not sure if he will stay off of them I do trust him but I find myself checking were he has been online and who he talks to. He has lied before. I also had someone else in my life try to cheat so Its really hard for me what do I do. I really love him. I have tried to talk to him but it gets me nowhere. I was on his messenger and I found he dident delete some of the wowmen he had been talking to before.
2007-07-04 13:59:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I went through the same with my ex. He would tell me all the excuses about why he did it. The best one was to see who else was on there and if he knew them. Men can think we are so stupid. I found myself always wondering each time he got online what he was doing. No, they don't change, they just find better ways of hiding it. You have lost some trust and believe me it does put a strain on any relationship.
2007-07-04 15:07:26 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband did that too, but we have worked past it. We had alot of problems and hadn't been happy for a long time. He met a woman and it had evolved into a friendship, and luckily ended before it became an affair. The whole situation caused us both alot of pain and hurt, but it also caused us both to re-evaluate our marriage. We are doing better now than we have in years. However, my husband did not have a history of lying so the trust issues were easier to overcome. Your husband is playing with fire. I hope you can get him to end it before it goes any further. By the way, 1/3 of the men on dating sites are married. True statistic.
2007-07-04 14:15:11 · answer #2 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going thru something similar. I found an online profile for singles and he had updated it the day before. He told me he was trying to delete the profile, that it was old. It is difficult because you are torn between wanting to trust him and wanting to check up on him to see if he is telling you the truth. You can only check up on him so much, eventually you will have to just decide to either trust him or get out of the relationship.
2007-07-04 14:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by viper pilot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same situation recently. After two months I am still checking the internet history. I can honestly say it is very hard to trust someone once they have broken it. The big question is why he is chatting with other women. Maybe in the truth you can find some peace with the situation.
2007-07-04 14:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by reel_diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to satisfy him. Not in an a uncalled for way, just ask yourself if he is merely bored, or a nutjob. I have gotten curious to look at some sites, but would never actually cheat. The big difference between us men might just be how long we have been feeling this way. Good luck.
2007-07-04 14:14:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has at least, already cheated in his mind. I would ask him what he wants and to make a choice, leave the women alone or you have nothing more for him. If it were mine...I surely wouldn't trust him, lying is not being trustworthy. I sure wouldn't take second to women online. Hope it works out for you!
2007-07-04 14:05:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is important to always solve any problems arising in marriage very fast and to make sure you always tell your spouse he is priority. Also not to mix sex with disagreements. The rate of sex should always be the same. Do not bring your disagreements into the bedroom. Each must always know that the other is available for sex. It dents self confidence if your spouse starts refusing you sex. You admit yourself that you were going through a rough patch. Maybe you showed signs of resentment and reduced or stopped sex. At that point most people would like to know that they are still acceptable to someone. Thats when he created the account. Let it be a lesson to you both. Give sex generously and always. It disadvantages you both for one to use sex in intellectual discussions. If he does not listen to you, use other means than sex to get him to listen.
2016-04-01 07:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean anything, it is just a game. I got caught talking or e mailing some chick on the web page and she freaked out. It is not like we were dating or anything.
it is just fun to think your talking to a chick.
I had no intentions of it going any further than an E mail.
that isn't near as bad as playboy magazines? Where some woman in naked. YOU would never leave him over that.
It is just fun! means nothing!
2007-07-04 14:09:51 · answer #8 · answered by Steven 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best opinon would be find out where he is lacking In the relationship. cuz there is a lack he may not admit it. try and change it in a way and if you cannot. there might be a chance best bet is to get out of the relationship. before it gets worse.
this is comming from my husband. bc he had done it before... but we worked through it. all i can say is time... good luck....
2007-07-04 14:06:23 · answer #9 · answered by jbairswifey9706 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happens when you have tried to talk to him? If he just brushes you off and doesn't want to talk about it, it doesn't sound good. Have you tried talking to his friends? family? Why would he want to cheat on you? Something is missing for him. If I were you, I would try to find out what is missing in my relationship that he would want to look for it elsewhere.
2007-07-04 14:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by SapphireSeaFairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋