up more.

Oh believe me i am thankful for him i thank god everyday for bringing him into my life i just thought every guy liked talkin about this stuff.

He does talk dirty during love making.

Nope he wasnt raised in a religious family.

He is all for buyin a porn movie it wasnt just my idea.

Answer 1

If he's not comfortable with it then don't push it. You've done without it this long, and to be honest, you're not missing anything. Some of it is decent, but some is downright nasty!!!

Answer 2

He doesn't sound WEIRD as in there's something wrong with him, but he sounds like a minority these days.

Just take your time. If he's opening up slowly, that's a good sign. Tell him how awesome you think it is that the two of you can grow and share new intimate things together, and that you love hearing what's on his mind; it's a huge turn on.

Just sounds like a highly moralistic guy. Was he raised in a religious family or did he attend religious schools? Sometimes those moralistic things that get introduced to people at a young age are hard to move past; in some religions and families, there's still a lot of guilt and shame associated with sex, so opening up about it feels dirty or wrong.

Give him some time.

Answer 3

He doesn't sound weird at all. He probably noticed that you were more open about it and wanted to try to make you more comfortable, but there are some topics he's still hesitant about. Get that movie and watch it together - even if it's a cheesy 80's one on mute - and make comments during it. Point out things that you think you'd like and encourage him to do the same. And joke about the parts that seem silly or over dramatacized. Play with it. Make it a fun topic to come up and let him know that you shouldn't be ashamed to talk about it. He's probably just afraid that you'll think he's weird if he talks about it.

Answer 4

my ex husband thought masterbation was like cheating on me. he was raised where it was bad, instead of normal and healthy. and both of u are well into your adult life and have not seen a porn? there are diffrent types. stick to the classical no *** shots they are more expesive but some of them migh gross you out at first. there are all kinds of these types of videos. maybe search for one or a non raunchy on on line or even call the adult store annonomisy and have what they suggest. but those videos might help open him up to other things. maybe nex time u 2 have sex have him masterbate u and u him. or show him how u like it and encourage him to show you and say things like u realy think it is sexy or erotic. you two have been togeather long enough to be comfortable with this matter. and it might be the same old thing, same possions, same time, same routine. in that case it is way time to change it up. try sex books or kama sutra! toys are fun, little bullet vibrators,they don't resembale a penis so ur hubby should not get penis envey. but take it slow, if u push to hard he is just going to back up in a corner and bit. have fun and congrads on the 16 yr marrage.

Answer 5

Some guys are just very shy about certain things, I was watching a Sex and the City episode where this guy wanted Miranda to talk dirty and at first she was very uneasy about it but then she started doing it and realized it was kind of fun but then when she said that he liked something specific he clammed up and left. So some guys are just sensitive about certain things, just give him time and bring up these things and what you like and hopefully he will become more comfortable, my guess is he is just embarrassed to tell you these things. It will work itself out.

Answer 6

You are the one that sounds weird. Your husband is obviously satisfied with your current sex life. He's even opening up more.
Why do you want to rock the boat with something that's not real.
You need to understand that once porn enters the picture, you'll never be sure of where his feelings are coming from. He may be smart enough to know the pictures that porn can paint in your mind and how you can begin to want your spouse to make those pictures come true. It's not real!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

Answer 7

I don't think your husband sounds weird, I think he is just somewhat introverted, everyone has quirks. I went with a really nice guy for 5 years and he was Never comfortable with any sexual discussion.which was fine with me because as I said I have my quirks too. I think you should get a soft porn movie with a plot to it ( a story line) . Sometimes they have them. Then maybe as you watch you both can talk about what is going on in the movie. Good Luck!

Answer 8

None of what you described sounds weird. As a matter of fact I would attribute your husbands opening up to his being more mature as well as being more comfortable with confiding in you.

BTW, if you're not sure about the porn, I recommend renting a porn flick instead of buying. If you decide you don't like it then how are you going to get rid of it, & where are you going to store such a thing if you have kids still at home. If you rent, you just return it when you're done with it, end of story. :-)

Answer 9

Only think would be to start masturbating each other during love making and then you start masturbating your self while making love.

Talking about it a lot around him to get him used to talking about it. Like say the other day I was doing so and so and got so turned on I just started masturbating and I was doing this and that and it turned me on so much it felt so good. And I have the best climax. It lasted 5 minutes and then I had another one. It was great. I would like to watch you masturbate for me some time. Would you do that for me? It would really turn me on. I could pose naked for you any way you wanted me to. Let's try it.

Answer 10

he is normal if you are asking if guys talk about masterbating with their wife, I think most men do not,, that doesnt mean with the guys they dont say stuff like stop jerking me off and this is such a circle jerk,

most porn movies have no plot or are just plain stupid,
but I think everyone should see one at least once, the first one I saw was a take off of Buck Rogers, ( the old old one )I cant remember the name at the moment,

most of the Emmanuel series of softish porn,

Answer 11

Sounds like he has a great deal of self respect. Are you saying that you want to spice things up a bit? If so, I would suggest a book of erotic stories(any bookstore), and then read them to each other. You will be greatly disappointed in porn movies, they aren't what you think they are.