I recently found out that my soon to be "ex-husband" has been hiding and lying about having a 15 month old son with his girlfriend of two and a half years....We have two boys together ages 10 and 9 years old..Our boys have not and does not want to meet his girlfriend..He's apart of their life when he remembers he's a dad or when it's convenient for him..I'm upset he has hid this huge secret to his advantage.. He said he was afraid that if I knew that I would take the kids away.. He's excluded our boys as if they don't exsist nor matter...So has his family...I'm also upset because when our boys find out as well they may just resent their father for keeping this from them..Everyone keeps asking me if I still love my ex-husband because of my anger but, my question is "How could you love or be in love with someone you haven't been with for nearly 5 years"???
Even my ex husband has said that to me, "How could we still love one another after all this time"?
2007-06-28 09:37:59 · 5 answers · asked by Yvette D 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is unfortunate that your children have to deal with a father that doesn't want to deal with his priorities. Those children deserve so much more you need to take him to court asap and get what you deserve. I would suggest that you do not have your sons go for any over night visits and make them during the day only so that if they are uncomfortable you can get them at any time. This will help them to readjust to the situation they knew nothing about. if the courts order visitation be very stern in that he hasn't allowed the boys to know the child or his new family and they are not comfortable with the situation. The courts will take this into consideration.
2007-07-02 09:07:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This 15 month old boy is your son's half brother help your boys to learn how to love not hate. Be the better person teach your boys how to be great men.
2007-07-02 15:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right, listen to him. AND, find yourself a lawyer. There are some HUGE legal issues involved here and they may affect you for the remainder of your life. Get youself protected legally and also, find yourself a good counselor. You deserve it and need it.
Finally, just because you love someone doesn't mean you can live with that person, nor can they live with you.
2007-06-28 16:41:25 · answer #3 · answered by John B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things you just can't change or understand... if he doesn't want you or his children in his life, you have to move on. Life a great life and take care of those boys!
2007-06-28 16:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't move on then yes it's possible to still love them. But he sounds like a total schmuck so it's time to move on
2007-06-28 16:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋