My livin in boyfriend of 8 1/2 years fell out of love with me and found another girl whom he started talking to a month a go or so. I found out he slept with her and so now we are broken up and I am moving out back to my hometown. How can he just move on in a blink of an eye. He says he will always carry me in him and cares for me but he's all into her these days. I am moving 6 hrs away in 2 weeks and I don't plan on talking or seeing him anymore- Does he feel any pain? Will he even miss me? Or is this girl going to fill his void?
2007-07-18 04:49:01 · 21 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you have no plans to see him, communicate with him or otherwise, then why do you care that he is moving on. He is obviously a pig jerk who cheated on you. Move on yourself and find a MAN who will treat you with the respect and love that you deserve.
2007-07-18 04:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by YouWishYouWereMe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes, and Yes.
My ex-fiance and I split on a Sunday. He nagged me and said I'd find somene by the weekend. When HE found a new g/f that Tuesday. I think maybe he did fall out of love with you, (Or else he wouldn't have ended it you know) But he is filling that void of you being there for 8 1/2 yrs with the other woman. After that long you need a break you know. See who you are. I took 8 mos. and remarkably I am an amazing woman, I have more patience with my son, I look and feel better. I don't allow myself to get walke on anymore. It makes you step back and take a look at the woman i the mirror. He will miss you. My ex's mom and I still talk and she tells me he is always asking about me and my son. He will miss you because you were his life for so long. And a part of him will always love you. But if he couldn't love accept and cherish you the way you deserved then you deserve to move on and find better. (You will always love him too)He may not feel the pain you do, but he does feel something.
I wish you luck in your Journey home. Just listen to that song "I'm moving on" by Rascal Flatts. Start your life a new. You can be who ever you want to be. You can and will one day find the right man for you. Don't go looking let it take you by surprise, thta's when it will be real.
Bless you love, and I wish you the Best in Life!
2007-07-18 04:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Brittney B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, a partner has fallen out of love before ever allowing themselves to get into a situation where cheating is a possability. Intimacy and love are something we all guard and protect when it's real; the disceptions and cheating start after the real emotional attachment has been lost or damaged.
I think his pain actually was occuring while you were together and in most break ups, one partner is well ahead of the other in terms of acceptance and moving on.
I think it's good that you are moving and changing the environment - it's easier to heal and start over that way. Put your self in a position to meet new friends and rekindle family relationships and your empty feelings will soon be replaced with something that is new and growing, rather than dead or dying... Chin up, think positive, and set your sights high. You deserve better...
2007-07-18 05:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by barn cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he did not move on that fast, he was most likely seeing her way before u even knew she existed, he may have no conscience, and he is not hurt like u are, as he already had her and a life with her before he left u. no one knows what he will feel in the future, we always wonder if they will ever think of us, he will think of u but only if things don't go well for him and the new girl. he will only feel hurt if she does the same to him as he did to u, otherwise no he won't feel any remorse. for a time the girl will fill the void, because she is probably stroking his ego, telling him everything he wants to hear, and just how wonderful he is, but after a while he will do her the same as he has done u. but never take him back, because he chose her over u, and a man who leaves u without even talking it over or seeking therapy doesn't love u. a man like this has no character, and if u ever went back to him u might suffer the same thing all over again later on. keep your dignity and never speak to him again, a confident girl would be glad she got out of this.
2007-07-18 07:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a lot of pain now, I can tell by what you've wrote, and i wish that I could give you a hug right now, but I will try to help you through this. First off it's about you not him, worry only about you. Hes gone, and you should be glad about that, since it's easy to see that he was cheeting on you with her, for who knows how long, and you want to feel sorry for him, when he brought you so much pain after 8 years. It should not matter what he's feeling, it only matters what you are going to do to get your life back on track. Thinking about him will only hold you back, and at this time in your life, you need to move forward girl. Get over him quickly, so you can live again, but next time learn from what he did to you and don't let it happen again, okay.
2007-07-18 05:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like you said, your ex fell out of love with you. it really doesn't matter how long you've been together, more so living with each other. it doesn't mean that he doesn't care about you anymore. for sure he does, but he has decided to find love somewhere else. for sure his decision to leave you didn't just happen in a blink of an eye. there could have been signs of a problem already but might have not been acknowledged. it was wring of him to sleep with another girl while still in relationship with you. he broke your trust. it's your choice if you still want to remain friends with him. but girl, love yourself first. get up and move on.
2007-07-18 05:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang it sounds like he hasn't cared about you for a while now.I know it will be hard but you do need to move on.He might not care but then again he could have moved on so fast because its a rebound girlfriend.He might be trying to heal his pain by being with someone else but that never really helps truthfully.So just move on with your life and one day in the future you should find someone who cares more about you and good luck.
2007-07-18 05:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people dont go from in love to not in love to broken up in 2 days, its usually a slow process that startrs months or years before the break up happens, for the person that wants out that is, in truth he was probably over the relationship a few months before he told you he wanted out, and yes there is a chance that in a year or two hes going to regret ever loosing you, and then again he might not
2007-07-18 05:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by eyesinthedrk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl will fill his void.
He must have been searching for an "escape" route long before you were aware.
Good News is that you will have your clean slate soon and this will help you move on too ... to fill that void. Remember to hold dear your other friends and family during this process.
2007-07-18 04:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll find some people, as much as they seemed to care at one time, are shallow, uncaring, and heartless. They will probably never experience anything real, but they will think they're happy because they're ok living in their blissful ignorance, living without real feelings. He may miss you eventually, and by then you'll have moved on to someone new, or a place in which you're happy with yourself.
2007-07-18 04:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by Superscottie16 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋