I don't feel that my husband truly is in love with me. When I tell him something he shows no interest and just says "ok". He is not romantic anymore like candles/music he told me he stopped because their is no garuntee it will lead to making love, so he said what's the point. We are different in the intimacy area, and he told me one time that based soley on the sex in our marriage he does not know if he would ask me to marry him again. And he did say to me that even though he thinks that I am not in the mood to make love, he will go ahead with it anyway because he does not kow when the next time will be. When just walking around wether in the house or in public he will make sexual comments to me. And he's always sacrcastic with me. When i told him that i think he loves WHO i am but i don't think he's IN LOVE with me, he got defensive with me and said "Are you trying to make us get a divorce?" Why did he respond to me like this and why does he stay with me?
2007-06-28 11:30:53 · 11 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why did he respond the way he did? Did he get defensive because I spoke what he wants to deny?
2007-06-28 11:38:24 · update #1
Some men are just not romantic like that, maybe you can spice things up a bit at home or tease him a little out in public but if the candle light thing does not do anything for him don't waste your time...
2007-06-28 11:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things that can be mistaken for love, on the part of both men and women. Seek counseling, if he will not go then maybe you should. He may just be trying to say that he is a man with sexual needs and you are not meeting them and you married an ignorant man when it comes to emotional intelligents. Good Luck
2007-06-28 18:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't feel like he loves you, truly. Sounds like he is really bored and tired.
Divorce most of the time is the best solution. I don't think that people should let their relationship get to the point that one loses the respect to the other.
Agressive arguments and fights make the things worse.
So, be strong and take an action.
Do wherever you think is right to solve this matter.
God bless you.
2007-06-28 18:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not seem to know how to voice his complaints, but clearly he's disappointed at how infrequent you're having sex. Have you guys discussed this? It sounds like he's raising it this way because you haven't had a real sit-down to work it through--or he is just passive-aggressive. I wouldn't get into a chicken/egg scenario where you're holding out until he answers whether he's "in love" with you. Clearly, he is, as he asked you to marry him. The question is do you think his sexual appetite is unreasonable.
2007-06-28 18:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by smithfield 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Type in the search engine the word intimacy, check out the web sites that are about intimacy, there is one really good one, but you make your choice. There is a lot to be learned that you are not aware of, so educate yourself. You will be thankful you did. I wish you the best.
2007-06-28 19:11:19 · answer #5 · answered by bonnie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much clearer does he have to be? The man wants more sex. Either put out or you will lose him. If you aren't in the mood, then teach him to do things that will get you that way. You need to be more aggressive towards him.
2007-06-28 18:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your problem is of the sexual nature!! Your not giving him enough!! Try giving him some and be open to when he wants it and try to enjoy it!! Get sexy and approach him wanting sex!! Guy are basic give them enough sex and they act like whipped puppys!!
2007-06-28 18:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by one_redneckmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably have a nice sit down with your husband. He seems to be having some issues with your relationship. I would also suggest some marital counseling.
2007-06-28 18:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is verbally abusive and emotionally abusive. Sounds like he doesnt know what he wants but he knows what he gots. How about what you want. Have you explored this. What brought you too him? Is it because he wanted you? I would seperate and explore what it is you want. Then take it from there. Good luck.
2007-06-28 18:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur in a bad marriage for starters. if it's just about sex it's bad. get out of it!!! before he gets agressive and u get hurt.
2007-06-28 18:34:52 · answer #10 · answered by Ashes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋