How do I get my wife to lose weight or stop complaining about her size?

Question

She complains about how big she is getting (she has put on weight, I dont really care) but she wont work out or eat better. All she does is complain about it.

Im a runner and run about 20 miles a week, she wont join me because its too hot or she is too tired.

Answer 1

Do something else with her to build up her endurance. She probably won't be able to keep up with you and that is probably what is holding her back. Do something that you both can enjoy together. Go for a hike, swimming, ride bikes, walk the mall and window shop, go to the park or zoo or museum. Anything to get her off the couch and moving. But stay by her side and help boost her confidence by wanting to do fun and active things together without pressure to keep up with you.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I think you need to tell her that if she wants to lose weight well she has got to be prepared to put in a little bit of worked and she will gradually get there even if it is hardly anything but it is better than nothing. but unless she realizes that then she probably wont stop complaining. why don't you tell her that you are happy with the way she looks that might make her feel better because you are the man she loves and cares about most and she should listen to what you think. plz leave me feedback .. hope i helped :)

Answer 4

It sounds as though she is insecure about how YOU feel about her. If you let her know that you love her unconditionally, she will hopefully start to feel better about herself. Start putting healthier food in the house; that is a subtle start that is healthy for both of you. If she doesn't like to run (and I will admit, I don't, unless something is chasing me!), help her to find other options. Not everyone fits every fitness regime. Lastly, food is often a "comfort zone", like drugs or alcohol. You two may want to go into some counseling, to discover why weight, size and the insecurities are in play at this time. It will help both of you, and hopefully strengthen your marriage. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

Ask her detailed question about everything she has eaten and all the activity she has done each day. Then reminder her what she did the day before. Cook health meals. Talk about proper portion control. If she complains just say you thought you were helping. She will either shut up or start working on it or maybe kill you, but that is the risk you take.

Answer 6

This is not untypical womanly behaviour. It's easier to complain about it, get depressed and eat more than actually do something to change it. Losing weight is hard work, mentally and physically, and she needs to be totally committed.

Suggest she join Weightwatchers or similar club. She might need a few weight loss buddies to help spur her on.

Answer 7

You should find some sort of physical activity that you can do TOGETHER. You should also sit down and have a frank, yet tactful conversation with her. Let her know that complaining about the weight is not going to make it come off

Answer 8

she has to want to lose weight herself! are you still affectionate towards her? maybe she doesn't think you love her anymore! she surly is not motivated to lose weight! help her! maybe she is put off that you run 20 miles a week! tell her you will run with her! it will be quality time together! be very supportive of her no matter what the decision is! hope it helps......

Answer 9

That is sooo upsetting! She needs to get her a** up off the couch and work out! Sounds like she's just lazy and wants you to tell her constantly....."it's ok honey, you look great" but you know what?, it's not ok, either stop stuffing your face and workout or shut the hell up about it.

Answer 10

Tell her you love her the way she is. She will notice u appreciate her. Or get healthy with her. Eat healthy and exercises together. Start small at home do exercises there then go out.