Usually my husband picks on me all the tiem by tickling me or just aggravating the hell out of me...he says it is his way of flirting...but then there are times when he doesn't really talk to me that much and he isnt really affectionate when I ask him stuff he is like very irritated..but anyways then the other night when I was sleeping he came in and put his arms around me and held my hand it woke me up but he didnt knwo it did and then he whispered in my ear I love you and it was so sweet but anyways I am just wondering because I mena why liek during the day does he act like non affectionate and then when I am sleeping tell me he loves me? I mean don tget me wrong he isnt liek an *** hole during the day but he is very shy with is emotions. sorry for the question being so long :)
2007-07-18 16:02:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I think that you should listen to your heart. Listen to your heartbeat and fine out if he really loves you. I think that he really does love you but he doesn't know how to express it. He sounds really sweet. Maybe there's just something that is bothering him during the days that he is like non affectionate. maybe you should talk to him about it and find out what is really going on with him. Maybe he is irratated by something else not you. I mean he is human and that is the way humans can be. But sometimes when he is really romantic listen to his feelings in what he says and his feelings in his voice. Listen to his heartbeat and see if he really loves you. If he has that lovey feeling in his words while talking to you then he must love you. And if he is really is romantic see if he has that romanticness in his voice in his words. Then you'll see if he loves you. Sorry for this long answer. But I hope I helped:)
2007-07-18 16:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are many factors that come into play when considering this type of behavior. It would help me out more (as a family counselor myself) to know more about his daily habits, age, and history. But since I do not have those things the best I can do is console your heart by telling you that there is no indication that there is an absence of love. Many men lose affectionate sides to them as they get older and their needs transform from needing a kiss to needing the wife to make him feel important or special. "Honey, how do you keep all the rules to football in mind, there are so many?" "Can you show me some, maybe I can watch a game with you." Give it a try...you will see a change.
2007-07-18 23:10:30 · answer #2 · answered by elreydechess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does he just dont like showing how he feels during the day so he waits until night time, but talk 2 him and tell him why he wont open up 2 you during the day ask him why? Communicate with him so yall could get an understanding of things!
2007-07-18 23:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by In love! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said it yourself already.
"he is very shy with is emotions."
Some men feel uncomfortable expressing strong emotions. When they feel this discomfort they often then resort to humor to try and get back to an emotional place where they are more comfortable. This does not mean however, that they do not have strong feelings. In fact, you should trust what a person says to you when you aren't listening or can't hear them MORE than what they say to your face. If they think you don't know what they are saying, what would be the purpose in saying something that wasn't true?
2007-07-18 23:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by David M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It seems like he's just not an affecionate person. He can tell you he loves you while you are sleeping, because you won't be all over him... does that make sense? He's not a touchy feely, mushy person. Of course he really loves you, he just shows it in a different way. Go to him, and say something like " I know you're not a very affecionate person, but I need more from you." Words don't mean much without the actions to follow...
Best of luck!!
2007-07-18 23:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ive known a few guys like that... my answer.. its a guy thing... I read an article i think it was in redbook about how the male and female mind are so different when it comes to emotional stand points... as long as hes still showing it every now and again, it will be alright... maybe you could remind him that you like to know that he loves you... with guys positive reenforcement is key...
2007-07-18 23:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course he loves you =) Men naturally have days when they need a little space, my boyfriend is the same way. I wouldn't worry yourself at all, he loves you very much but like anyone else he has his off days. Have you told HIM about this? I'm sure he'd say the same thing.
2007-07-18 23:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by Zarango 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may be too pushy when you are awake. I am. I am trying to do better, for example, most of the time when he comes home I try to tell him everything that happened that day, everything that broke that day, all the phone calls he needs to return, etc... I am trying now to be relaxed and keep that to myself when he gets home.. It is really an effort, but it is worth it.
2007-07-18 23:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by mel s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people have a difficult time expressing themselves face to face with other people, you did say your husband is a shy person. let him be him and accept the person that he is. the best is that you know how he feels about you. take care
2007-07-18 23:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by lynnette 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just being a man my dear...that's all...don't get sleepless nights over it...we are created as such...some being more sensitive...some being aloof....but no matter how we express ourselves...we do love the woman we marry (though there are exceptions)....if not, why bother marrying them?
2007-07-18 23:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by Pau And Pie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋