There was a study i saw on yahoo the other day that says that men who let their wife take care of everything(making decisions concerning finances ect...) have a happier marriage and are less prone to arguing with each other.
Do you believe in that?.
2007-07-18 08:57:58 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
YES because we do it better than they would it!!!
2007-07-18 09:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
no i don't. i think when it comes to finances both should sit down together and see the money and see the bills and see what is left and how its to saved or spent. i think other than household needs all decisions concerning buying or spending should be agreed up on by both. unless your rich which most are not most ppl are on a budget to make it both should know at all time what the finances are. that way each knows where the money is going. i let my first wife take care of the finances and it seemed we were always broke and couldn't save...but after 2 yrs. on my own i had started saving some money and was never broke so when i remarried we both do the finances and see where the money goes and we never argue about money we have a goal and stick to it now for 16 years.
2007-07-18 09:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am almost 36 and my husband is 41. I got a job and moved out at 17, had a child at 19 whom I raised alone without help from family or friends, worked, went to college, went to grad school, bought three cars, a house, and was diagnosed with a crippling illness all by the age of 28. My husband lived at home until he was 36 and all he had to do was go to college and work but not pay rent, and his family always bought him cars and clothes.
While I think that he is just as intelligent as me, I came into the marriage at 31 with far more experience concerning independence and thus the more experienced person makes the final decision. When I decided to sell my house and buy another, he knew nothing about property, mortgages, etc. I drive Toyota's and he still gravitates towards Ford. I take care of the dogs primarily because I have raised a child (who is now 16) and I am a better judge of needs/illness, etc. I make the decisions concerning health insurance, prescriptions, and doctors because of my experience.
My motto is the better person suited to the job should take charge. When it comes to landscaping, he has me beat hands down.
2007-07-18 09:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife is the boss around the house because she would have it no other way. She's a control freak and we sometimes fight about it because it gets annoying. On the other hand, if she WANTS to control everything, that means SHE can bust her can on all the little details of running a household - so let her. More free time for me. Then she comes crying to me because she's overloaded. And the minute I take the load off her shoulders for two seconds, she starts commenting that it should be done THIS way, not that way. Never happy unless doing everything herself.
Yes, this household is controlled by the woman. 90% of the time, I'm very happy with that arrangement.
2007-07-18 09:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by rocken_heimer 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am a married woman and I believe it should be 50/50. My husband does help me a great deal with everything including the kids. We get along great!! I am pregnant with our third child right now and he even helps me do laundry and cooks just about every other day!! He works full time and I only work part time but he still finds the time to help me with every day tasks, and that is the way every marriage should be!! It makes life go a lot smoother!!
2007-07-18 09:21:31 · answer #5 · answered by alhartley01 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that the only way for a marriage to be successfully happy regarding finances is for the person who is good at managing money handles the payment of bills but that both parties should agree on decisions made regarding large purchases, investing, savings, etc.
2007-07-18 09:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All I know is that I saw the same article, and I get nagged a lot. She rules the roost because I work full time and go to school full time, and I just don't feel like fighting.
It's far easier for us guys to just "whatever" than to cause a big thing about it with the kind of drama women thrive on.
2007-07-18 09:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by mr_peepers810 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that its different in every marriage.. No ones marriage is the same.. They have a way of doing stuff their own way.. In mine myhusband pays everything and makes about 80% of big decisions.. Im a stay at home mom, so i let him deal with that.. I take care of the house and are little girl.. So it can go any way i think..
2007-07-18 09:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by RS_AK 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd honestly say we're about equal. She hates dealing with the finances, so I do most of the busy work with it, but she pretty much runs the rest of the show. Occasionally I put my foot down on some stuff, and she does the same with me.
2007-07-18 09:01:42 · answer #9 · answered by Yogi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God what a world. I wish we could go back to being cave men before this. What we need is a good apocolypse.
Shaving our chests, worrying about fashion and now letting women decide everything.
This is the planet of the apes, but women are the apes.
2007-07-18 09:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one's the boss; we're a team, and just like any team, sometimes I carry the ball, and other times he does - but we always keep each other aware of what's going on. That the end goal (whether it be finances, housework, vacation planning, childcare, etc) gets reached is what matters; we pass it back and forth until we're there.
2007-07-18 09:03:15 · answer #11 · answered by Courtney 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋