what would you do if..?

Question

hello everyone,
i need if possible your advises on my situation: i live with my boyfriend and another couple in a house.
my boyfriend is going to move out because we're breaking up.
i'm planning on staying with the other couple in the house because we are good friends but still i'm thinking it's weird , i'm going to be alone upstairs, and in a way i'm so sacred of living in an appartement again.
(im 25)
the couple wants me to stay with them cause we know each other very well, and plus it would be weird for them to rent my floor to someone else.
they never liked my boyfriend and it's true that me and him had issues together, but still it's kind of weird because they will be happy when he's gone while i'll be recovering for the break-up.

i need your thought, your wishes and your advises, i'm all alone facing this and i also would like to know if soemeone else had to live the same situation.
thank you very very much.

Answer 1

Sit down a make a list of reasons why you should stay, and why you should go and
where !!!
See who wins !!
I would stay.

Answer 2

Dear sun.. I understand you dilemma only to well. I agree that staying in your apartment is a good idea, the reasons are. You know the apartment well and even though you were there with your boyfriend, a home is also like friend, You know where ever thing is, You don't have to look for another apartment and pack and unpack your things, making new friends and lastly finding new friends. The couple are right as you do know each other and have a good relations, you may get the support you need when your partner eventually moves out. Whether they liked your boyfriend in neither here or there, but if you had issues and were arguing in the house they could be pleased that calm will return to the house. You would feel more at home in an apartment you have lived in for a while and I believe they will give you support if you should you ever need it. But always be sure your apartment is secure. If you need to you can always find another person to share the apartment and the bills, say another female. Good luck Sun....David

Answer 3

Wherever you go it will feel weird because the situation has changed and you will not be with your boyfriend. However if you are apprehensive of living on your own again is there a friend you can move in with? Or perhaps move back to your parents for a while until you work out your next move?

Of course, staying where you are will be difficult because of the history and association with your boyfriend. But on the other hand as time passes those feelings would lessen and staying would enable you to keep your independence. Also at least it's not as alone as an apartment somewhere anonymous because you are friendly with the couple below.

Answer 4

Your soon ex to be didnt die and he might become even a better friend , I guess time will tell....its a shame you didnt give more info about the issues you both had but if you cant solve them it is also no use to let them bother you. occupy your mind really thats no good nor for your relationship, its rather simple just accept that fact and no relation is without them as a matter of fact.also use the time alone also by being alone to me it seems staying with your friends isnt such a great idea as it will bring back memories and living with memories will be in the way for any new relationship so consider the possibility of moving out and live with friends who are not a couple as you do relate better with the single ones after the breakup if that couple have your best interest at heart and not your help in paying the rent they wouldnt want you to stay but they would encourage you to live somewherelse you might just check the adds in your localpaper and go and live with stangers you at least dont have a history together ,adverture is one thing to take your mind of things concerning your ex and travel for a while......dont let yourself be miserable in that old place.Also if you all are such a good friends WHY cant you be happy for them having a good relationship your breakup has just nothing to do with it so work on your jealousy issues...

Answer 5

Just be gratefull you have a place to live in and people who care about you around you. No matter how they felt about your boyfriend they will still be there to support you. Life can be a little difficult sometimes, but by the sounds of it, you have enough security around you to make it easier. Some are not so lucky. Count your blessings instead of looking for the black side of the situation. You will eventually find another guy who deserves your affection and you will be able to put the past behind you.

Answer 6

Of course this new situation will seem strange to you as you are used to having your b/f around, but sounds like you should view things as a "new start" and be happy that you can remain in a familiar place with flatmates that understand the situation you have been through (this is a huge plus). As difficult as it may seem you need to move past what has happened and rebuild your life - regardless of where you reside - and I wish you all the very best !

Answer 7

I had to live in the same flat I'd shared with a girlfriend and it made getting over her immensely more difficult and prolonged. Although they are your friends you should think of yourself rather than the other couple. If they truly are your friends they will understand if you decide to move out. If you weren't too bothered about the guy , stay where you are then everybody will be happy.

Answer 8

when it comes to a break up everyone needs a support group, be it the guys that go out and hit the bars, to the room mates or friends that are glad he/she is gone...you need the positive outlook so that you don't slip into another dead end relationship...if you are going to stay make sure that you don't become a hindrance on your friends that your living with...after all 2 is company 3 is a crowd...even if your friends don't say it... you will move on, life will get better and hey if it weren't for breaking up how would we ever have a good time at romance movies...lol...j/k...good luck to you in the future...and hey im sure that everything will get better...it always does...remember that your friends have your best interests in heart... =)

Answer 9

I think you should stay there. They have expressed they would prefer to rent to you then anybody else and it will be easier for you to have them close by. If you go in an apartment alone I think it will just amplifying your feeling of loneliness. Maybe later you'll feel like moving out but for now , one change at a time seams to be the right thing to do.

Answer 10

Breaking up is very difficult, you can move out so that you have nothing to remind you of him, but in the other hand this is a time when you will be needing company from good friends, I would try staying if the memories areto difficult to forget try moving out.

wish you the best!!!

Answer 11

You are in an ideal situation - friends for support while you go through the painful breakthrough. It will take 2-3 weeks and you wont miss the walking up the stairs alone bit! Good luck.