I am terribly in love with a married man, I am not a bad girl, I don't want to be juged, he does not even live in my country, it's just a question of feelings !
Ther's no way fot the future between us, if he devorce he lose his kids, I don't want him that ! but we still say to each other that we are in love !
is there anyone in my situation, and how did you get your self out of these troubles
Thanks
2007-07-18 04:11:12 · 36 answers · asked by Just me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop saying guyes that I will ruin his familly, I left him OK, I am just asking if someone is in the same situation, so if you dont bother dont bring your comments for this, I know That because I left him, and he is everynight with his wife and children are happy, they were seperatyed, and I told him to come back with her !! damn
2007-07-18 04:19:46 · update #1
Nobody posting here has really answered your question because they're so swollen with their own moral self-importance - look at them all - laying down the moral law!
I think you did a big thing giving up this man you loved for the happiness of him and his family. No it hasn't happened to me. I imagine it'll hurt for a time, but you won't have it on your conscience. In time, it'll get easier, then you'll be open to someone more suitable. Good luck.
2007-07-18 05:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by blackhole 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't been in this situation as I would hate the thought of someone I was in love with sleeping with another woman - I want to be the only woman in my man's life - not second best. I am not judging you but you need to get out and look for someone who you can build a future with. The problem is that even if prince charming approached you right now, you are emotionally hooked up with another man. Stop contact with this married man - nothing will come of it.
2007-07-18 04:17:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Phil always says, "the best predictor of future behavior, is past behavior". Even if this man did leave his family for you, he might eventually get bored with you as well and do the same thing to you. Please keep that in mind and try to find someone that is available both physically and emotionally, that's when you'll find TRUE love. Good luck with this difficult situation and remember that the journey of a 1000 miles begins with the first step. Take that step by exploring new friends both on and offline.
2007-07-18 04:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by hiplaynesdrftr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF HE really loves you he will do the right thing and tell his wife. He will get custody on some level of his kids. Please
realize that all men would love a piece of butt on the side.
You know have your cake and eat it too! Some will say anything to get what they want. LOVE yourself enough not
to be in second place and consider how badly his kids will
be messed up if you two get caught in this lie!!!!
Walk away for your sake and theirs there will be another
that will love you the way you should be!! Have faith!!
2007-07-18 04:18:26 · answer #4 · answered by dragonness36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this an online relationship? I'm assuming so since u are in different coutries. It's hard to seperate feelings when u meet ppl online. Do u have some one rl to turn ur feelings to? I know its hard trust me. U dont want to get hurt maybe its time to leave this married man alone and focus on some thing or some one else.
2007-07-18 04:18:05 · answer #5 · answered by Pres 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry sweetie but listen to yourself and you'll get your answer. He's not going to leave his wife that much is obvious. Telling you if he gets a divorce he will lose his children is a sign that he doesn't want to leave his wife. You're just the mistress that's all and in the end you'll be the one hurt. I think you should just leave him alone no matter how much you "think" you're in love. Hope you find the help you need.
2007-07-18 04:18:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mecpl85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u walked away...that took guts
i cant do that....maybe i am weak
the only way to get out of it is to walk....if there not gonna leave there wife whats the point...wasting your love on someone who dont deserve it
look at it as an experience...you can either keep him on and build a relationship outside this affair...or totally move on
moving on is the best as once u in love with someone no one else compares and its hard to find a new love
be proud u found the strength to move on....show this guy u have and life is happy without him and hopefully he be kicking himself at what he lost
and if u want to speak to him..think before u do...think bad thoughts like he wont leave his wife obviously doesnt love me enough
keep your self busy so u dont have time to contact him and with time your love will go
he is having his cake and eating it and he dont deserve the love that u got for someone
2007-07-18 13:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day he is having his cake and eating it, you don't want to break the family up so just try and find another man who isn't sharing himself with other people. You will manage somehow, at the end of the day this man doesnt love you - no matter what he says, if he did he couldnt live a lie.
2007-07-18 04:17:56 · answer #8 · answered by Smiley2100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Walk away. Do you want to share the blame in destroying the lives of his wife and children? Self-control, dignity, respect, and honesty are your way out of "these troubles".
If he really was in love with you, he'd have already filed for divorce.
2007-07-18 04:25:01 · answer #9 · answered by Comancheria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough to get someone you care about out of your system - time is your best ally on this one.
I also recommend a trip to the spa, or to a place you have always wanted to go, busy yourself with things that occupy your heart and time - volunteer with sick kids, take a class. It feels lousy and totally sucks right now but with time it will get better and hurt less. I promise.
2007-07-18 06:08:20 · answer #10 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋