MoNstEr N law Issues???Help me !!!!!?

Question

OK so me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 yrs and have 2 kids, and one on the way, and me and his mother dont get along.She is coming into town for his birthday to go out to dinner and idk what else, but here are some of the reasons we dont get along

1.my friend overheard her telling someone at the store that i runined his lfe and she dont know why he is with me

2.she bought a gift cerfticate for her other sons gf and not me when we had our party together

3.back when our relationship had just started he cheated on me and she took him and his other gf out to eat while knowing i was at home

There is more but I dont feel like getting into it,and he is mad that i wont go with them to dinner i want to stay at home is this wrong of me ????How do i explain why I won't go?

Answer 1

u should go and if she says anything u dont like or u feel its disrespectful to u tell her *** off say look hooker i'm with ur son whether u like it or not cuz i'm not with him for u to like me i'm with him cuz i love him
just say that or w/e u want to say and tell her how it is ya know

Answer 2

I really feel your pain!!!!! If your boyfriend has any dignity for you and your children he would set his mom straight. I have the same situation. Except, I have been married to my husband for 10 yrs and we have 4 children. His mom HATES me along with his sister. We were both married Pryor my marriage was 2 yrears my husbands was 9 mths. Well his mom feels I ruined his life that I am white trash the whole nine yard so I know where you are coming from and finally I just couldn't take it any more. I told him I would never make him choose between me and his mom but I refused to be around her with her always talking trash and I didn't want want my children around the negativity either. So about 3 Christmas ago his family came over and I just let his mom have it (could not believe I did it) I told her she was not going to come into my home and talk to me and treat me that way especially in front of mu children. His mom told him he needed to make a choice his family or his white trash wife. He stood up and said my wife and kids are my family so there is your answer. They have spoken maybe 3 times of the 3 years and to this day I always tell him to call her check on her and things of that nature but he seen what she was doing to our family and don't wont to be a part of it

Answer 3

I have the same problem. I think that after how many years and kids you DESERVE some respect. Don't be nasty with her just don't make an effort any more. Tell your man that its not right how she makes you feel and as man in your life he needs to stand up for you to her. I am not saying get into a fight but he needs to let her know where she stands now which should be behind you and the kids. My hubby was a mommas boy and she thought poorly of me cuz I had two kids and cuz of my race. But after I talked to my hubby x amount of times and he saw that I was at the breaking point he snapped her into place. Don't get me wrong she will always have something to say about you behind your back. But seriously you are the woman in his life not her, tell him to set it straight. It is his place. If he doesn't then girl whip it on her cuz you gave him his chance and he failed. Tell her the cord was cut upon birth. I feel for you good luck. How about I tell yours you tell mine. !!!!!

Answer 4

Has your BF talked to his mother about this? Have you? Maybe you should have a big sit down and lay it all on the table. That is your house to (right?) and I would allow someone who disrespects me to coem there. Your BF needs to stand up for you. And why after that long and that many kids has he not married you?

Answer 5

Are you sure you don't know why the mother of your b/f doesn't have any use for you? She's not your mother-in-law btw, that requires a marriage, and since your b/f hasn't bothered to marry you, technically she is nothing to you and you are nothing to her.

You've had 3 children in 4 years with a man who will not marry you. What else is there to say?

Answer 6

Geez, Norman Bates loved and bowed down to his mother like that, too. Tell mama's boy you don't like his mama any more than she likes you, so it's better for you to maintain your distance from her.

Answer 7

Nope.