and tell you how to run your life.raise hell with your children and even try to make them fight her . she works as a guard in a prison and thinks she rules over all people shes around
2007-07-04 16:41:36 · 20 answers · asked by samuel p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell her it's one or the other
Divorce means no sex, and sex means no divorce
As for the answerer above ...... why the hell should the asker leave instead of his wife, seems to me she's the unreasonable one so should be the one leaving.
2007-07-04 16:44:57 · answer #1 · answered by Weatherman 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think this is a case of your wife feeling very unloved, neglected and has abruptly decided to end the marriage. You mentioned that you are very busy working, indicating that the two of you spend no quality time together. Your sex life is only once every three weeks, which is a lack of intimacy, yet you deflect the bame to her saying you thought sex didn't matter much to her. What made you assume that you know how she felt? You never asked her. You assumed. The situation is complicated further when you reneged on your agreement to have children with her. The death if your own mother prompted that decision, apparently with no mutual agreement. You made a decision that affects both of you. She probably feels unloved and now you've snatched away the opportunity for her to be a mother and love your child. I don't know if she tried to reach out to you and you were too busy to listen, or if she sufferred in silence until she was fed up. I will tell you one thing: when a woman gives up on a marriage because she feels unloved, neglected and unappreciated, it takes more than lip service to reconcile. You said the aftermath was a day of arguing and you already said sone nasty thing to allienate her further. If you really want your wife back, you have to sit down with her and LISTEN to her. Allow her to tell you exactly what is on her mind, without interrupting or criticicizing. Apologize to her and vow to make any changes, including marital counseling in order to reconcile. As I stated earlier, it will take more than lip service to resolve this issue. You'll have to make a major 180 degree turn. The question is whether you are ready to do so.
2016-05-18 03:57:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with her.
First tell her if she's asking for divorce then the sex is over, and she should know due to the kind of job she has, than even if she's the woman, force sex is rape, no matter who the offender is. Might sound ridiculous but that's the fact.
Also, if she's provoking the children to "fight" her that's child abuse and negligence, and you could get child custody of then in case of divorce.
If things keep getting worst it'll be a good idea to have a camera somewhere to prove your case in a divorce court. Don't let her abuse you and your children.
2007-07-04 16:50:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lulu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough deal. A marriage therapist can help you with this emotional yo-yo you're on. Something else is going on with her and if she won't see a therapist, go alone. Meanwhile, tell her that the good times in the hays are over until you know she's either committed to making the marriage work or not. Good luck! .
2007-07-04 16:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by sacredmud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and tell her if she wants sex she has to stay married and in order to stay married she has to agree to go to counseling because contrary to her popular beliefs ,she DOES have problems!Tell her you can make her lose her job by trying to make her kids fight her.This will take some of the wind out of her sail.Then tell her it's either go to counseling or divorce quietly.Her choice.
2007-07-04 16:45:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, get away from her. Tell her it's either all or nothing and since she wants a divorce, she has already made the choice of nothing. Oh, and don't give in when she comes on to you. You are just adding fuel to the fire.
2007-07-04 16:46:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the divorce papers are signed the sex goes too. Think more of yourself than that.
2007-07-04 16:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by Georgia Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dun have to deal with it, it either you agree to it or simply ignore it. Agreeing to divorce and still remain as one of her sex partner. Ignoring meaning get the divorce and get out of sex forever with her.
Next time, get a nurse ya.
2007-07-04 16:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as your married, you might as well act like husband and wife and have sex. As for ruling over all people, don't all wives do that?
2007-07-04 16:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be best for your children and you if you just left. Sex means nothing if there is no love or communication.
2007-07-04 16:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋