only works 2 1/2 days a week even though we need the money. He keeps wanting to leave to teach abroad because we took an ESL course. However, he refuses to work the addtional days to save up the money. All the money i make goes towards bills, rent, his expenses, We don't live together. He is not willing to make the short term sacrifice to make it happen by simply going back fulltime. he seems to think we will save more money abroad. How can I believe him? By the way, his employer let him go to full time when he was attending school(Jan-Apr) but it's been 2 months and he still won't go back to full time because he hates his job. What to do?
2007-07-04 03:09:25 · 20 answers · asked by SweetV 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your be a fool to go any where with this guy.....
2007-07-04 03:12:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your boyfriend is going to drain you. Seems he is just letting you take care of his needs. Be careful, he may even try to talk you into providing for his whim of an idea. Sorry hun, he is using you. If he does not like his job, why does he not change it. Sounds lazy to me.
This is not a good relationship you are in. Until he gets some self motivation in his life, it seems he will go nowhere fast and drag you down with him. Why do you continue to support him. Is this the way you would want to live if you two ever got serious about being together. Because believe me, what you see now could be what you will have in the future with him. You may be supporting him for the duration.
This trip sounds like a whim. He is running from the reality of working for a living. Do not allow him to continue feeding you his visions of grandeur while he does not work to make his whim happen. Move on. You sound like a responsible person. Do not let this lazy, unmotivated moocher drag you with him. I do not usually speak this way about others but this is all I can see from your situation from what you have wrote. Sorry for being so frank.
Move on with your life and you will find someone more compatible for you.
You have already answered some of your own questions on this. Just search your heart and your responsible mind and you will find your answers.
2007-07-04 03:26:43 · answer #2 · answered by shy_tender_lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats quite a lack of drive...
If you haven't been together long, and you don't live together, you'll probably notice this more in the future. Will he help out around the house? Will he get bills in on time?
I don't like my job, but my life with my girlfriend takes precedence, and I go and do it to provide for us. This should be a BIG red flag.
You guys might be great for each other, but this doesn't seem like a good start to the rest of your lives... I'd be careful
2007-07-04 03:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by ct 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl, get away quick. I dated someone for 6 years and would always pay for stuff b/c he wouldn't work full time either. we weren't living together either he wouldn't make the commitment, well we ended up breaking up and I was stuck with the $3000 credit card payment and he never gave me a dime. honey run fast. don't think that you will always be together and you'll get your money back b/c you never know what life has in store for you and he sounds like a lazy ***.
2007-07-04 03:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...Are you his credit card or something? He's old enough and if he wants to buy things the least he can do is work the necessary amount of hours to earn enough money.
I'm sorry to say this...but if I were you I'd find someone else. Or at least let him handle his own expenses. Then maybe he'll mature, but according to a saying in my country...Someone who's born 'round' shall not die 'squarish'. That is if he's lazy or anything it shall be almost impossible to change him :/
Otherwise urge him to find another job.
Cheers
2007-07-04 03:19:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lucky for you he's only a boyfriend...........thank god you haven't married this deadbeat. Whatever you do...don't have kids with him.
50/50 starting right now, show him a list of bills and cost, tell him he's responsible for half. If he can't come up with his half of the money..... pack it up and move back to mommy's house. No ifs ands or buts about it.
Good luck
2007-07-04 03:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and explain the benefit of doing the 'short term sacrifice'. If he understands the concept and still won't do it then he's being a difficult and selfish ratbag and you should tell him.
2007-07-04 03:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by chameleon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should dump him and find a guy that you love and loves you back and that actually cares about starting a family and a life to live.
2007-07-04 03:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by poopsicles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he don't want to go back into that job then advice him to look for a different job or he will help to consume all your money. Thank you.
2007-07-04 03:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by success sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to gey up off his lazy as* and pay his own damn bills. Your not his sugar mama!! What a loser!!! Dump his as* go abroad and find a real man.
2007-07-04 03:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Brooke M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop paying all the bills and everything else and making his life a bed of roses and start worring about your future expecially when you don't even live together it sounds like to me you are handeling everything and he is handeling nothing
2007-07-04 03:21:09 · answer #11 · answered by tnsupermomwhit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋