Computer games over family?

Question

I have been married for about 4 months now and we dated for 7 years before that. We have two children 4 and 10 months. I work on the weekends and stay home during the week with the kids. I work approx. 45 minutes from where I live so I stay at my parents house while I work. Usually its just overnight, but I bring the kids down with me so they can have time with their grandparents. My husband comes home from work, goes in the shower, then will go on the computer to play games for hours. WHen I am gone on the weekend he just sits home on the computer and when we come back home he helps me bring stuff in and then goes right back on the computer. ITs really a game he is playing, its not like he is online chatting he is playing World of the Warcraft. I dont know how to compete with a computer. Yes he did this before we were married but I thougth hed be sick of the game by now. HEs been playing it for almost a year. He truly cares more about this game then his family..

Answer 1

Don' t listen to Mr Jackel, he's probably addicted to the game as well. The game is an addiction and one that your hubby needs to start to curb especially now since he's married and has two kids to help raise. I would tell him that he needs to spend more time with you and the kids. If he gives you grief over this then I'd tell him he needs to get therapy or lose you. Something like this can't be knocked down in one week or one month. It will take time, but if he refuses to give up just one hour of this game for you and his new family then he's not interested in the family or you. He needs to be more a husband and father than a roommate or gamer. There are times he can play the game and times he needs to spend with you and the kids. I would give him the option of choosing you or the game. If he chooses the game then you know how serious he is about you and the kids.

Answer 2

My step sister got divorced for the same exact reason, her husband played the darn game and ignored his family, even though she warned him. My other stepsister was starting to have the same problem, but as soon as she said something, my Brother in law quit. He new what was truly important. So the best advice i can give is to let him know he needs to chose between the computer game and the marriage and kids. If he doesn't wise up, let it go. Human, unlike computers have emotions, and if he doesn't realize that, then forget it, he will keep doing it. If he does realize what he is doing, and quits, then he has priority, and probably didn't realize what the effect was. Just talk to him, let him know how you feel, and take action as a partnership. Just make sure he knows there is a problem, and you will find a solution that will make bth of you happy.

Answer 3

Hey I know how u feel cos sometimes I felt the same way. You should hv a talk with him. Sometimes we lack of communication, then leads to argument or unhappy moments. Try to leave 1 f your baby to him, so that they can start bonding with their dad while u r at work :)

When my daughter was a baby, my husband don't even carry her. When she poo, he runs off.

It hard to be fair when comes to parenting, woman usually have to commit more. But some man can do really great jobs when comes to kids. It really depend on their character.

And most time we just bottom it up without communicating, it make things worst. Do spend some time with him and sort it out.

Hope this helps...

Take Care! :)

Answer 4

Your husband has trouble with his ability to relax. He needs some more efficient ways to de-stress, something that doesn't take hours and hours in front of a screen.

Don't treat it as a problem, because he needs it until he can find something else. You can pry him away from it by learning massage therapy and 'practicing' on him, getting him to do stretching exercises with you, or having marathon sex sessions.

These are all ways to lower stress. Once he finds some other way to lower his stress, he will find the game less interesting.

Your problem isn't that bad, really. It's easier to deal with than drug or alcohol addiction, or a philanderer, which are all stress relief measures that some people take when they don't know how to help themselves.

Answer 5

Listen. all these psychological answers are so stupid. Games like WoW are very addictive, i speak from experience. No matter how great and fun you are he will want to play. It's not you, the guy is just addicted to the game!! Get his account banned and there ya go.

P.S - it can't be that bad if he has time to make kids, work.. etc.

Answer 6

The computer can become very addicting...maybe he doesnt' realize this is bothering you so much and that he's on it so much, the best thing to do is talk to him about it, let him know it's bothering you and let him know you want more time with him....you can find a solution if you work it out. he just has to be willing to listen

Answer 7

As a fellow world of warcraft player, My wife and I got together and set limits. Then we stick to it. May work for u also.

Answer 8

Well, you truly knew all this before you married him - but you found him 'good enough' to have two children with! Suck it up - you chose to marry a boy.

Answer 9

You need marriage counseling. He has a problem and it's affecting your marriage. This is making you unhappy and it either needs to change or you need to move on. I hope he is willing to compromise, but if not you need to think about what makes you happy and go for it.

Answer 10

Well, if he did this before you got married, you were wrong for thinking it would change afterwards.
Talk to him. ( I am thinking you already have)
Pray and ask God to intervene.
Pray and ask God for guidance.