Marriage & Divorce - 28 June 2007

My parents just told me they are getting a divorce and they say that all the time but they said this time theyre serious...i know its my fault because whenever they say theyre getting one its when im fighting with them. I dont want them to leave each other...theyre trying to make it so its best for both of them but i will still see my mom more than my dad and i dont want to see either one of them more, also my dad is going to not make alot of money and im really worried for him and i think my mom is just doing this to make everyone miserable. because my dad doesnt want to divorce, i try not to cry but i hear the breaking up songs on the radio and cry my heart out for like an hour, and my parents are getting divorced in a year, yea this isnt relally a question but i sorta just wanted to blog, feel free to comment/answer if you like...

pc xo

2007-06-28 11:31:59 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't feel that my husband truly is in love with me. When I tell him something he shows no interest and just says "ok". He is not romantic anymore like candles/music he told me he stopped because their is no garuntee it will lead to making love, so he said what's the point. We are different in the intimacy area, and he told me one time that based soley on the sex in our marriage he does not know if he would ask me to marry him again. And he did say to me that even though he thinks that I am not in the mood to make love, he will go ahead with it anyway because he does not kow when the next time will be. When just walking around wether in the house or in public he will make sexual comments to me. And he's always sacrcastic with me. When i told him that i think he loves WHO i am but i don't think he's IN LOVE with me, he got defensive with me and said "Are you trying to make us get a divorce?" Why did he respond to me like this and why does he stay with me?

2007-06-28 11:30:53 · 11 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

not like porn or even a place where ppl "play" online, but a place where you can talk openly about sex and ask questions and that kind of things. I've tried to ask somethings on here and had them removed :(

2007-06-28 11:28:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know that the main reason why sibbling can't marry because of the genes in their genetics pool. But are there any more reasons beside that?

2007-06-28 11:26:03 · 48 answers · asked by wondering 2

I have been divorced 3 times. I seem to have trust issues. only one spouse ever cheted on me.the 2nd went to a rich man.the third was too self centered.and too controlling.. I cant seem to trust s well as I should .am involved with a wonderful woman now. we enjoy each others company.we are both left handed. we are both libras.shes just right for me but I have doubts about all relationships. she hasnt done one thing wrong but I cant seem to commit to her.she deserves a chance but I seem to be holding back and I dont know why..any suggestions?

2007-06-28 11:25:15 · 13 answers · asked by road runner 4

I temporarily let my mother n law have my children and she is refusing to let me have any contact with them. Is there anything I can do? Can the court locate them if I'm not sure where they are living? Should I go ahead and file for custody and divorce before having the my children? Especially, if I can't find where they live?

2007-06-28 11:06:48 · 13 answers · asked by sweets29rc 1

She complains about how big she is getting (she has put on weight, I dont really care) but she wont work out or eat better. All she does is complain about it.

Im a runner and run about 20 miles a week, she wont join me because its too hot or she is too tired.

2007-06-28 11:03:26 · 22 answers · asked by Face on Fire 5

Why is it that I as a woman have to get my hair done, have my nails done, put make up on, and get dressed up and my husband doesn't?
I can't get even get my man to trim his freakin nose hair! He used to care how he looks and now he's just there...he has a ton of confidence but I'm not attracted to him anymore.
Has anyone ever had this problem?

2007-06-28 11:03:17 · 21 answers · asked by summerB 4

my husband lies to me about where he goes, what he does and who he chats with on the internet. the last time i caught him he said i over react and he took a 50/50 chance to avoid the reaction. My point is that if it were so innocent then he should be able to tell me about it, there would be no reaction from me and he wouldn't have to lie. so my question is why do men lie?

2007-06-28 10:59:21 · 19 answers · asked by jgrey1goose 4

I had a live in girlfriend for almost 3 years. March 2006 she took a government job and had to move 800 miles away. I helped set her up in the new place, and we visited each other at least once a month. Sep 2006 she announces she thinks we need to take a break, split up, as she wants to try "life on her own". Turns out she just wanted to get with another guy there and I found out she slept with him within two weeks of our split. Ouch. Anyways, now she is no longer with that guy and realizes her mistake (she did admit what she did) and would like another try with me. She now realizes that I am all she has been looking for in a man. I was very much in love, but think I was burned too bad by what she did. Thoughts?

2007-06-28 10:55:31 · 15 answers · asked by Michael H 3

I do believe in what the Bible says, every bit of it! I try to live my life by it but at times it gets very hard. What I need help with is this. My marriage is very quickly going down the toilet so to speak, infact my husband (and father of 3 kids) of 2 years has filed for divorce. I don't want the divorce because I love him whole heartidly. I believe the God doesn't like divorce unless cheating or abuse is going on and then I believe He says it's ok, none of that is going on..... but I also know that the Bible says for wives to be submissive to their husbands. So my question to you guys is, what do I do? Do I keep trying to convince my husband to call off the divorce, or do I simply back down and let him make the decision for the family. I do pray that God leads, guides, directs him and gives him knowledge and wisdom about what to do, but it's just hard to sit back and watch him make this what I believe to be a mistake. What do I do?

2007-06-28 10:42:34 · 16 answers · asked by Gina R 2

My husband cheated on me 2 months ago the fling only lasted 3 weeks, we are working on getting our lives back together, and we have not talked so much since we first started to date .and i am trying to move on trying to get over it but sometimes i just so depressed that it ever happened and i cry and it affects everything i do . i don't know what to do anymore

2007-06-28 10:38:33 · 21 answers · asked by er5199 1

We enjoy each other a lot sexually but I find myself not wanting it if he wants it. If I want it I like going after it but if he wants it I just push away. What is wrong with me? I could start touching him and he gets turned on and I enjoy that but when I am not the one making the moves I notice I do not want to be sexual. I like to tease but I like to be dominated. I feel confused on what to do. I do not want to make him feel unwanted but I am not turned on when he wants it. If he let me make the moves all the time we would have sex every day, but he makes them and I get turned off I guess.

2007-06-28 10:30:50 · 17 answers · asked by tiffaney1080 1

by looking at my text mess. and call log on my phone. The "other" man and I are just friends and talk on the phone a lot. We no longer sleep together(its been 10 months since the last time) or see eachother much but there still is some physical attraction there and it shows in the texts. Now my husband is constantly asking me if I talked to this man. I say no but he doesn't believe me. I am still talking to him. My husband is always looking over my shoulder. I can't use the computer or cell phone in his presence because he gets suspicious. I love my husband but he refuses to take any responsibiilty for this. marriage is a two-way street and our 15 year marriage has not been good. I am not in love with this other man but we have become great friends in the past year and a half. We are both married with children. What should I do? Separate? work it out?

2007-06-28 10:27:00 · 54 answers · asked by R 1

Husband A who tries to constantly makes his wife happy by doing house work, taking her out to romantic dinners and tryies to comply to everything his wife says
OR
Husband B who does his own thing and is willing to share his happiness, but doesn't need his wife's approval.

So which is going to get more sex the wimp or the real man?

2007-06-28 10:21:58 · 7 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

what can i do to want me more in bed he says he doesnt know why things changed and that hes not bored and doesnt think im ugly or bad in bed i know he isnt cheating bc i know where he is all the time i just dont understand he doesnt answer me except with i dont know and just gets kind of like why do u keep asking me

how do i make him feel insecure and not sexy

old story
Dating guy for a year sex dying down dramaticly?
Ive been dating this boy for a year and the sex has died down dramactily he use to want it all the time and now never starts it i always have to ask. we still have it but now its way shorter then it used to be way less and i always have to start it. and i know hes a very sexual person were going to move in together and im almost positive hes not cheating but when i ask i never get a straight answer



i try to spice it up and do everything but he doesnt seem to make him want me anymore

2007-06-28 10:12:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my wife been married for 21 yrs with 4 kids, we had major great fight last week, and she and her family decided to divorce, till now my wife she did not insist on the divorce and she keep coming to me from time to time to drink coffee and eat together! But she never open the topic and divorce neither I. I’m really wondering if she change her mind? Because we love each other and daily we make love?

2007-06-28 10:05:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been divorced now for 8 years. I have two kids with my ex. I am remarried as of 2 years now. Me and my ex are not on what you could say are the best of terms. But mostly because of her. She is very unwilling to be sociable and keeps tension between us by doing things that disrupted our relationship. For example I have asked that she not take the kids to feed them dinner on days (in Curtin circumstances) because I had dinner planes with the kids already planed. She refuses to get along in many cases. My wife now in the beginning tried very hard to become friendly with her and talk to her for the benefit of the kids. To be friends. Only to get stabbed in the back by the ex and have the ex tell the kids lies and try her best to turn them against my wife. My father and Step mom who are a big part of the kid’s life when it is convenient for them will not stop associating with my ex. It would be different if the ex and I got along. But we don’t. So this hurts my wife’s fillings a lot of times because my wife will try to be part of our family and talk to my parents and do things with them only to hear about the ex. My parents just don’t get it. I have tried talking to them and they always say “we don’t talk to her that much”. They also say “we just want to see the kids, and we know you don’t have them very much and don’t want to take that time away from you”. My filling on this is they should try more to see them when I have them and be more a part of there lives when I have them. Make my wife fill like she is more a part of the family and not the ex. Any advice on this? How do I get my parents to understand what they are doing to my family and life I am trying to rebuild and make stable for my kids who have been through enough in a nasty relationship between me and there mother.

2007-06-28 10:05:08 · 9 answers · asked by Bubba C 1

I don't like cookies, so no comment from me.

2007-06-28 10:01:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

my parents have divorced since i am two, and all they do is fight.
this past year the fightting has effected me so much that i have started to become very angry, and upset. i try to tell them, but all they do is talk bad about the other parent.
i am always in the middle. and all my relationships with anyone are going down hill becuase of their example.. waht do i do?

2007-06-28 09:58:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-28 09:57:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I don't think my boyfriends loves me anymore and I need to laugh. Someone help!

2007-06-28 09:57:20 · 9 answers · asked by SAD SALLY 1

Married to a highly successful man who cheated on me with his employee. She's gone but within last 6 months he's lost company, homes, cars and now me. I have tried to handle it all, but I am so hurt and angry. We have a 3year old. I have told my husband that I hate him and that I wished I could never see him again (not around the child of course!) the house we are in now will soon go and he has made no real plans on where we would go but bought land to build on, for us. Yesterday I found a place for me and our child. I cry and am deeply hurt. I don't want to go, but I know I can't be with him until I get rid of my anger and could possibly entertain giving him my life again. I think he is just so depressed and convinced I hate him he doesn't even think there is a future. I think distancing myself is the right thing. I don't want to be a doormat, but I also fear I am ending any chance of repairing this mess and being with him on the right terms. We've been together 12 years. Is it over?

2007-06-28 09:54:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i just dont get it how you can allow someone to put there hands on your partner. i think if he or she wants this then they are not happy with you in bed!!!

2007-06-28 09:51:09 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

What Compliments do Men like to hear from there spouse or girlfriend? And Females what compliment do you like to hear from your husband or boyfriend? Please do not make a list out just one sentence or phrase, that put a smile on your face or shows that he/she really cares for you.

2007-06-28 09:43:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-28 09:42:47 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

I posted earlier about why my husband that tries to control the way I think and the way I should feel....
I got alot of great feed back, thankyou.
One thing that nobody really gave any advice on was.....if I'm supposed to try to understand the way he is....how? How do I possibly do that? Its like guys say "you will never figure out a woman". Well its the same way for woman trying to figure guys out. How can I put that ball in his court and make him realize that he is living with his own guilt from what he did, and that he doesnt have to try to make me guilty for stuff that happened 15 years before I ever meet him. He is like a brick wall..I have tried to talk to him and he refuses to hear what I have to say, and in return I get downgraded and made out to be like im the worst person in the world. He maid some mistakes and so did I. But why is it only my fault.....hes just as bad.

2007-06-28 09:40:53 · 3 answers · asked by Spice 2

I am 7 months pregnant and out relationship is great. Tonight he was going golfing with a his best friend. I asked how long the course would take to do he said 5 hrs. I know full well it's only 2 maybe 3....only because I've done that course before and I'm horrible at golf. So I called him and asked why he would lie to me about that. He didn't answer and said he had to go. What the hell? We've never had any problems and there are no other cheating signs.....as I know that's what everyone is going to say. I told him I wanted him to answer me as It made me very upset. I'm really upset about this.

2007-06-28 09:38:50 · 20 answers · asked by Sara M 2

I recently found out that my soon to be "ex-husband" has been hiding and lying about having a 15 month old son with his girlfriend of two and a half years....We have two boys together ages 10 and 9 years old..Our boys have not and does not want to meet his girlfriend..He's apart of their life when he remembers he's a dad or when it's convenient for him..I'm upset he has hid this huge secret to his advantage.. He said he was afraid that if I knew that I would take the kids away.. He's excluded our boys as if they don't exsist nor matter...So has his family...I'm also upset because when our boys find out as well they may just resent their father for keeping this from them..Everyone keeps asking me if I still love my ex-husband because of my anger but, my question is "How could you love or be in love with someone you haven't been with for nearly 5 years"???
Even my ex husband has said that to me, "How could we still love one another after all this time"?

2007-06-28 09:37:59 · 5 answers · asked by Yvette D 5

Almost 2 weeks ago, my husband left my 6-month old daughter and myself to go be gay. Rather than keep up his commitments, he's followed his wang and left his daughter. Now he's off doing who knows what. I feel the need to get even. Yes, I know its petty, but I just want a revenge lay or something.

How do I get even sufficiently without losing my dignity?

2007-06-28 09:34:04 · 29 answers · asked by madelinemoo 1