My birthday is tomarrow and i haven't said a word about it infront of my husband I want to see if he remembers i'm not going to be mad if he doesn't but i will be VERY hurt.
2007-07-04 04:40:07 · 26 answers · asked by Kacey D 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
realbohemian-
that's just a stupid thing to say. so i'm supposed to remind him so he doesn't fail? screw that he's a grown man if he forgets it's on his own. sounds like your man remembers because you remind him. I'm talking about remembering on his own. A man shouldn't have to have a woman reminding him of her birthday to remember oh and by the way i just want a happy birthday i don't care about gifts for real because i have enough stuff i don't need more so it's just about the good morning hunny happy birthday.. or even if he forgets till late at least he would remember on his own,.
2007-07-04 04:53:58 · update #1
I'm not shallow and a Birthday isn't a HUGE importance for me. I'm an adult i don't feel that it's that big of a deal anymore. I do feel that his is my husband and should remember such occasion with words not gifts. I feel that he shouldn't have to be reminded of it since it's the day after a NATIONAL holiday never changes for gods sake. I'm not trying to start a fight i'm not setting him up for failure i'm not worried that he has forgotten because he hasn't said anything i just want to see if he remembers something like this without me reminding him.
2007-07-04 05:01:22 · update #2
why is it a set up? WHAT HAPPENED TO MEN NOW DAYS? they can't think on their own they need a woman to stand up and remind them of everything. PATHETIC!!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-04 05:02:45 · update #3
Well, if he DOES forget, then tell him how hurt you are. I'm sure your friends and the rest of your family will probably remember, so it should be easy enough for him to do so as well. And should he forget, then you simply "forget" his too. He might get the message.
2007-07-04 04:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You have to understand that dates are not that important to most guys. It is not that you are not important, but unless we relate a date to something else, it will not stand out in our minds! If it wasn't for all the hoopla, we would forget Christmas!!
I do not remember my own birthday some years. I can tell you my father's birthday, only because it was 2 days after Christmas. I know the month he died, but i have to think to remember the year, and have to go look on the gravestone to get the actual date!
We look at days, not dates. and the days run together. We go to work, we come home, we do it again tomorrow. This week is the same as last week. The only difference is the weather, If there is snow on the ground it is winter, if it is hot out it is summer!
You are making his remembering a date into a test of his love and feelings for you. You say that if he forgets, you are "not going to be mad" but "will be VERY hurt". You are setting him up for failure, and are setting yourself up for pain.
Nothing anyone here is going to say is going to change your mind. You think that if he does not remember, it is a serious character flaw.
He loves you. If he did not, he would not have married you! Marriage is a partnership. You each have strengths and weaknesses. The secret to happiness is to each help the other. You would rather try to test him and make both of you unhappy. This is your choice!
Happy birthday!
2007-07-04 15:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by fire4511 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you forget once, you will never need the reminder!!
The crux is how much love a person is having for the GF or wife? this is fact and can not be avoided. A guy does too much preparation for the b’day present foe his lover but if the same girl becomes his wife than the scenario gets change.
Accept it or not, but this is difficult to deny.
And a BF and Husband can never forget the b’day of his partner because she stated reminded him one month in advance giving some clues.
2007-07-04 12:05:10 · answer #3 · answered by K2S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are so setting him up. I was lucky my wife would tell me weeks in advance. If her birthday fell in the middle of the week. We had to go out the weekend before the weekend after and I had better have a card and flowers on the day of. Once I made her wait to the day of her birthday to give her flowers, acted like I didn't have anything planned oh she got really worked up lol The games spouses play Good Luck
2007-07-04 11:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Kacey, guys are wired differently than that! We all are! My wife and I have been married for 19 years and every year she needs to drop a hint a week before or she gets disappointed! I would much rather have to hint and get a nice thoughtful gift than to have someone forget and get nothing! This is a prelude to a really big fight. Is that what you really want? Drop the hint, give the guy a break!
2007-07-04 11:50:54 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Mine does! But it is written on a calendar that hangs right by the sink. It's not fair for you to "test" him like that. You're setting yourself up for a letdown also. I don't do so well remembering my loved ones bdays sometimes, and he is there to remind me. There are lots of things that he does better than me, so give him a break! He's a man. Men don't get near as mushy about their bdays as women! Drop a hint just to give him the benefit of the doubt!
2007-07-04 11:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by crankyissues 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Most men forget. Especially if you guys haven't been together very long. Just fuss at him a little and after a few years he'll remember. It took me about five years, so there is always hope. And don't get all hurt about it, alot of guys forget their own b-days.
2007-07-04 11:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do but of course sometimes when the birthday is approaching i pretend that i forgot about it until the actual birthday comes when i give a surprise present or something. That way it will be really a surprise.
2007-07-04 11:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by Tapyboy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Interestingly, in my past two relationships, it's been the guy who memorized the anniversary and birthday first. Or perhaps my memory is terrible like that.
On the other hand, one of my (male) teachers once confessed that he could never remember his wife's and mother's birthdays, since they were one day apart. He would constantly mix them up.
2007-07-04 11:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by R Amythest 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I remember my wife's birthday better than my own. I also remember our anniversary, Valentine's day and if they start printing greeting cards for Arbor Day, I'll remember that one too. I think these things are important. I never want to miss an opportunity to remind my wife just how special she is to me.
2007-07-04 12:15:19 · answer #10 · answered by rtanys 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋