Marriage & Divorce - 4 July 2007

I have been married for about 4 months now and we dated for 7 years before that. We have two children 4 and 10 months. I work on the weekends and stay home during the week with the kids. I work approx. 45 minutes from where I live so I stay at my parents house while I work. Usually its just overnight, but I bring the kids down with me so they can have time with their grandparents. My husband comes home from work, goes in the shower, then will go on the computer to play games for hours. WHen I am gone on the weekend he just sits home on the computer and when we come back home he helps me bring stuff in and then goes right back on the computer. ITs really a game he is playing, its not like he is online chatting he is playing World of the Warcraft. I dont know how to compete with a computer. Yes he did this before we were married but I thougth hed be sick of the game by now. HEs been playing it for almost a year. He truly cares more about this game then his family..

2007-07-04 06:09:05 · 10 answers · asked by mom25 2

What goes wrong?

Is it society? People marrying for the wrong reasons? People letting go of themselves once they get married? Been together too long?

What is it?

2007-07-04 06:08:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

We've had a serious problem with our sex life for many years now. The first several years we were together it was constant, literally every other night, if not EVERY night. Then she began witholding not only sex but almost all forms of affection and intimacy. It got so bad at one point that I wouldn't even sleep in our bed because I couldn't handle the rejection anymore, it just hurt too much. We confronted the issue many many times and it would always improve for like two weeks before gradually returning to her rejecting me intimately and sometimes even going two weeks without her even touching me no affection at all. Right now it's to the point that when we DO have sex, as soon as she orgasms she wants to stop. She'll either STOP, ask how long I'll be or tell me to hurry up because she's tired and has to get up early.
I know I'm going to hear "go to counseling" from most people, but we have...but it never fails to return to "normal". Ladies, help me, I'm about to have an affair.

2007-07-04 05:20:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

you go limp . And it happens over and over again and you cant see to get up anymore ?

2007-07-04 05:10:49 · 12 answers · asked by wishingstar5555 3

I want to talk about it; he will not. He is a very good father toward the girls, but not a good husband. There is no affection, sex, surprises, nothing. He is selfish. He will accept but not give.

2007-07-04 04:40:56 · 15 answers · asked by Raynay 2

My birthday is tomarrow and i haven't said a word about it infront of my husband I want to see if he remembers i'm not going to be mad if he doesn't but i will be VERY hurt.

2007-07-04 04:40:07 · 26 answers · asked by Kacey D 3

I want to talk about it; he will not. He is a very good father toward the girls, but not a good husband. There is no affection, sex, surprises, nothing. He is selfish. He will accept but not give.

2007-07-04 04:39:56 · 9 answers · asked by Raynay 2

2007-07-04 04:39:14 · 8 answers · asked by datta y 1

She rings the agency once a week and they say her ex does not reply to their mail. So does anyone know the next step.As this has been going on for a year now.

2007-07-04 04:25:10 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-07-04 04:24:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok I have been marriage for two years and dating this guy for four years, we have a daughter together. we have allot of problems, he want to be controlling of everything , he want to tell me were to go, we have two separate banks accounts, but he wants controll over mine, but I want let him, he is always tells me that he want a divorce, when things don' t go his way,I have be putting up with this for the longest, he is in the millitary. so last year I went back to my home state when he started up and he ask be to come back because he was going to change, now we are back to the same thing, but this time he put his hand on me because he ask me not to go somewhere and I went anyway, ( another millitary wife ask me to take her to the airport and I took her anyway, after he told me I couldn't, which is crazy)this is the type of thing I have to deal with, so now he is saying I'm going to change again. is he really or should I just leave ? I think I have done enough.

2007-07-04 04:01:50 · 13 answers · asked by wifey 2

He doesn't like me being here at yahoo answers..........Says, I'm talking to men....I've explained how this works,but he's just so controling ......... Yesterday he really started telling me off.......I'm just so tierd of his sh*t....The only time I have to myself, is when he's not home......If he's home,and working outside.......That's were he want's me to be,or if he's in the pool with the kids I should be there too........I feel like he's my father, running my life.......He talks to me like a child, In a very loud tone...........Am I being unreasonable? I've put up with this for 17 years, I want to live my own life...not his.... I've been very dedicated to him and my children, I work part-time, I do the chores, I cook, all I try to do is make everyone happy.........Still, it's not enough.......I've been thinking about this a lot lately, I think I'd like to get into a career I'd really enjoy, were I can make a difference in peoples lives.... .And eventually leave my husband..........

2007-07-04 03:59:48 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you could be the president why would you want to?
I think it would be cool to join the mile high club on Air Force One!!!!

2007-07-04 03:37:48 · 15 answers · asked by John M 2

If you found an affectionate e-mail from your wife to one of her ex-boyfriends that she had signed off "you will always be in my thoughts, love xxx"

2007-07-04 03:20:22 · 24 answers · asked by Dadams 3

only works 2 1/2 days a week even though we need the money. He keeps wanting to leave to teach abroad because we took an ESL course. However, he refuses to work the addtional days to save up the money. All the money i make goes towards bills, rent, his expenses, We don't live together. He is not willing to make the short term sacrifice to make it happen by simply going back fulltime. he seems to think we will save more money abroad. How can I believe him? By the way, his employer let him go to full time when he was attending school(Jan-Apr) but it's been 2 months and he still won't go back to full time because he hates his job. What to do?

2007-07-04 03:09:25 · 20 answers · asked by SweetV 2

She didn't used to be like this. But eight years later, I can do nothing right. Little, puny mistakes get blown way out of proportion. She uses every bad judgment call as fuel for the fire. She is convinced that I do not care about her, when in fact, she is my entire life. She gets verbally abusive to me. I don't take it well. I scream right back at her...it escalates until the bigger person squashes it. Usually me. I have low relationship esteem. I feel like her criticism is unwarranted. I have not changed anymore than she has. The flames die off with time. But am I really so unthoughtful, so uncaring? In a way, her criticism of me seems selfish. But at times she makes sense. I want to show her that I love her, but she has these fairy tale dreams of romanticism. I can do that. I guess the way I love her is no longer correct. Love should evolve to be effortless and not to require more effort. I think she is putting her own unhappiness with herself on the back burner and focusing on me.

2007-07-04 03:01:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

hello everyone,
i need if possible your advises on my situation: i live with my boyfriend and another couple in a house.
my boyfriend is going to move out because we're breaking up.
i'm planning on staying with the other couple in the house because we are good friends but still i'm thinking it's weird , i'm going to be alone upstairs, and in a way i'm so sacred of living in an appartement again.
(im 25)
the couple wants me to stay with them cause we know each other very well, and plus it would be weird for them to rent my floor to someone else.
they never liked my boyfriend and it's true that me and him had issues together, but still it's kind of weird because they will be happy when he's gone while i'll be recovering for the break-up.

i need your thought, your wishes and your advises, i'm all alone facing this and i also would like to know if soemeone else had to live the same situation.
thank you very very much.

2007-07-04 02:58:38 · 26 answers · asked by sun 1

I have recently taken over the job of bathing my 1 year old daughter. The thing is that I don't like washing her little who ha. My wife says I'm being stupid. Do any other Dads feel this way?

2007-07-04 02:32:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have this problem where I worry about friends I care about to an unusual amount. Like, if i leave a message (voice,text, etc) and they don't contact back or answer the phone I become worried something bad happened to them. I always have worries that something bad will happen to people when 100% of the time so far everything has been just fine. Anything from a car accident to a relative dying, i get thoughts like these a lot and i'm tired of it. I know that life is fragile and anything can happen at any time, I'm just afraid of things happening when I least expect them to.

2007-07-04 01:58:17 · 8 answers · asked by metalgrinch 1

I don't mind not to get married, and just live together (this seems to be the case with most couple in UK anyway), but how would you know that the guy is serious about you?
I think my BF loves me, but in 2 years of dating (1 year out of 2 living together and getting along perfectly) he never said he loved me. He says the marriage is not important and doesn't change anything, but how do you know that it's not a convinience from his side and in 3 years time I'd find out that he never loved me at all?
It's a difficult topic and he doesn't really want to talk about it and it's very hard to initiate the conversation about it again.
I am being harassed by my family and my friends for living with a guy and not marrying him. I don't know what to answer, and they all pity me saying that he doen't love me and will leave me, and I don't want to meet friends or call them in case they start asking again....

2007-07-04 01:30:18 · 24 answers · asked by gavira_76 3

My husband just left for Iraq and it hasn't been a week since he left and I am so miserable. When I dropped him off at the airport I coudln't handle my emotions they were running rampant, I cried so much that my head felt like it was going to explode, I got myself all worked up because we were basically newlywed, just got married April 13 this year and its been a little over 2 months and he is gone to war. I pray for my man everyday for his safe return and I get to talk with him 15 minutes a day but I am so miserable and I try to make him think that everything is okay that way he doesn't worry about me because he really needs to concentrate on his mission there but in reality I AM SUFFERING....I just need ways to cope with my feelings and emotions....I have been eating like crazy and I sure don't want to get fat while he is gone but I need help....Only SERIOUS answers please.

2007-07-04 01:03:22 · 13 answers · asked by Pegi 3

I had an affair a few months back with an old boyfriend. he dosen't live in the same state but i can't get him out of my head. He 2 has a family but he tells me he dosen't love the mother. I have spoken to him but we haven't resolved our issues. I think he has feelings for me but I don't see a future for us. We were great bed pals but that all. I do love my husband but I think the other guy wants more. he's even thinking of moving over these ways for work and his family will stay back. Even his siblings want him to come over as I am good friends with his sisters. They have no idea about us. Please any advice will be appreciated.

2007-07-04 00:34:38 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

call me needy, clingy, insecure, but i miss having compliments from my husband. we have been together for 2 years and i know he loves me to bits, i know i am the love of his life as he said before, but i need to hear that i look nice once in a while. he used to say all these things when we were going out, so i know he can. but it stopped. i know marriage is not about all that, but this is something that i really miss and would not be happy if i had to compromise on this. please, give me some real advice, not "you should buy suspenders and have a romantic dinner". it will do the trick only for one night and it will only be lust, i am talking about meaninful nice things.
before you ask . i do say nice things to him, a lot, i mean them and more than happy to do it, i know people are different, i just want to feel more like a woman.

2007-07-04 00:19:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous