My wife and I have been married for 3 years. We have one child and one on the way. I feel that everything I do I am walking on eggshell so she does not get mad. I understand the hormones are raging right now, we work opposite shifts and see each other for 20 minutes in the morning and that is about it. On weekends it seems like 90% of the time we are bickerign back and forth instead of enjoying each others company?? Any suggestions??
2007-07-18 15:52:17 · 11 answers · asked by lucky301010 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You'll have to find what's causing the problems before you can start to resolve them.
You say you don't see each other except for a few minutes a day. That could be a huge culprit. Of course, it could also be stress, money (if you have money problems), or hormones since she's pregnant (but most people use the hormones excuse way too much).
I'd say, if you want to start repairing your marriage, surprise her one morning with breakfast in bed. Make her favorite breakfast, or something you don't have that often, and bring it to her in bed, with flowers.
Or you can simply sit her down and talk to her. One of the biggest problems with any relationship is the lack of communication. Sit her down and talk to her. Ask her if she's happy. If she's not, ask her what's going on with her, and then work together to improve your relationship.
2007-07-18 16:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by DH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you, your wife is not really your wife right now, she is a transforming inside and out.......Hormones and all. Eggshells......I am sure that is how you are feeling so go get this book, it may help: BELLY LAUGHS: The Naked Truth About Pregnancy and Childbirth - Jennie McCarthy.
You need a laugh, and it will help you deal with everything. It will be a rough 9 months, for both of you. Try and make her comfortable...rub her feet, her back and compliment her....surprise her with little things. Life will go much better for you. A little note left for her in the am, on the mirror, a flower on her pillow....any little "spoiling" will help greatly.
2007-07-18 23:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by lylee206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about her getting mad? Don't walk on eggshells, just be you. She might be a tad hormonal being pregnant but if she gets mad I promise she'll get over it. Try to get to the bottom of why she's pissy all of the time. Find ways to relax together. You should really try to work on the "shift" thing. That's a hellish way to live. We did it for one summer and never....ever again. Good luck :)
2007-07-18 22:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no wonder the stress level is out of control. Maybe the two of you need some "us" time alone from everything. Maybe she is feeling that you don't care for her. Do something special for her to show that you care. Buy a card, flowers or make a day all for her cooking dinner. Do something different and once you fin that something different that works stick to it.
2007-07-18 23:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by KTVMomof1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need a vacation from the children . Plan on doing this after the new baby is old enough to leave with someone you trust . You really need some find us time
2007-07-18 23:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Life lover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's like this because she is now carrying your child and isn't like this we she's not, then you need to basically bare with it, I'm sure it won't last always. Just think of all the joy you will experience the second time around when you're holding your new bundle of joy!!!!!!!!!!!!! And just try to be there for her I'm sure it's had on the both of you!
2007-07-18 22:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by Ipsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you fighting about??? If you can go away for the weekend before the baby arrives. Get a sitter for your child. Going away will help! Good Luck!
2007-07-18 23:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine19699 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all dont get her upset, pregnant women are very "sensitive".
second dont argue with her at all even if its about something stupid. spend some time alone with her even if its for a short amount of time. enjoy her company and your love for each other.
2007-07-18 23:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by soccerchik876 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u are right hormones but maybe she feels like she needs something talk to her ... sounds like u guys got in a slump and get out ...... maybe wave awhite flag and tell her u want fighting to end and maybe she will tell u why she was angry in first place.. good luck
2007-07-18 22:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go away for a weekend, plan the whole weekend and show her you still love and appreciate her. get a babysitter so its just the two of you.
2007-07-18 22:58:17 · answer #10 · answered by danielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋