I want to talk about it; he will not. He is a very good father toward the girls, but not a good husband. There is no affection, sex, surprises, nothing. He is selfish. He will accept but not give.
2007-07-04 04:39:56 · 9 answers · asked by Raynay 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All you can do is try. If he doesn't want to try or maybe go to any marriage counseling or listen to how you feel. Then you need to ask yourself if you can live with how he is. He will not one day miraculously change his ways without working to do s. So you have to decide if you can live with him and how he is. Sounds like you are a giver and he is a taker. Maybe stop giving so much, focus on your kids and yourself and tell him if he wants this marriage to work then he needs to come with you to some counseling to try to fix the problems. If he doesn't want to then like I said, you have to decide if you want to live like that. Good luck to you
2007-07-04 04:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Maalru3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard anything very intriguing a little bit even as in the past I can not remember which psychologist mentioned it, it went virtually like this: The key to positive marriages normally has not anything to do with any precise factor besides the mechanism the couple has in handling their issues and conflicts. The extra I idea approximately it, the extra I consider it is actual. If you boil down such a lot issues in a courting you'll see that the mechanism or the best way they attempted to solve the drawback did not paintings or nonetheless is not running. Most as a rule females get pissed off and begin to "nag" and guys get pissed off and "close down". Discuss this along with your husband, also be so daring as to mention "that is the drawback in our courting, how do you consider we must attempt to solve it?". Then sit down and say not anything. Let him do the entire speaking and spot what he thinks. Now you'll begin to have a talk and seem on the drawback in combination. You could also be amazed how good this procedure can paintings.
2016-09-05 14:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the best option would be some counseling, and after that fails, a divorce, but there's no limitation on seeing the kids for either of you.
2007-07-04 04:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will he go to counseling with you, have you asked? I give you credit for hanging in there and trying to make it work.
2007-07-04 04:47:13 · answer #4 · answered by Dutchess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem...he refuses to go to counseling either, so I'm going by myself.
2007-07-04 08:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by its about time 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is time for a marriage counselor or a divorce lawyer take his pick.He sounds like he may be gay, or like he just doesn't love you anymore.
2007-07-04 04:43:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
see a counselor yourself even if he will not go
2007-07-04 04:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously reconsider this relationship*.....
2007-07-04 08:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont see a problem here, He is the man!!
2007-07-04 04:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋