Marriage & Divorce - 4 July 2007

My ex fiances wife contacted me a few weeks ago and now I am very worried. About 7 years ago, I went through all legal avenues to have him sign off his parental rights. I am concerned for the fact that my ex and his wife now have a child together that is almost 3. Wifw has expressed to me that she would like for their child and mine to get to know each other and I have told her that this isnt going to happen until my child is 18(she is almost 10). I was wandering, even though he signed off his rights, can they take us to court to get rights for the children to visit with each other.
Also, I am concerned that his parents may now try to get visitation rights to my child after not having contact with her for almost 10 years. Can they?
. We asked my ex to sign off his rights for 3 reasons, 1 because we wanted my child to have my married name, 2 he stopped paying child support when he found out I was getting married, and 3 he NEVER signed her birth cert. or asked for visitation rights.

2007-07-04 17:29:26 · 8 answers · asked by Mom of 4 2

i just posted a question as to whether or not i should move out. if i move out i failed to mention that they will stop paying for my college if i do. My dad also doens't agree with my boyfriend and i living together and not married. But i am ready to and we are working and three people splitting the 600 rent is a GOOD deal... any MORE suggestions?

2007-07-04 17:23:31 · 2 answers · asked by Jessi Z 3

Just curious on how much do east indian marriages in Canada end up costing on an average from the guy's end. I guess there is no upper limit but what budget range would consistute a simple yet worth while east indian marriage?

Thanks

2007-07-04 17:10:54 · 2 answers · asked by planck12 1

My wife left and is wanting a divorce, we have been together for over 10 years and have 3 kids. The real problem is I still love her but she has not intrest in making our marriage work. I know that in time the pain will fade, but how do you get through the day with out loosing it... espically in front of the kids?

2007-07-04 17:09:05 · 11 answers · asked by Izzy_g 2

It is clear that children need to be supported by BOTH parents, though I'm not quite understanding why fathers get screwed over so bad. How can women get pregnant and then expect the man to pay them child support, spousal maintenance, etc. Don't these women have a financial responsibility as well? I'm especially referring to men who make a significant amount of money. These women are often considered "gold-diggers". This is not the most wonderful label, though it almost seems true. Whatever happened to each parent paying half of everything for the child? Especially when a marriage only lasted for a few years.

2007-07-04 16:41:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

and tell you how to run your life.raise hell with your children and even try to make them fight her . she works as a guard in a prison and thinks she rules over all people shes around

2007-07-04 16:41:36 · 20 answers · asked by samuel p 1

My husband no longer loves me and wants me and I have been crying for weeks . What shall I do ... he was my one and only love and my heart aches and aches and I am dying slowly from a broken heart.

My daughter is 12 and he only talks to her and ignores me totally. I AM REALLY IN DEEP PAIN. I never realise how painful it is to let go and I really hate myself and each day my life is nothing but totally pain. I need death and yet I have a child ... I am totally lost and totally in pain. What shall I do ... I can't let go and don't know how to let go.

2007-07-04 16:18:49 · 17 answers · asked by j t 4

ok i have dated my boyfriend for 2 years. i am 22 he is 23.

he is bipolar and sometimes can be mean, last year i cheated on him with a man and told him.

its a year later, and we have been fighting a lot, we broke up for two weeks, in that two weeks, he met somebody and slept with her.

we got back to gether.... i found his bank statement and saw a "motel" charge on it.. he admitted that he had sex with her AGAIN while we were back together.

he had lied that day he slept with her, and called me before he went and told me i wouldnt be able to get in touch with him cuz he phone died. oh i checked his computer, after he got home from sex, he went online and downloaded a bunch of porn, un til i came over his house later that night.

now he keeps telling me he is sorry and he was trying to be cold because he felt like we were fighting and he always thought i cheated on him more, and he said he loves me, needs me, is sorry and ashamed, and sorry he lied.


can i forgive him

2007-07-04 16:08:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently, my husband lost his physically demanding job due to severe back pain. Before this, we've talked about getting divorced (for various reasons, not the least of which is emotional abuse). Now, however, he's just sitting around the house, watching our two kids and not looking for a job. He says no one will want to hire him because his back is so bad. I feel like he's just mooching, and I've told him that he needs to move out, but obviously, with no money coming in, that's sort of impossible for him. What do I do? Is there any legal recourse for me? Should I just let him watch the kids? I'm just stuck between a rock and a hard place, and I'd appreciate the advice ya'll have to give. Thanks!

2007-07-04 15:57:59 · 25 answers · asked by moosesandsnow 2

I been separted to my husband now for about 2 month's and I am taking him to court on July 24th for child support and support for myself. We have 4 children and I am also pregnant with our 5th child. He keeps telling me that I am going to get a little bit of money. He is also paying child support for another child that he had with his ex-girlfriend. He pays $550.00 a month for that one son, so I was just curious to know if my children will get the same amount or less? Also, are they going to decrease the amount of money that his first son is getting in order for all my children to get an equal amount. I been a house wife for the pass 5 years and my husband is also in the military. Do you think that I will benefit from that?

Thank you all for responding....

2007-07-04 15:05:42 · 6 answers · asked by Vicky 6

Ok im 35 and been happily married 14 yrs..2 yrs ago hubby went to iraq..1 night about 1 yr ago me and his brother who is also married went out for drinks,got drunk and went back to my house and ended up having sex and been having an affair since then..Well 2 months ago i found out i was pregnant and now hubby is coming home...Me and his brother ended things 2 weeks ago..I wanna tell hubby the truth but not who the affair was with cause i dont wanna cause trouble between him and his brother...Should i do this?

2007-07-04 15:01:29 · 57 answers · asked by vicky s 1

Married Guys ONLY

2007-07-04 14:21:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been dating my fiance for 5+ years and we have been engaged since May 6, 2007. In April he met this girl and developed a bond with her. He then became confused about what he wanted with life. We'll on May 6th her proposed to me while in Disney World. Everything was great up to today (July, 4th). My best friend called me and wanted me to come over with out my fiance. She then broke the news that she found out her was sleeping with this same girl. I went home and confronted him...He admitted to everything. He then proceeded to ask me why I was so in love with him. I followed my answer by asking if he still wanted to marry me...He responded with yes...And he wants to go to marriage counsling. My question is...Is it worth doing am I wasting my time, or should I try to salvage what we have since I'm so in love and attached to him? He also is wanting to move to Illinois after the wedding (thats where is parents are from). I'm ok with going, actually I want to go.

2007-07-04 14:15:53 · 15 answers · asked by tlc8199 1

okay here's the situation...

i'm married this man who i met on myspace. i've only known him for a few months and introduced him to my daughter once before getting married.

my daughter says he's immature, and he ignores her and pretends like she doesn't exist (she does the same towards him). but he only ignores her because he knows she hates him. so why should he make an effort to get to know her? SHE SHOULD!?

she always gives us attitude, she says she hates living with us, and she says she never asked for any of this. she says she feels like shes being forced to live with a stranger. common, she knows he's my husband and not a stranger.

she says i treat him like gold and i never considered her feelings on me getting married. I DON'T NEED HER APPROVAL!

i've been a single parent for 10 years. it's time for me to be happy. and its my daughters turn to sacrifice for me.

2007-07-04 14:05:08 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

not sure if he will stay off of them I do trust him but I find myself checking were he has been online and who he talks to. He has lied before. I also had someone else in my life try to cheat so Its really hard for me what do I do. I really love him. I have tried to talk to him but it gets me nowhere. I was on his messenger and I found he dident delete some of the wowmen he had been talking to before.

2007-07-04 13:59:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

i was hit by a drunk driver and now my hole back is bad i have had one fuss-en all ready now thy have to do my lower back if thy don't all my nerves to my legs well stop or start to shout down i have had so much pain and the lawyers get there money the doctors get there money every body wins but when I'm done I'll have some pain but being a master carpenter not ever again i wish the boy that hit me stayed at the place where he was drinking and slept it off but know he had to drive and look what he has dun to me does any one know some one that can help me fined a good lawyer one that does do something good not take your money and leave you standing alone with bills

2007-07-04 13:48:32 · 4 answers · asked by Mikey 1

I don't understand the mentality behind the thought that after marriage what was not acceptable before now will be.

2007-07-04 13:38:27 · 40 answers · asked by pensivity 1

My husband verbally and mentally abuses me and controls me. I decided to take up for myself, which is very hard but I have gotten better. I snapped back at him last night. During our fight he mentioned that I have been different lately....I asked how. He said "You've been mean and evil". Was it fair for him to call me that just for taking up for myself. Although he likes me to be submissive and obediant to his every word. I guess in his eyes I could be.

2007-07-04 13:19:12 · 16 answers · asked by sugarbud 3

So affraid that they would stay in an unhappy marriage for life.

Honestly...when I croak...it won't matter if people are around me or not.

I'd rather nobody be there...or even know about it...

Like my cat when I was a kid...when her time was up, she just walked away and never returned.

That same way...I would like to ride off into the sunset and never look back.

2007-07-04 13:07:16 · 8 answers · asked by ? 3

2007-07-04 12:59:08 · 9 answers · asked by Meach 2

My best male friend has been going through some rough times. I met him a few years ago through our career paths. He got divorced not too long ago, and I've tried to be there for him best I knew how. I developed feelings for this guy some time back but I would never pursue that and never intended to show him. He is now hinting at the fact of me and him going out. I already know that he has wonderful qualities and that he is admirable. I do not want to hurt him anymore but I want to be in a relationship when he is no longer physically or emotionally attracted to another woman. I don't want to mask the pain for him. But I do eventually want us to try this out because we have always fit. How can I continue to be there for him as his friend only and tell him that he needs to get his wounds healed before we can pursue a relationship? I want to leave the door open for a possible relationship, just not at this very time. I don't want him acting weird now towards our friendship though.

2007-07-04 12:58:52 · 11 answers · asked by Caroline 1

Is this is what we wre put on this earth for, to kill eachother, hate, ruin the foundation of many thing that family has built and tried to speard to the future of your legacy? i for one have seen and done way to much and wish i could take back most of it.....

2007-07-04 12:54:13 · 8 answers · asked by Darlene P 1

2007-07-04 12:52:08 · 27 answers · asked by amber p 1

The husband has filed bankruptcy 6 months ago but the wife did not. the problem now is she is wanting a divorce and the 1st mortgage is in her name and the 2nd is in his name. she also stupidly put other large debts in her name only along the way the last 5 years. she has 4 kids, should she divorce 1st and then go into bankruptcy or what. He treatens he will not help at all if she does! I mean pay the second. thats what keeps her tied to him.... Now that his bankruptcy is final he spends as he sees fit! what to do???? She cannot stand this to go on. As her brother I told her not to move out of the house! Her husband believes it is her duty to take care of all of the house and yard , plus work outside the home while he races his cars and pertisapates in his other hobbies with his father and brothers!!!!!!!!!!! Live in Ohio

2007-07-04 12:49:27 · 4 answers · asked by wiskers43302 1

2007-07-04 12:39:06 · 22 answers · asked by kelly 2

2007-07-04 12:31:00 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for many years. My wife works very hard and takes good care of the members of the family. She doesn't show affection that much. She believes that actions are better than words, but I could hire people for that purpose. For years, I have felt the need for affection. I want to be held, comforted, made to feel important and valued. At times, the risky and costly choice of finding somone new seems very compelling. I have tried to talk with her about what I feel I need, but she either can't or doesn't want to understand. The truth is, however, that I am still deeply in love with her. Help! I feel like I am drowning. Is there no end to this brokeness?

Bob

2007-07-04 12:29:27 · 11 answers · asked by Bob 1

Everytime me and husband have sex, hes always looking at us doing it in the mirror. He says it makes him enjoy sex more, but to me, I find it really weird. Does anyone elses husband do that, or is my husband weird? what should I do to make him stop this?

2007-07-04 12:16:38 · 32 answers · asked by Asha 1

US citizen friend marries a guy from her home country. Friend gets into normal arguements abt expectations in relationship on the phone.
Friend files for immigration for husband. She has doubts of fidelity. Learns he is into sexual nude webcam chatting. Wants to meet the females for fun. Admits in chats he is sleeping around. He pretends nothing is going on else where to wife.
Should she save the marriage and bring him to US?
Her family feels bec of her arguementative expectations, he is sleeping around. You think so?
He is saying the chat, nude sexual acts on webcam, and admitting to sleeping around is nothing more than fantasy.
Should she save the marriage? Is she at fault?

2007-07-04 12:05:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

or do they all want something other than what they have? My husband who I have been faithful to for 6 years lies about porn then tells me I'm the most beautiful woman in the world. I feel insecure about this. I f I was all he wanted then why does he look at porn and hide it from me?

2007-07-04 11:43:40 · 21 answers · asked by kelly 2