Many people see love as the primary reason to marry, but in the US the divorce rate is obscence. I am beginning to think that there must a more solid basis for marriage. If you marry a who person that you like a lot, share similar dreams, trust and are basically compatible, will love just occur naturally?
2007-07-18 04:53:36 · 11 answers · asked by 101 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are on the right track.
Most people let their hormones guide them, but neglect to consider the day-to-day life, with all its mundane aspects.
Things like finances, house-hold duties and behavior patterns and the like are usually not considered and are mostly likely the cause of many divorces.
After all, who would want to marry someone that cannot balance a checkbook, doesn't pick up their dirty underwear off the floor or constantly toots?
We tend to gloss over the bad habits while drawn towards the temporal.
Love is a very good indicator of compatibility, but real love grows over time...and it includes accepting and living with a partners good AND bad habits.
After all, we vow to love for "...better or worse...". don't we?
2007-07-18 05:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! That's why the divorce rate is obscene.
If it's not true love between the couple, there is going to be a divorce. If you like someone alot, share dreams, trust and basically compatible, that will not help you go through life in a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together till death do you part!
You cannot marry someone you like. I like alot of people, we have shared dreams and we trust each other and we're very compatible, BUT I WOULDN'T MARRY THEM. They're my friends!
The reason that the divorce rate is so high is because of people thinking like you. You obviously have no clue what the meaning of marriage even is. You can't WONDER if you should marry someone. The couple in love will know, without wondering about a thing. That will happen naturally, because they could never be apart. But the couple that gets married for all the wrong reasons like you have listed and the person that you were supposed to fall in love with comes along, what then? That's right. You're added to the divorce rate, because you're getting a divorce.
It's really sad that happens so often, because they're are always children involved and they're being raised to think that this is what marriage really is. WELL IT'S NOT!
Stay the hell away from marriage unless it's LOVE. Then that's when it should be marriage and family. Yes, in that order.
2007-07-18 12:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you're right. Love can't be the one-and-only reason to be married, or get married. I do believe that love comes with time, and it's not something you have at first sight. It's about trust, caring, having the same future goals and dreams, and you can usually tell when you have those feelings. And you can't just marry someone for one thing. You have to have many different compatibilities and you have to know that you want to be committed to them forever, and that they'd do the same for you. Love should just occur naturally, and if you just don't click, you'll know. You should be able to tell if you love someone, but you have to be patient.
2007-07-18 12:00:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that love can occur that way. I think the divorce rate is so high because a lot of people mistake lust for love. They also give up too quickly when everything isn't perfect any longer. True love endures. Any relationship takes work and nowadays, people are lazy and don't want to put the work into it.
2007-07-18 12:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have thought about this before. When I got married, I wasn't really sure that I even loved my husband. He was a good man though and I knew he loved me. Over the years he has done nothing but provide for our family and he is a great father. I love him very much now and i know that I do. My first marriage was all about the "Love" and he turned out to be a jerk and he hit me all the time....
2007-07-18 12:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by erin_foss8191@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying for love is the only reason to marry. I married because she was preagnant. Did not work after five years. Goals change, people change, finances change. Love is forever. With love anything can work. The reason people divorce in this country is becuase they do not know what love is and marry for other reasons.
2007-07-18 12:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by budlightdonkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry for love...but what if love fade away for a reason. Love need to be maintained all the time through the years...the only thing to do that is when the couples have one dream to built their love one...and that dream began the first day they met.
2007-07-18 12:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry for love is a big difference, you marry because you like a lot. Love is a broad meaning. Once you love the person you'll accept everything what he/she is. But once you dont care and not concerns there is possibility you dont love the person, only attraction and sex.
2007-07-18 12:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by rockstones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i strongly believe that you should married for love, with love comes the other things such as trust . if you love someone you will never want to hurt them, so the case of dirvorce that we see often these days was not build on strong love which can stand the test of time.
2007-07-18 12:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by black&proud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should marry if you are in love, not if you like a person and see potential, that potential might just let you down and never happen, and then you will be on e of the obscene divorce stats too.
2007-07-18 12:00:36 · answer #10 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋